Is DS bu or DP?

[Perdipl]

When DS1 (16) got up today he started arguing with me because DS2 (8) was eating cereal that apparently he wanted (DS1 never eats breakfast btw so I didn't know this). He then told me to fuck off and went to his room, DP then went to talk to him and DS told him that his girlfriend broke up with him and he wanted to be left alone, so we did.

This afternoon DS2 was playing swingball in the garden and DS1 then came downstairs and hit the ball quite hard and it hit DS2.

DS1 said it was his own fault and that he should've hit the ball. DP took DS1s phone off of him as a punishment, DS1 then pushed him and told him to fuck off and that he isn't his real dad (he isn't but he doesn't see his biological dad and he's raised DS1 since he was 4). DP then pushed him back (not forcefully) and told him to grow up and stop acting like a spoilt brat.

DS1 thinks DP was wrong to push him etc but who was BU?

@TimeForTeaAndG

So your 16yo son can argue with you,tell you to fuck off. Hit his 8yo brother with a swing ball. Tell his step dad to fuck off and shove him but when he gets a shove back he cries foul?!

Tell him if he tried that anywhere else he'd risk a proper hiding from the other person and to pack it in.

Being broken up with is not an excuse to be a dickhead, tell him to go out on some crappy music and silk like the rest of us do for a couple of days.

This 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

A teenage strop is addressed in a reasonable way by someone in loco parentis. Good to hear that the behaviour wasn’t ignored.