Do you regret not having had sex with more people?

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I feel that I should have experimented a bit more in my youth.

I married my first long term boyfriend.

I find myself daydreaming about situations that happened when I was at Uni or similar, when I could (should!) have slept with someone else but didn't and feeling a sense of missed opportunity. I guess it's curiosity to some extent. At the time I had the idea that not having slept with multiple people was desirable? Not sure why now.

So not really an AIBU, I guess I'm just interested to know if other people sometimes feel this way?

No, my number isn't huge if anything over 80% of them was useless, I don't think I'm in a minority 3 were great. Don't fret you haven't missed out.

I've never had sex with anyone who wasn't in love with me. I don't know what that would be like. I'm inclined to think not very good.

Exactly what the others said, sleeping around won’t make you happy, I definitely slept with people I wish I hadn’t or wouldn’t have It’s not a nice experience!

Regret not having more GOOD sex. Would rate quality as being more important than quantity...

No. I’m very happy I kept sex to the small number of serious relationships in my lifetime.

Yes agree with @batleytownswomensguild
Oh well

Slight regret about being "very sensible" with one bf. We knew we would go our separate ways because.....

Yes I do. I regret not being more confident and that catholic girl guilt that nice girls don't.

I dream now of being more sexually active but reality is I'm too lazy and old now.

I've been in 4 relationships since I was 15. I got married at 23 and had 4 kids. I don't regret not shagging about because I intend to be shagging whoever I want now. I'm single and my kids are in there teens and twenties. In fact what am I doing on Mumsnet? I'm in my early 40s, I should be looking for a bit of fun

No I wish it had been less. It did me no favours, a lot of it wasn’t fun and I was taken advantage of a lot. The bright side is I’m more appreciative of my partner and our relationship now and I know that I’m not missing out on anything elsewhere.

@Whywonttheyhelpme I could have written your post.

Yes and no. I was a bit promiscuous in my uni days before meeting DH (we've been together 20 years since I was 21). I think it's more a case of I wish I had just been more confident and forward with lads I fancied instead of waiting for them to approach me first. By the time I reached 21, I started being a lot more forward and I enjoyed it. But then I met DH.

That being said, I do prefer sex within a trusting relationship where you can be a lot more open and adventurous with each other.

No, I would never have had sex with someone unless I felt a deep connection.

Absolutely. I have actually spoken to my husband about this and we are very open, should the opportunity arise, for me to explore with others. We met at 16. I married him. He’s had lots more experience

Yes
3 is my number.
I regret not having sex with at least 3 others.
My first was more because I wanted to get it over with and he adored me. It was shit and made him more clingy.

Catholic guilt- not something I want to pass onto my kids

I don't wish I'd had more sex - I've had plenty, with many partners.

I do sometimes regret the boyfriends I didn't have - when I look back on some of the men I had real chemistry with and was too inept, or lacking in confidence, to act on it. Probably they were too, though one or two of them made it really clear they liked me and I still couldn't take the leap, even though I really liked them.

There were some lovely boys I missed out on.

I think I’ve slept with about 25 people and am not fussed about the number itself but do wish I’d had more self esteem when I was in my early 20s. At the time I considered sleeping with someone to be a bit of an emotional boost, but look back now and realise it wasn’t healthy.

If I was single nowadays I’d be happy with more partners, but would approach it all very differently!

Yes. I have only slept with my DP and do wish I would have had more fun in my teens and twenties

Not in terms of numbers because there have been plenty. But I wish so much I'd have had more confidence and self esteem so I could properly have enjoyed it and experimented.

I had quite a lot of fun in my early 20s; I don’t regret that my “number” is relatively high and it means that I don’t worry about what I’m missing out on now that I’m married.

To a point. It's not the sex so much as the confidence; I would have had so many more experiences and enjoyment in my younger years (including sex) had it not taken me soooooo long to come out of my shell. That I regret.

In my mid-thirties and I haven't 'settled down' yet. My number is quite high I think. I would have regretted getting married if I had, and I don't intend to either, unless I meet someone utterly indescribably incredible! I think I've been very careful about who I've chosen to have sex with (and lucky); they have almost all been very positive experiences.

My number is 9 and I’ve been with my hubby since I was 19. He’s the only person I had decent sex with anyway!

I wish I had slept with a woman, I did experiment lots but never slept with a woman properly. I am bi but I am in a ltr with a man I love so wouldn't do it now. Just would have liked to know what it was like!