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Chairs given away have caused damage, who should pay?

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FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:01

Last year I was given a dining table and due to lockdown I brought the cheapest chairs online to make the table usable. I used them all year for homeschooling, meals etc they have been well used. Metal legs are a bit rocky etc so I went shopping now we can and brought replacements.
Chatting to a friend I mentioned mutual friend was helping me take a load to the skip. Friend asked what I was taking and I said the chairs. Friend asked for the chairs. I explained they were a bit grubby and rocky and were the ones I got last year cheap online so didn't think they were worth the trip to hers for her to then need to skip them soon. She said she still wanted them, so I dropped them off to her about 3 weeks ago.

This morning she messages me to say the chairs have cut circles in the lino. I apologised and said that I was sorry I should have just skipped them when I planned to. She has come back saying I should have known and shes not happy. I called her and explained that on my tiled floor it wasn't something I noticed. Shes replied it was the tiles that have caused the plastic ends to push into the leg exposing the metal leg and caused the problem. Just as I said my goodbyes she said "well you'll need to replace the lino before I move out else you'll need to give me the money I loose on my deposit" and hung up. I've text to say she asked for the chairs knowing they were in a poor condition so I can't give her anything to replace the lino. Shes now blocked me.

So who should pay?

OP posts:
ilikemethewayiam · 04/06/2021 18:58

@QioiioiioQ

I apologised and said that I was sorry That was your first mistake you should have just said oh and changed the subject
Totally this!

Why on earth did you apologise? That assumes some responsibility!

I would have reminded her that they were junk due for the the skip and SHE insisted on having them. I would have been so offended by her CF’ery that I would have told her straight and then probably blocked HER!

peppermintpat · 04/06/2021 19:05

Your ex friend sounds like the sort of customer I used to get where I worked, who would drop a bottle of wine out in the car park while loading their car and come back in the store demanding a replacement (for free of course which they used to get as the manager had no balls!).

FortniteBoysMum · 04/06/2021 19:06

So she asked for something you said was in poor condition and that item caused damage because it was how you said. What's more the item did not cost her a penny and she should have checked it over when she received it. You don't go round asking for things for free then expecting the person gifting it to pay up because you didn't check it over. Its her problem not yours.

Buffs · 04/06/2021 19:08

She should pay

user7891011 · 04/06/2021 19:12

She's insane

Rollmopsrule · 04/06/2021 19:18

Definitely not you. Ignore her.

csigeek · 04/06/2021 19:18

If I had lino in a rented place the first thing I’d check on second hand (or even new!) anything would be if the legs were protected! She’s a dick

CrankyFrankie · 04/06/2021 19:19

Wow! How did you not already know she’s a cheeky cunt!?

Diwoo · 04/06/2021 19:20

Had she perhaps already damaged the lino, that she's now trying to "frame" you for, so you feel guilty and pay?

PuntasticUsername · 04/06/2021 19:21

Ouch. I mean, I feel sorry for her. Things must be pretty tight for her to be a) skip-diving for dodgy old chairs (no offence op) and b) panicking so hard about the unexpected lino bill that she's lashing out at you this way.

Unfortunately, none of that changes the fact that you aren't responsible for the damage. You warned her about the condition of the chairs. It's on her.

midsomermurderess · 04/06/2021 19:23

Not you. You gave her a heads up as to their condition, she had a chance to check them. What a chancer.

pam290358 · 04/06/2021 19:27

Bye bye darling, nice (not) to have known you. She knew they weren’t in good condition when she asked (insisted) you to let her have them. To behave like this is taking CF to new levels. Tell her to get stuffed and block her !!

blisstwins · 04/06/2021 19:35

OMG she is out of control.

MagicSummer · 04/06/2021 19:38

One she said 'loose' rather than 'lose' I would have terminated all communication.

FeeLock · 04/06/2021 19:43

Step 1: How is 'friend' going to get the money out of your account?

Step 2: Drink wine (non-alcholic beverages are also available).

mumwon · 04/06/2021 19:44

which is why in days gone by we had little chair "cups" or felt under chairs - & if she didn't pay you anything -

hoxtonbabe · 04/06/2021 19:46

I don’t know how anyone sane could think taking chairs heading to the skip, as well as being told they were wobbly would even remotely think the responsibility is down to the person they got it from to cover any damages the chair may cause. Even if it wasn’t heading for the skip and was in decent condition it’s still cheeky F**kery to the highest to expect compensation.

If anyone took anything off me that was bound for the skip and they even hinted that I should pay, they would get the blasting of their life for simply having the audacity to even say that to me... the blooming cheek of it!

winterchills · 04/06/2021 19:55

🤣🤣cheeky cow!!

JudgeJ · 04/06/2021 20:04

@1forAll74

She hasn't got a leg to stand on now.. The cheek of her !
Or a chair to sit on!
Barmychick · 04/06/2021 20:07

God loves a trier (apparently) 😂

DingDongThongs · 04/06/2021 20:24

@CoffeeWithMyOxygen

Good grief your (ex) friend is a cheeky fucker! Not your fault or your problem.
this.

how big is she?

SlightlyJaded · 04/06/2021 20:41

Honestly?

It's a shame she's blocked you. It's so mental that I'd be tempted to play her at her own game of utter madness.

"Hi. Just to remind you that you owe me four chairs for when I get my other new table in July - as obviously you took my other ones. Not fussed about colour, but can you please make sure that you also get me some felt pads as we are changing our tiles to lino. Thanks
".

Scotland32 · 04/06/2021 20:45

Unbelievable. She sounds nuts

CathyorClaire · 04/06/2021 20:46

No good deed goes unpunished, OP.

Friend has more neck than a giraffe. Thankfully she's blocked you and saved you the trouble of doing it yourself. Don't get unblocked.

Dasher789 · 04/06/2021 20:51

What on earth?! You should definitely not pay.

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