Help! How much to give as wedding present?

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Hi all,

Husband is attending his brothers wedding on Saturday and we are unsure how much to give? What would you give to your brother for wedding day? They also have baby on the way.

We were think £200, but husband is a high earner £70000 and he’s worried it will look abit tight. We are currently a bit tied up with money as we have just renovated and do not have a lot of spare money.

Also, as to not drip feed, all siblings are very high earners so will more than likely be very generous.

Many thanks in advance :)

Yanbu-£200 fine.
YABU- you’d give more.

I never gift cash and wouldn’t spend no where near that on a wedding gift. I’d buy something personal that you know they would like.

I also wouldn’t spend anything like that (and earn sig more than £70k).

£50

Wouldnt give cash.

I think £200 for a brother is perfectly fine.

I usually gift £50.

But I've not yet attending a siblings wedding, so I may need to revise that amount when it happens.

We dont have a particularly high income - I've joked to DH that we gift my sister and her fiancee the joy of us performing The Routine (Friends) at their wedding

£500 for brother. Im from NI and on a similar salary

For a brother I would try to cover the cost of my meal and buy a little gift to keep. So £200 sounds about right for 2 people. But I don't drink.

I wouldn’t give cash either. I would presume if the couple are high earners, that a thoughtful gift would mean more than cash.

Cash is fairly normal these days if they haven’t said they want anything specific. I think £200 is very generous and they will be grateful for it.

I think £200 is generous but if you're unsure could you speak to your siblings and all agree an amount?

If they are all high earners op,why are you giving cash?
A thoughtful gift would be better?

Thanks all for replies so far.

They
have a gift registry and husband has chosen 2 gifts from that but they are not high earners and have asked for contributions towards a improvement project they want to start (only if anybody would like to contribute).

They are a lovely couple and I would hate for them to think we were being less than generous.

Thank you for all replies, I am still weighing them up and reading out to husband!

Sorry typing one handed, trying to multitask.

I think if £200 is what you can afford then it is very generous and they will be very happy

£200 for family is a good amount OP.

My brother gave us €250(Ireland)
My sister didn't give us anything
One SIL gave us €150 the other gave us €300.
Hope that helps.

I spent about £200/£250 on each siblings wedding too. One for a gift, the other I made up a honeymoon hamper and added some vouchers for nice meal, spa treatment and take away on their return.

£500-1000 for a brother

I think we would give £50 for friends but not been to wedding in ages. I think we gave BIL £100 honeymoon funds couple of years ago.

I think if they're not high earners then they will think £200 is a decent amount.

I would forget gift registry & put all money into cash gift plus maybe bottle of champagne?

£500 for a sibling.....and I'm not a big earner. I'd rather overtime than look tight. It's a one-off gift

We have given £30 at cousins and friends weddings. Nothing to do with dh wage but he earns more than the recipients. We felt that was fine.

500 -100?
Fucking hell. My brother got a 100 and a kindle😂😂😂

Yanbu 200 is absolutely fine.

£300 for my brother. I'm on a £25K salary so not a high earner. I'm also on maternity leave. I put away money monthly towards his gift.

We didn't receive anything from our 3 (total) siblings.
£200 is generous.