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To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:29

DH has painted our bedroom this weekend. The tester looked nice but now that it's all done I hate it so much I could cry.

We have lovely new bedding and curtains and the walls just spoil it, it doesn't suit the room at all.

I want to go to Homebase tomorrow and paint the whole thing again but I feel TERRIBLE. I'd happily do it myself but I'm pregnant so he didnt want me doing it (Might also explain the crying)

Would I be a total cow to ask him to redo it? I've not confessed that I dont like it yet as he seems pleased and it feels a bit wasteful. Or should I just try and live with it?

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WildWestWanda · 23/05/2021 17:31

It does seem a little unreasonable.

What is it that you hate? Would it grow on you if you just lived with it for a while?

NoSquirrels · 23/05/2021 17:32

Show us?

pepsicolagirl · 23/05/2021 17:33

Do not ask him to redo it. It's just a bedroom so you aren't even in it for most of the day - plus you are pregnant and probably really sensitive and this has potential to blow up into something bigger.
Just sleep on it (in it) for a few nights. Is it such a big deal? It sounds like he has worked hard x

PermanentTemporary · 23/05/2021 17:33

I'd try to live with it, sorry. Is it really such a terrible clash??

picturesandpickles · 23/05/2021 17:34

I think you may be over reacting a bit, it can't be so bad that you can't live with it for a few weeks at least.

Give him a few weeks and redo it then.

Sunnysausage · 23/05/2021 17:36

Leave it a week and then see what you think?

Twizbe · 23/05/2021 17:36

I'd give it a good 48 hours to decide. Paints can look very different in different lights and once they fully dry.

What colour has he done it and what in particular don't you like?

Aduckandachick · 23/05/2021 17:37

My H repainted our lounge as I hated it. I was so glad he did. It’ll bug you every day if you don’t change it.

Tal45 · 23/05/2021 17:37

What colour is it?

Aduckandachick · 23/05/2021 17:38

Meant to add that he grumbled a bit at first but agreed when he’d done it that it was the right decision.

Tickledtrout · 23/05/2021 17:39

Just leave it for now. Seriously. Too much else going on and it doesn't really matter anyway.

VeganVeal · 23/05/2021 17:39

Without a photo its not true

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:41

I'm not brave enough to post a photo but its Dulux denim drift, it's a sort of dark ish blue grey. Inspired by an influencer I follow who has it in her bedroom and it looks gorgeous. But it looks completely different in ours, it's too dark and feels a bit 'teenage boy'.

We've also got new carpets going in this week and we both wanted all the painting done first so time isn't really something I have.

He did work hard Sad

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carolcarolcarrot · 23/05/2021 17:43

Denim drift is a great colour! Love with it for a couple of weeks and see how you feel.

HeddaGarbled · 23/05/2021 17:44

If I were him and you told me you didn’t like it just after I’d finished, and when you liked the sample, I probably would cry.

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:44

It is SUCH a great colour in other peoples bedrooms! Dyou think it could just be because it's a miserable grey day??

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pepsicolagirl · 23/05/2021 17:45

I love that colour. Could you maybe changed the accessories to lift it? Give it a few days and a chance for the sun to come out. Also, when did you last eat?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 23/05/2021 17:45

You might just need to change the light bulb.

I wouldn't make my dh repaint. I would do it myself or told him to do it himself if he had issues. Obviously though with you being pregnant, that's bit different. Leave it for a bit.

BobinRobin · 23/05/2021 17:46

Happened to us in our living room. I just discussed it with him openly about not being sure it was the right colour etc and that I know he'd put a lot of effort in so if I do find another colour I prefer I'll paint it rathe than him.... In the end, about 2wks later we were both painting it xx

Biancadelrioisback · 23/05/2021 17:47

It is a grey/blue colour isn't it?

You honestly can't ask him to redo it. You can easily paint once the new carpets have gone down without spoiling them so don't worry about that. I would be furious if DH asked me to redecorate a room just as I finished.
Once it started going up you should have stopped after doing one wall to make sure you liked it but a bit late for that now!

What about adding some detail over the top of the colour with stencils or something?

Creweventus · 23/05/2021 17:47

Denim Drift is lovely!! We have it in our bedroom, love how it changes so much depending on the light.

MamaWeasel · 23/05/2021 17:47

More mirrors on the walls to bounce more light around, maybe?

picturesandpickles · 23/05/2021 17:48

It doesn't matter too much though, it doesn't look dirty, just a bit dull.

I would, if it were me, just not worry about it.

Have you put it on all walls? If so maybe painting one or more white would just make it a bit lighter while you work it all out.

AnAwesomePossum · 23/05/2021 17:50

I did this when pregnant (though I did the first paint). I painted it a lovely sky blue but the colour just looked wrong in the room and I ended up crying (I am also blaming hormones).

My partner repainted it the next day and I’m glad he did.

joystir59 · 23/05/2021 17:51

Denim Drift is lovely. Try and live with it?