To be shaking?

[PiedPiper558]

We have had our nanny for a month. She waited a good few weeks to start as things were up in the air with us.
She has been very accommodating, kids love her and been flexible. However, now the eldest has got into another school and it makes more sense to put her in the breakfast club. If the other kids get into the same school, we will do the same and put them into the club. DP told the kids this with nanny present this morning. Apparently she pulled him to one side, told him how wrong it was that he effectively told her she was on borrowed time with this job and that he had dealt with this insensitively and then stormed out. She's meant to be back this afternoon. She knows we are speaking tomorrow so must have known this was coming. What am I meant to do now? I feel really shaken up.

YABVVVU

Your DP is an absolute dick for basically giving her notice in front of the kids, especially after you messed her around and delayed her starting.

Why on earth are you the one shaking when she’s the one who’s been treated badly? That’s just ridiculous!

I’d this for real?! I’d have told your husband where to stick it too. Absolutely appalling.

I wish I hadn't read this post, people as egotistical and self centred as you much be exhausting in real life.

I wish the Nanny all the best, I'm sure she will tell this story to all her friends and family and everyone will be in disbelief. I'm sure she will find a lovely family.

Team Nanny

I am also Team Nanny and you and your husband are dreadful employers. I assume you posted this in a bid for sympathy?

Please come back OP.
You really need to let us know what your way forward is with your nanny.
I expect that you are now LITERALLY shaking with all the responses that you've had on the two or three similar threads that you've had about your nanny.

Please let us know that you're going to pay her the full whack for her , now reduced , hours and that you have dealt with your 8 year old who can't be bothered to hold their own school bag.

Looking forward to your ( probably calamitous) update.

Literally sobbing and shaking.

I just read the Screaming Sistine thread and I was literally crying from laughter. Surely it must be a wind up? I lost it when it got to the alarmed old lady and the security guards who escorted her from the chapel.

Team Nanny
The rest of what I have to say is not very kind, negative vibes coming your way.

Well I for one am dreadfully sympathetic towards the OP.

Must be a right pain in the humps to be shaking at the thought of speaking to the staff.

How could one possibly avoid spilling one’s latte?

Wow!

But surely children reaching school age signals a change for any nanny, it is hardly a job for life?

@maddening

But surely children reaching school age signals a change for any nanny, it is hardly a job for life?

After a month?

@maddening

But surely children reaching school age signals a change for any nanny, it is hardly a job for life?

More then a fucking month though jesus

It baffles me how you can lack self awareness to be honest. This is someone's livelihood your mucking about with.

Poor nanny. So your DP basically gave her her notice in front of the children. If so, that's really shitty. Why are you shaking though?
I thought this exactly!

She waited a good few weeks to start as things were up in the air with us.
Sounds like not a great job from the start. Hope she gets better luck next time and that you also get better luck with your forward planning!

You and your DP are dispicable employers.

Doesn’t matter that you think you are still going to offer her afternoon hours. You should’ve discussed it with her first not in front of others. She might rely on the full time wage.

Please sort your childcare out with the clubs instead and don’t employ anyone else if you are going to mess innocent people around like this again.

Why do you think it was OK for her to find out about a major change to her employment in that way?

Are you as thick as you seem?

@maddening did you actually read the OP?

One month!!!!

I agree with your Nanny, you have messed her about and been insensitive.

I wonder if Nanny's have some sort of blacklist for poor employers she can add you to?

You really shouldn't be an employer you've treated your nanny terribly.

What sort of person is your husband to treat this woman with such disrespect.?

I will put it plainly

Your husband is a thundering disgrace to speak to the Nanny about her likely termination of her position in front of your children.

Real dregs of society stuff.

Appalling.

It will serve ye right if she doesn't return.

I sure as hell wouldn't in her shoes.

Disgraceful behaviour.

Does your husband not think her work is deserving of basic courtesy?

If you have ANY respect for yourself you should take the head off your husband for his stupidity and insist he apologises profusely to her for his appalling rudeness.

Poor nanny. That’s very gracious of you to throw her a few crumbs. I bet she’ll be back tugging her forelock delighted with her after school hours.

I’m sorry you’re shaking. Although I’m mighty impressed (and jealous) you have one of these in your house. I haven’t the space.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

Well I for one am dreadfully sympathetic towards the OP.

Must be a right pain in the humps to be shaking at the thought of speaking to the staff.

How could one possibly avoid spilling one’s latte?

I agree! And OP says the nanny was quite angry? She sounds dreadfully rough. I wonder if OP unknowingly hired a working class person - I've heard they can be very cunning.

Even if you can kindly offer her a few after school hours, how is this a good thing for her?

In working limited hours for you, she limits her availability in obtaining a proper nanny job.

Really disrespectfully handled. She is a human being, not a slave.