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Chairs given away have caused damage, who should pay?

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FirstNameSurname · 03/06/2021 10:01

Last year I was given a dining table and due to lockdown I brought the cheapest chairs online to make the table usable. I used them all year for homeschooling, meals etc they have been well used. Metal legs are a bit rocky etc so I went shopping now we can and brought replacements.
Chatting to a friend I mentioned mutual friend was helping me take a load to the skip. Friend asked what I was taking and I said the chairs. Friend asked for the chairs. I explained they were a bit grubby and rocky and were the ones I got last year cheap online so didn't think they were worth the trip to hers for her to then need to skip them soon. She said she still wanted them, so I dropped them off to her about 3 weeks ago.

This morning she messages me to say the chairs have cut circles in the lino. I apologised and said that I was sorry I should have just skipped them when I planned to. She has come back saying I should have known and shes not happy. I called her and explained that on my tiled floor it wasn't something I noticed. Shes replied it was the tiles that have caused the plastic ends to push into the leg exposing the metal leg and caused the problem. Just as I said my goodbyes she said "well you'll need to replace the lino before I move out else you'll need to give me the money I loose on my deposit" and hung up. I've text to say she asked for the chairs knowing they were in a poor condition so I can't give her anything to replace the lino. Shes now blocked me.

So who should pay?

OP posts:
Redwise10D · 04/06/2021 17:53

Falls under the categories of "Not Your Problem" and "Too Bad Rule"

supersop60 · 04/06/2021 17:57

She asked for the chairs. She should have checked them over beforehand. The onus is totally on her.
Absolutely not the OP's problem.

MargotsBumpyNight · 04/06/2021 17:58

Sounds like the trash has taken itself out.. And I definitely don't mean the chairs.

Mamanyt · 04/06/2021 17:58

You planned to dispose of the chairs. She wanted them. You warned her that they were not ideal, and there were problems. She wanted them anyway. YOU did as you should have done. Her problem.

Middersweekly · 04/06/2021 18:00

Absolute CF she is! She wanted some free chairs. Down to her to check the condition of them for usage in her own property! What a knob!

Spunout · 04/06/2021 18:02

Yeah,she's trying it on,bonkers indeed.

Patapouf · 04/06/2021 18:07

Hahaha she was grabby to take your knackered old chairs and she's got a cheek expecting you to do anything about her shit lino.

Bertiebiscuit · 04/06/2021 18:11

Not your problem - ignore her but keep a record of all her communications with you - if she keeps on you could report her for harassment

chaosrabbitland · 04/06/2021 18:14

shes blocked you and thats a bonus id bloody say ! if she unblocks you and starts on again id be telling her to fuck right off , she was warned and insisted she still wanted them so any thing thats gone wrong is on her , she wasnt sold them on ebay or summit , they were going to the skip and she asked for them .

AnnieSnap · 04/06/2021 18:14

Absolutely it’s on her. She wanted them. You told her they were past their best and said you wanted to skip them. She should have noticed herself what was happening to her floor.

As others have said, not your problem.

spacegirl123 · 04/06/2021 18:20

Eh, fuck no. You won't be paying anyway! Imagine having the nerve lol

spacegirl123 · 04/06/2021 18:23

OK what's a CF please, is it what I think it is (rude)

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 04/06/2021 18:29

That’s the one! Grin

Colstina · 04/06/2021 18:29

Deffo not your issue! What a cheek asking you for to pay , sounds like she always wants something for nothing to me .

munchkinman · 04/06/2021 18:31

That’s her issue not yours x

ChubbyMsSunshine · 04/06/2021 18:36

Total CF. Absolutely not your problem. If she's blocked you, I doubt she's going to come back to try and get money from you.

Sydendad · 04/06/2021 18:36

Don't know why you have any doubts.
A: loose the friend
B: be happy she blocked you
C: don't pay a penny or even discuss paying.
As a side note you should have never said you were sorry as you have nothing to be sorry about.

thenovice · 04/06/2021 18:38

She should pay. Absolutely not your problem. How is she your friend?

Ddot · 04/06/2021 18:38

Not your fault but it's a shame about the floor. I personally think she is being unreasonable and a little bat shit crazy

Boomisshiss · 04/06/2021 18:40

In what world does she live that she thinks you should pay . She is crazy

Rainbowgravy · 04/06/2021 18:47

She should pay! how cheeky is she?

Sithee · 04/06/2021 18:47

I think she’s annoyed at herself for damaging the floor and lashing out at you as an easy target.

You are 100% in the right here. If she comes to her senses and tries to apologize, I recommend you tell her do one. She’s shown her true colours now. You don’t need a “friend” like that.

Itgetsthehoseagain · 04/06/2021 18:47

She should! She's a CF for even thinking about making you feel bad for this. At least she's blocked you, so that's saved you a job.

Bangolads · 04/06/2021 18:48

Wow- what a horrendous and entitled individual!! Definitely not your problem.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 04/06/2021 18:55

She should... and then learn from her mistake.

There's not a Latin equivalent of caveat emptor for freeloaders, but that's what's needed here.