I fucking hate where we live and don't know what to do

[PorkAPoe]

I'm so upset, I fucking hate where we live.

We only bought the house in November and I just don't think moving now would be a possibility. There are jobs half done that we'd need to finish before selling which will take time to save up for.

I feel like crying every day.

It's because of our neighbours in the main. They are horrible and if I'd have seen them / heard them when we viewed I'd have not thought for a second about buying this house.

I'm terrified that we'll never get rid of the thing because of them.

So pleased for you Op.

Can you rent it out, and then rent somewhere else yourself?

Whoop!

That's great op. I would plant fast growing hedge and let it grow very tall

Really pleased for you op.

I've got a similar problem but mine is social housing and the neighbours are owners.

They're awful, and unfortunately have been looked into by my council.
Therefore there's a complaint marker on my home, and I can't say do a house swap.

Stuffed.

Well pleased for you, have a relaxing summer!!

Sell it as it is. Escape while you can. That sounds awful

Fantastic news! I was about to share my daughters nightmare neighbour story when I saw your post today. Am so so happy for you. Are you going to stay now and enjoy your home? Xxx

@Lilibet2022

The two women who came round clearly thought I was the problem, even though it was me who made the complaint

@Tzimi you must have had the same area manager as me. I distinctly remember showing mine the drugs cannisters that were being thrown over into our yard yet somehow I got told off for something completely unrelated.

It's just a tactic to try & distract us & stop us making the complaint, as they don't want or know how to deal with it. Either that, or they know the other parties so they don't want to get them in trouble.

It's just a tactic to try & distract us & stop us making the complaint, as they don't want or know how to deal with it. Either that, or they know the other parties so they don't want to get them in trouble.

@Tzimi I'm convinced of this too. There building a development a stones throwaway from here at the moment and I'm sure that factors into their decision to not send a unit down when asb is reported. I think you're right on the latter that they must know them because my nightmare neighbours miraculously got to Foster DCs she's always screaming at and keeping up late with her parties and coked up mates none of which she'd be allowed to do if the lady who came out had noted the drugs. She probably assumed they were mine. I've never so much as smoked in my life never mind done any recreational drugs.

Great news PorkAPoe in time for nice weather too! :)

So happy for your OP - and good luck to the new, poor unfortunate neighbours of the nightmare yobs, whenever they have moved!

Congratulations! Do you have any new neighbours yet?

Oh congatulations OP, what a relief. Similar neighbours hounded me out of my first home and I was really feeling for you.

I imagine the relief you feel will be immense!

I hope your house can now become your home and you enjoy your garden.

@Lilibet2022

It's just a tactic to try & distract us & stop us making the complaint, as they don't want or know how to deal with it. Either that, or they know the other parties so they don't want to get them in trouble.

@Tzimi I'm convinced of this too. There building a development a stones throwaway from here at the moment and I'm sure that factors into their decision to not send a unit down when asb is reported. I think you're right on the latter that they must know them because my nightmare neighbours miraculously got to Foster DCs she's always screaming at and keeping up late with her parties and coked up mates none of which she'd be allowed to do if the lady who came out had noted the drugs. She probably assumed they were mine. I've never so much as smoked in my life never mind done any recreational drugs.

It really makes me angry, because that's what the ASBO people are supposed to be there for. They are just a waste of money if they won't or can't do anything. Environmental Health aren't much better. One of their officers actually sat with me in my sitting room while the guy upstairs was playing his saxophone at full blast, and agreed it was far too loud. But could they do anything? Of course not. Furthermore, none of my neighbours seemed to want to back me up, possibly due to fear of reprisals? Anyway, I've sold that flat now, so someone else is no doubt getting the benefits of all the lovely neighbours.

possibly due to fear of reprisals?

@Tzimi I used to think the other neighbours not saying anything was due to fear of reprisals but now I just think it's an act of self preservation. I've started to think it's because they want to sell themselves at some point so don't want a marker against the address that they have to declare. There is a huge waiting list for the social housing here and they'd normally bite your hand off for it. On the exchange pages here everyone says 'AB1 but NOT x area please'. It's reputation goes before it and not in a good way. So I'm not sure how keeping quiet so you can still sell your house on when you want to will suddenly make all these social housing tenants wanting to exchange disappear.

Sorry that wasn't directed at you @Tzimi I was just trying to explain that I think the ones here keep quiet so they can still sell their home without question when they're ready but as the asbo family is still here because no one has clubbed together to get them out any potential buyers will start having alarm bells ring when they do visits anyway. What's started to irk me is when the other neighbours complain to me did you hear the noise last night? I've just started responding with "did you ring 101?". If they're not prepared to do anything either they cant complain when it's their DCs trying to revise for exams and still having to deal with the noise that will still be there.

Woohoo! Omg so happy for you. Love it when these unexpected awesome things happen. Please tell us what you did to celebrate

@Lilibet2022

possibly due to fear of reprisals?

@Tzimi I used to think the other neighbours not saying anything was due to fear of reprisals but now I just think it's an act of self preservation. I've started to think it's because they want to sell themselves at some point so don't want a marker against the address that they have to declare. There is a huge waiting list for the social housing here and they'd normally bite your hand off for it. On the exchange pages here everyone says 'AB1 but NOT x area please'. It's reputation goes before it and not in a good way. So I'm not sure how keeping quiet so you can still sell your house on when you want to will suddenly make all these social housing tenants wanting to exchange disappear.

My area was mixed Council & private ownership, but most of my immediate neighbours were Council tenants, so they weren't worried about selling. I did speak to my next-door neighbour (on the opposite side from the drug dealers), but he actually told me he didn't want any trouble from the drug dealers, so that's why he didn't complain. Funny that he had no qualms about complaining to the police about me parking my van on the grassy verge outside! I did go to mediation with my upstairs neighbour about the noise, and the agreement was that he would install sound insulation if I installed a fence between our gardens to stop his jungle creeping into my garden. I put up the fence, but he wouldn't tell me if he had done anything about the insulation! So I guess he never stuck to his side of the bargain. As regards declaring these problems, I didn't declare anything when I sold it. I didn't see the point of making things more difficult for myself. I'm guessing there was nothing about any of this in the sale pack from the Council either.