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Chairs given away have caused damage, who should pay?

303 replies

FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:01

Last year I was given a dining table and due to lockdown I brought the cheapest chairs online to make the table usable. I used them all year for homeschooling, meals etc they have been well used. Metal legs are a bit rocky etc so I went shopping now we can and brought replacements.
Chatting to a friend I mentioned mutual friend was helping me take a load to the skip. Friend asked what I was taking and I said the chairs. Friend asked for the chairs. I explained they were a bit grubby and rocky and were the ones I got last year cheap online so didn't think they were worth the trip to hers for her to then need to skip them soon. She said she still wanted them, so I dropped them off to her about 3 weeks ago.

This morning she messages me to say the chairs have cut circles in the lino. I apologised and said that I was sorry I should have just skipped them when I planned to. She has come back saying I should have known and shes not happy. I called her and explained that on my tiled floor it wasn't something I noticed. Shes replied it was the tiles that have caused the plastic ends to push into the leg exposing the metal leg and caused the problem. Just as I said my goodbyes she said "well you'll need to replace the lino before I move out else you'll need to give me the money I loose on my deposit" and hung up. I've text to say she asked for the chairs knowing they were in a poor condition so I can't give her anything to replace the lino. Shes now blocked me.

So who should pay?

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BarbarianMum · 03/06/2021 10:09

Seriously? She wanted the sodding things, it's her problem.

MarcelineMissouri · 03/06/2021 10:09

YANBU, she is being completely ridiculous!

KatChocolate · 03/06/2021 10:09

My Bombay Sapphire gin glass acted like a magnifying glass and caused a few little scorch marks in a wooden table! Should I demand Asda pay for a new table for me!

Annoying but absolutely my issue (and one to be aware of, gin drinking Mnetters GinWink)

Be glad you’re now blocked, hopefully she’ll see sense soon!

Penistoe · 03/06/2021 10:10

Well she’s blocked you so problem solved. Back in the real world while she resides in crazy town!

2ndtimemum2 · 03/06/2021 10:10

Definitely not you problem!!! however somewhere in the far corners of mumsnet there is someone concocting a mad notion that somehow makes it your fault Grin .

ChocOrange1 · 03/06/2021 10:11

You are definitely not responsible. You didn't even want to give her the chairs and definitely gave her fair warning!

Grellbunt · 03/06/2021 10:11

Woah!!!

lobsteroll · 03/06/2021 10:13

She's lost the plot! 🤣🤣🤣

notapizzaeater · 03/06/2021 10:13

It amazes me how bloody cheeky some people are - glad she's blocked you, one less CF to deal with

lobsteroll · 03/06/2021 10:13

I can't believe people like her actually have friends! What a lunatic

Smartiepants79 · 03/06/2021 10:13

Ha! Is she having a laugh! On what planet is this your problem. She took (for free) chairs that you’d warned her were a bit crap and now she wants you to pay for damage that you didn’t cause and is bugger all to do with you?
She can jog on!

Justanticipating · 03/06/2021 10:15

Brilliant.

Also I don't understand the whole block mentality in people, if she wanted the money why would she block you, you could be trying to get in touch to say you'll pay. Bonkers and good riddance.

MistyFrequencies · 03/06/2021 10:15

Yeah she's a nutcase. That's unbelievable cheeky fuckery.

LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 03/06/2021 10:16

She’s bonkers.

Atalantea · 03/06/2021 10:17

nope - not happening - you told her they were being thrown away, she asked for them

User629202 · 03/06/2021 10:17

Absolutely not your problem or responsibility - she’s being very cheeky.

ThePlantsitter · 03/06/2021 10:17

The fact that she insisted on having the chairs and is now panicking about the deposit suggests she's really skint. She's being really unreasonable and you shouldn't pay of course but don't be too hard on her in the 'CF how dare she' vein. Especially if she's an actual friend not just an acquaintance.

AlmostSummer21 · 03/06/2021 10:18

There's a sandwich somewhere looking for the picnic!

She was given fair warning that they were knackered, more than once!!! Even if she hadn't been, it was still her lookout! Daft bint!

Give it no more head space!!

FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:18

Her absolute outrage at "my" chairs causing damage and then blocking me caused me to wonder if in someway I was responsible. One of those so weird of a situations I needed to check I wasn't actually completely in the wrong.

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Sparklesocks · 03/06/2021 10:19

She’s trying her luck.
You were trying to chuck them out, she asked for them rather than you trying to palm them off on her, you warned her that they weren’t in good condition and she insisted anyway. None of your responsibility.

TailFeatherz · 03/06/2021 10:20

She sounds like a nutter. As an adult it's down to her to make a decision on whether the chairs are suitable or not

If I buy a used car and it drops oil on my block paving a few weeks later I don't go back to the seller and try and bill them

She needs blocking

Killahangilion · 03/06/2021 10:22

Wow, she’s the biggest Cheeky Fucker out there!

She’s so far removed from what a real friend is, I’d block her and forget she ever existed.

insancerre · 03/06/2021 10:22

At the point when you gave her the chairs they became hers and not yours
You owe her nothing
And she owes you an apology

FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:22

We are both completely skint but help each other out, not anymore, can't risk being asked for money for anything like this happening again.

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RedSquirrelsAreAwesome · 03/06/2021 10:22

Totally batshit response from so called friend.
She should know how delicate lino can be and put something on the bottom of each of the chair legs.
We have a laminate floor and know how easily scratched it can be so we do this with any furniture.
Her problem, you are no way responsible and YANBU.