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What would you do? Am I being unreasonable?

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123KLB · 03/06/2021 09:06

My MIL bought both my daughters these Silver charm Bracelets when they were born. Theyre quite bulky and old fashioned. She keeps buying another charm to add to them every so often. The problem is, personally, I absolutely hate charm bracelets. I do not think they look nice. I’m a very “delicate” kind if Jewellery kind of person. My daughters are only little and too young to wear jewellery yet anyway but my MIL keeps banging on about them all the time..because she has one and she wanted them to have the same.
I realise she has bought them something “special” or she thinks is special but I really get a bit wound up by it. ( bit of extra info- she is a very opinionated, narcissistic lady who never ever listens to anyone, and is very eccentric. She is quite rude and even my husband gets cross and wound up with her alot).
Is it unreasonable of me to have expected my MIL to have run by us what jewellery she was going to buy? I find jewellery a very personal choice. If I ever have grandchildren I know I wouldnt buy them Jewellery without asking my daughters first. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because my husband thinks i am being ungrateful on this one. I am grateful for the thought...but they are such Ugly bracelets I dont want my girls to ever wear them. I think as well its because they’re like the one she wears and so its so full of importance to HER,( she loves to try and tell me that my children have HER hair colour, HER curly hair, HER flare for singing or acting and that SHE is going to tutor my children in amateur dramatics one day😩). Am I being just weird about the bracelets or does anyone else think its something she should have asked me about first?

OP posts:
HoppingPavlova · 05/06/2021 02:45

I choose what is suitable for them to watch on tv, I choose their clothes from the shops, what they can eat, where they can go....at the age of 3 and 5 I am such a terrible parent “controlling“ what they do

Newsflash. This doesn’t last forever. Give them a few years and they will be telling you what they want to wear and what you have got them that they refuse to wear as it is not to their taste. Their taste will differ to your taste unless you have some weird Borg setup. They will also start and eat some stuff that will make your toes curl. Their taste in tv programs will likely be different to yours. We have different tv’s in different rooms as stuffed if I’m watching MAFS/BB or similar. And as they develop their own style their personal taste in jewellery may mean they look at anything you have purchased and cringe and look at MIL bracelet and think it’s the best thing ever, they may like your stuff or they may like neither and prefer something completely different to both again. You might be able to control your children’s tastes and ‘style’ now but that’s not going to last, you can’t control this forever.

BlueButtercups · 05/06/2021 02:59

Newsflash. This doesn’t last forever.

OP never claimed this would last forever. It was the here and now she was concerned with, she also concedes they will choose whether to wear or not wear the charm bracelets too, when they are old enough to decide. 🌸

londonscalling · 05/06/2021 14:06

Pick your fights. Let the girls wear them when they go to her house. With any luck they may lose them!

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