To be shaking?

[PiedPiper558]

We have had our nanny for a month. She waited a good few weeks to start as things were up in the air with us.
She has been very accommodating, kids love her and been flexible. However, now the eldest has got into another school and it makes more sense to put her in the breakfast club. If the other kids get into the same school, we will do the same and put them into the club. DP told the kids this with nanny present this morning. Apparently she pulled him to one side, told him how wrong it was that he effectively told her she was on borrowed time with this job and that he had dealt with this insensitively and then stormed out. She's meant to be back this afternoon. She knows we are speaking tomorrow so must have known this was coming. What am I meant to do now? I feel really shaken up.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

Well I for one am dreadfully sympathetic towards the OP.

Must be a right pain in the humps to be shaking at the thought of speaking to the staff.

How could one possibly avoid spilling one’s latte?

I imagine OP is just so shaken that her latte is now a Cappuccino. Just all a Froth!

More likely Shaking that she might have to spend time with her own kids 🤣

YABU. Very rude of your DH - it's great that the nanny pulled him to one side and had a word. You should have met her beforehand, saying "she knew what was coming" seems oddly callous?

Hoping she finds another job soon and doesn't have to rely on just the after school hours for any length of time.

You're in the wrong. I wouldn't work for you.

One just can't get the staff these days.

Is that you, Meghan?

Shaking because your nanny was pissed off that your husband stuck his foot in his mouth?

Only on Mumsnet 😂😂😂😂

@edwinbear

You have treated her appallingly OP, you messed her about with her start, now you may (or may not) want her on limited hours, when she presumably needs full time work, but still can't actually let her know what your plans are? Can you really not see how badly she is being treated?

This I can see why she's annoyed, sounds like you've been dithering and messing her around from the start.

OP The 1850s called and want their attitude back ...

@Geppili

Is that you, Meghan?

Oi!

OP you have a DH problem.

This is a thoroughly disrespectful way to treat another human being and you seem to have no concept of how badly DH has behaved and how entitled and inconsiderate you are in really messing this poor woman around.

I'd be really angry too! She is looking at a reduction in hours that she found out about from you telling the kids in front of her, rather than in private. Imagine your employer announces at a staff meeting that they will be reducing your hours very soon and it was the first you had heard of it?

This after being kept waiting for weeks to be able to start work and being very understanding about it and flexible to your needs.

You and your husband are behaving disgracefully as her employers. You are rude, inconsiderate, unprofessional and yes, you have treated her extremely poorly.

I'd be pissed off too if I were the nanny. I hope she finds a better job with a decent employer (that wouldn't be you).

Any chance of an update, OP?

Why are you shaking? Do you have Bell's Palsy? Or some other condition?

Not sure what input you want here. You've treated your employee like shit but you're coming to us for medical advice.

What's your game OP? Do you honestly not know how much of a twat you are?

I’m so fed up of families thinking that it’s ok to mess about a nanny.
It’s her livelihood. Imagine you have bills to pay and your job after 1 month decides to tell you (not even properly) “oh by the way, we need to cut your hours and pay”. How do you expect your nanny to be able to stay, on reduced hours? You really should of thought about this before hiring her.
I would apologise profusely and offer her extra pay / notice period for her to be able to find a new job that will give her the hours she needs.

@MolyHolyGuacamole

Any chance of an update, OP?

Nah. If she was shaking at the start of the thread, she'll be vibrating so hard by now that she'll have drilled herself down to the Earth's core.

Maybe nanny's done away with her ;)
Sounds like an American Halloween horror: "The Nanny's Revenge"

Did she come back?!

@Jourdain11

Maybe nanny's done away with her ;) Sounds like an American Halloween horror: "The Nanny's Revenge"

Gone all The Hand That Rocks the Cradle on our trembly OP!

Your poor nanny. Imagine your boss telling the rest of the team that they were outsourcing your role, and then rolling their eyes that you hadn’t already twigged you were going to be fired.

And as for ‘shaking’, properly pull yourself together.

I hope you’ve given the woman a grovelling apology by now.

I keep checking in for updates.

I amazed that the OP and DH can't see how wrong they are to think it's okay to treat an employee like that.

Why not tell her there was a possibility of your kids getting into a different school before she started?
Very insensitive of your dp to tell her I front of the kids, no wonder she stormed out.
Both of you have not treated her well and if I was your nanny I would not return and find a family who would appreciate and respect me.
Clearly think very highly of yourself

Nanny was treated really badly was my first thought. Then read your other threads .... The whole carry on is ridiculous , doesn't seem like you have a clue or give a hoot about other people.

@purpledagger

I keep checking in for updates.

I amazed that the OP and DH can't see how wrong they are to think it's okay to treat an employee like that.

She won't give an update. She'll start a fourth thread next week