Do you regret not having had sex with more people?

[BrilliantBetty]

I feel that I should have experimented a bit more in my youth.

I married my first long term boyfriend.

I find myself daydreaming about situations that happened when I was at Uni or similar, when I could (should!) have slept with someone else but didn't and feeling a sense of missed opportunity. I guess it's curiosity to some extent. At the time I had the idea that not having slept with multiple people was desirable? Not sure why now.

So not really an AIBU, I guess I'm just interested to know if other people sometimes feel this way?

Nope but I have a fairly high number, which I also don’t regret.

Hmm I've been with 15-20 people so I experimented a decent amount. Tbh sex is so much better when it's with someone you care about. I was/am my husband's first relationship though (he slept with one girl one time before me) so I worry he will regret it one day.

I think you should trust your younger self OP. There was a reason you didn't sleep with that person and it was probably sound.

For myself, I had a medium amount of sex (maybe 15 guys), some fun, some weird, and looking back it doesn't matter to me much at all. Not really sure why you would wish to have sex in the past? It's present or nothing for me

I was quite the hussy in my youth ,now 40s out of a 20 year marriage and am looking forward to becoming a hussy again 😁

I wish I’d married my boyfriend from when I was 18 and slept with no-one else! So I would’ve been happy with just 2.

@Inthesameboatatmo

I was quite the hussy in my youth ,now 40s out of a 20 year marriage and am looking forward to becoming a hussy again 😁

Do it

Nope, but I had a lot of fun so don’t have that particular regret, nor do I regret the number of men or any of the experiences (even the slightly lacklustre or disappointing ones taught me about what I did and didn’t want & if it was a bit underwhelming then I didn’t go back for more, just chalked it up to experience!).

I totally disagree with pp’s about needing to be in love, I had some amazing sex with men who were just about pure lust & physical attraction but with whom I had no interest in anything more. I’ve also had incredible sex within relationships with men I love/d. It’s different with someone you love obviously but that doesn’t take away the fact it can be pretty mind-blowing even if you aren’t, particularly when you’re young & have all the beauty & confidence (& abs & time & freedom..) of those formative years. It’s one part of life where I’m quite happy with the choices I made (definitely does not apply to all life decisions!).

Nope. Number is low, it's good with DH, no regrets. It's better with someone you love.

@Babbly

Yeah - mainly Henry Cavill and Leonardo DiCaprio though.

Im with you on Henry.

DH is number 15 and I don’t really have any regrets but I did have the opportunity to join a threesome when I was 22 and sometimes my mind does wander and I wish I’d said yes

No cos I slept with lots of people! - always lively, sometimes lovely

No, can't complain about any of my sex life, ever.
No regrets.

Slept with plenty men and women. No regrets.

No but because I slept with loads of people. Went to crazy sex parties like Torture Garden and Killing Kittens. Had a whale of a time. Felt so sexy and really enjoyed my youthful looks and body.

Now live in the middle of nowhere with DH, kids etc. Have a fab life and fab sex life but I do enjoy daydreaming and remembering my crazy London days. Gets misty eyed

No regrets here.

I've slept with some amazing men, some terrible ones and some well, I can't remember but they all come with their own memories of my youth which is great 😊

Now married 20 years and it seems like another life!

No regrets but if I had a do over my number would be less and I wouldn't have slept with the girls/women I was friends with beforehand.

I've had a wonderful romantic and sexual life. Which is a miracle when you consider I was sexually abused from 13 to 15, so my 'firsts' were dreadful and my whole view of sex skewed. But I survived and I flourished. So grateful.

I wish I had slept with more women before marrying DH.

I was too afraid of what it would mean for who I was, my identity … which was clearly a navel gazing twat

I've slept with 4 people including DH (he was obviously the last) and I've had the best sex with him. All the others I had no clue what I was doing and they weren't particularly nice people. I sometimes wish I'd had more 'knowledgeable' sex!

No I don't. My only ever partner was my late DH who was my first and only boyfriend.

I met DP at 19, but I had racked up a fair number before him, so no regrets

There were many: friends, boyfriends, one night stands. Brilliant fun. All so different. How I used to juggle it all is beyond me - there were times when I had three different relationships on the go at the same time. I literally was busy nearly every night in my 20s.

No. I had no intention of sleeping with lots of people.

I was a bit scared of sex and only ever had it with one person , my dh.
I wished I had been less uptight and laid back , but I wasn't and I have never been that bothered about it.
Dh a few partners when he was younger which used to bother me a bit , but I was young and naive back then!
People think it's odd to only ever have one partner though.

Yes, apart from my husband I have only had sex with one other guy. In my late 20s. In a sexless marriage now and doing a lot of soul searching. Been thinking a lot about missed opportunities in that department. My parents were weird about sex and the message was not to do it. So I spent most of my younger years scared of trying it despite having quite a curious nature and a bit of a dirty mind. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever do it again.