Do you regret not having had sex with more people?

[BrilliantBetty]

I feel that I should have experimented a bit more in my youth.

I married my first long term boyfriend.

I find myself daydreaming about situations that happened when I was at Uni or similar, when I could (should!) have slept with someone else but didn't and feeling a sense of missed opportunity. I guess it's curiosity to some extent. At the time I had the idea that not having slept with multiple people was desirable? Not sure why now.

So not really an AIBU, I guess I'm just interested to know if other people sometimes feel this way?

Quality beats quantity, every time. And DH was “simply the best”.

It's not so much a case of more people, but looking bad it would have been nice to have more good sex. For a variety of reasons it gets much more difficult as you get older.

Advice for those of you in 20s/30s/40s: Have as much good sex as you can. Make time for it. Enjoy it. I had some, and looking back now I wish I had more.

I had lots of long term boyfriends but have only ever had full sex with my husband. I don't regret it at all.

Love the thrill of the chase, the conquest, all of it. Sometimes the sex is disappointing but I'm a fan of the 'zipless fuck'. No need for relationships just to have a shag. Currently in a ltr though so it's a bit annoying. Haven't cheated and we're also long distance so I'm doing well. I have quite a male attitude towards sex and need to sleep with another woman at some time as I've not yet. I'm in triple figures when it comes to sex partners. Always would have more though.

No. I slept with loads of people when I was young. Lots of one night stands and brief romances.
Since the age of 25 have been in two long term, totally monogamous relationships. I think its much easier to be faithful if you've already done all the experimenting you want to (and once your hormones have calmed down a bit).

Wish for more people? No, not really.

Wish I had more sex when younger...Yes. It is something I daydream a bit about.

@LunaNorth

Ditto

No, I’m happy with my number (six - four partners including DH and two ONSs).

No, I had lots of fun, including a threesome etc.
Just out of a 15yr relationship & hoping that 40 really is the new 30!

I massively, massively regret not having sex with men who I fancied. I stuck with a nice man who I didn't really fancy because I was scared I'd never do any better and I'd regret leaving him. Now 16 years on I'm eaten up with regret, particularly about one man I had a real chemistry with but was too scared to pursue anything. I hate that I'm in my 40s and I've never been in love or shagged someone I was crazy about.

@MarrymeTomHardy

No, I had lots of fun, including a threesome etc. Just out of a 15yr relationship & hoping that 40 really is the new 30!

Omg congrats on the new-found singledom, reckon post lockdown will be a good time for it!! 40 is definitely the new 30.

I had sex with loooooooads of men. Both longterm, medium term, fun times and one nighters. It was great. Yes, I would regret it if I hadn't.

ValancyRedfern sorry to hear that. Is it too late? You said you are in your forties so not particularly old at all.

I really miss the casual sex I had in my youth.

Would love to go back to those days of passion.

But I think now in an age of pornified men it wouldn't be as good as it was then.

Yes and no. I have slept with ~10 people, which I think is less than average... but what I do wish is that I had more JUST sex. Most of my "sleeping around" was done in late teens and early 20s before I met DH. My problem was I always thought sleeping with a guy meant he liked me and it would become something more. With the benefit of hindsight I wish I hadn't been so worried about finding someone and just enjoyed shagging around. I was a bit desperate for a relationship and I agonised over blokes who clearly just wanted a shag. Having said that, the couple of ONS I did have were a bit shit, so maybe I am looking at it through rose tinted goggles. But I was pretty cute when I was younger (didn't realise it at the time!) and reckon with a bit of confidence I could have pulled some relatively attractive blokes and had a good time... but I was too concerned with finding "the one".

It's not a case of "more people" for me, as much as things I would have liked to do in retrospect. Many years back I was on a business trip abroad, and on the last night of the trip has a few drinks in the hotel bar with my (stunning) local Japanese colleague, and she suggested getting another drink and going back to my room. I've often thought what if ...

@Italiangreyhound

ValancyRedfern sorry to hear that. Is it too late? You said you are in your forties so not particularly old at all.

Thank you italiangreyhound, it's a very live issue for me right now. Do I leave wonderful DP and split up dd's family on the off-chance of finding love? Sometimes I get so low about it I think I should, but it feels very selfish.

Thankyou, its been a long time coming.
Being a single mum is beating staying with him hands down right now!
If I dont meet anyone else I will be spending some money on lovehoney

@Whyhello

Oh and I slept with a woman once but found that extremely disappointing. She had a strange looking vulva and tasted of urine.

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@faithfulbird20

No, I don't want germs.

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Definitely yes. Though I'm glad I didn't have any unplanned pregnancies, nor was I ever in any scary situations going home with a random man. But yes, very very much missed out. Repressive religious upbringing, scaremongering about STDs and how we'd go to hell if we had sex before marriage (sex ed at convent school).I wish I'd been wilder.

LOL !