Do you regret not having had sex with more people?

[BrilliantBetty]

I feel that I should have experimented a bit more in my youth.

I married my first long term boyfriend.

I find myself daydreaming about situations that happened when I was at Uni or similar, when I could (should!) have slept with someone else but didn't and feeling a sense of missed opportunity. I guess it's curiosity to some extent. At the time I had the idea that not having slept with multiple people was desirable? Not sure why now.

So not really an AIBU, I guess I'm just interested to know if other people sometimes feel this way?

No - hardly any but wish it were even less!

Brilliant. I'm now going to have to hide this thread, which I was reading with interest, because I just encountered 'softly and beautifully seduced by a woman' and can't risk running into that 🤢 again . . .

No, the absolute opposite, but that’s because I had a lot of shit sex with ugly people when I was younger. I wish I’d had more good sex with hot people, definitely.

Oh and I slept with a woman once but found that extremely disappointing. She had a strange looking vulva and tasted of urine

If I was every thinking of dabbling that just put me right off.

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Oh and I slept with a woman once but found that extremely disappointing. She had a strange looking vulva and tasted of urine

If I was every thinking of dabbling that just put me right off.

Shudder. Ive always wanted to sleep with a woman but this has put me right off

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Oh and I slept with a woman once but found that extremely disappointing. She had a strange looking vulva and tasted of urine

If I was every thinking of dabbling that just put me right off.

😂 How is that any worse than a weird looking cock and sweaty balls? Clearly you chose someone with poor hygiene.

I was thinking that - that’s a taste I think we’ve all had at some point!!!

Some interesting replies. Thank you. Feel slightly better after reading a few of them saying I'm not missing out too much.

No, wish I could erase some of my past sexual experiences to be honest. Mortified by some of them!

Yes. Had the opportunity to have sex with someone in a band that i liked at the time and bottled it. Fool that I am.

TBF, those who turned down shagging famous blokes, they more than likely have a full compliment of STDs. That’s what I told myself anyway.

You sure know how to squash the sapphic impulses on here Whyhello. Bleurggh.

No

I wish I had left relationships earlier

I hope to have sex with a few more men in my life

I don’t like one term relationships

Long term ....

Nope. Can’t imagine anyone else being able to make me feel the way MrBadJanet does because he’s always listened to me.

@claramonica I was going to say something along these lines 😂 absolutely no regrets 🥳

Nope.

I married at 23 thinking I'd met the love of my life. Limited sexual experience.
Having divorced in my late thirties, I can honestly say sex is amazing post divorce and I didn't know what I was missing!

@joysexrenovated and @Whywonttheyhelpme I will join your tribe. I don't regret the number of men I've slept with but I do regret the reasons, and still trying to address equating someone fancying me with being loved.

On the plus side I know that the only good sex I've ever had was in a long term relationship, I've just got to work out how to get into a healthy one again 🤣

Sort of. I am very happily married to the only man I’ve ever shagged. Life is good and we have great sex so I count myself lucky in so many ways. BUT... as PPs have said, I do find myself fantasising about it. Not loads of random men but a few people that I’ve felt that spark with over the years and know that under different circumstances I would have slept with. Also my first boyfriend (aged 16-17) who was (and still is) really hot. We did a lot of ‘heavy petting’ as it was then called (in J17 magazine) and I really wish we’d just gone for it. He has told me that he does too.

Would I have had my heart broken by some of these people? Probably. Would it have been amazing, memorable sex? Probably not. It does make you wonder though.

Ultimately, I would not change our amazing life together for more shagging, even if I could wave a magic wand and I would certainly never do anything to jeopardise things in real life.

No definitely not. I only slept with 1 before DH and we lived together.

Could never have sex just for the sake of it. I have to be in love with them

As the song goes “ once upon a time, not long ago I was a “ho” - it was brilliant , happily settled for 26 years. You need to sew those wild oats when you are young.

Yes. Not had any for 5 years now and the vibrator just isn’t working. Need a bloke

Yes I do regret that I've only had 2 partners. I would never cheat on my husband but I do think I should have put myself out there more when younger but I had zero confidence.

In my opinion you haven't missed out (except on mediocre shags)

YES!!!