To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)

[SunflowerOwl]

DH has painted our bedroom this weekend. The tester looked nice but now that it's all done I hate it so much I could cry.

We have lovely new bedding and curtains and the walls just spoil it, it doesn't suit the room at all.

I want to go to Homebase tomorrow and paint the whole thing again but I feel TERRIBLE. I'd happily do it myself but I'm pregnant so he didnt want me doing it (Might also explain the crying)

Would I be a total cow to ask him to redo it? I've not confessed that I dont like it yet as he seems pleased and it feels a bit wasteful. Or should I just try and live with it?

Inspired by an influencer I follow

There's your problem. Copying what some silly twat on IG is doing rather than assessing what is right for your particular room 🤷‍♀️

The same thing happened when we painted our kitchen a few years ago, I did repaint it but I we both did it so I didn't feel too bad (I know you can't help it that you can't help him atm)

I did this with our kitchen. Absolutely stunning colour (dulux emerald glade) but I just couldn't get used to it. Everyone who saw it commented on how much they loved it so it was clearly just me. It's a good sized kitchen and I only painted one wall but it just felt dark and almost oppressive in there. I tried for almost a year to like it but one day just painted over in white and I felt so much happier. It's not staying white, I'm just taking my time picking a new colour!

If YOU hate it, why would you ask him to re-do it? Surely you would do it yourself. Unless he has spilt paint everywhere.

You might get used to it. Unless it's awful, it would be frivolous to change it.

Happy to report I feel better about it today, especially with the bedside cabinets swapped and I've chosen a new chest of drawers in a natural wood which I think will look much better.

Agree about the flowers and plants, we have lots downstairs and they do transform a room!

Thanks for all the comments and making me see sense!

@Thelnebriati

SunflowerOwl You say you're pregnant, are you nesting? I started nesting about a few weeks before I delivered, nothing about the house felt right and I wanted to change everything and move all the furniture around.

I can relate to this a lot! I keep looking at things around the house that I loved when they were done and thinking I need to make tweaks.

Leave it a few days and if it’s too dark hang up a mirror - which will make the whole space look instantly brighter

Hang it across from the window for max effect

Not to be patronising at ALL but could it be because you’re pregnant?? I changed my mind over everything every time I was pregnant 😂😂 I loved things then hated them try stick with it for a bit xxx

Glad you feel better about it. When I was 8 months pregnant with dd H came downstairs at 5 am to find me up a ladder in the garden sawing branches off a tree. I can still hear his slightly trepidatious voice saying 'ummm Mrs Koala (as that is what he calls me) are you having the baby soon?' while I was muttering darkly about light being blocked out of the house.

@RaskolnikovsGarret

Everyone on MN has beautiful homes that look like they’ve come straight out of a magazine. The decor is fantastic, and I’m in awe of all of you. A polite person would call my style ‘eclectic’. In reality it’s a hodge podge of stuff added on over the last twenty years, and it hasn’t dated well. If Dulux bring out a colour called ‘pig sty’ or ‘cesspit’, I think it would work quite nicely throughout the whole house.

Good luck with whatever you decide - a newly painted room sounds amazing!

I'm quite surprised F&B hasn't. Maybe Septic tank rather than cesspit though? Septic Tanquerray?

Well it would certainly be a test of how much he loves you!

Pregnancy hormones are to blame. Plus it has rained every day for about 4 weeks. I would wait until you see it in sunshine and add a mirror and light blinds and accessories to lift the room. Can you change to lighter bedding?

I'd leave it for a week and then paint it again if I really hated it, however I'd do it myself rather than making my husband do it. Pregnancy doesn't make me incapable of decorating.

Need a pic of the bedroom to decide

@SunflowerOwl I'm just doing my daughters bedroom in this (slowly). She had remarked it doesn't look ANYTHING Like she expected . I hope she like it when I'm done. I have a 5mo and it's all my spare time....

It's a lovely colour. But when you Google it, all the rooms are very high ceiling, lots of white - doors, ceiling etc

Very minimal furniture and accessories

In life, most peoples bedrooms are crammed with stuff and tiny

Painting our bedroom means moving 2 triple solid oak wardrobes out plus dressing table, cabinets and the bed. My DH would absolutely refuse to repaint it.

I’m sure it looks lovely and it’s just darker than your used to. Try lighter bedding, personally I’d get white with scatter cushions and nice lamps to pull it all together.

@littlepattilou - your house is absolutely beautiful. I like looking at all the modern stuff but definitely wouldn’t want it in my house.

I was told not to decorate when pregnant as apparently the hormones change your taste!

I've just done 3 walls in DS's room in Denim Drift. The 4th wall is going to be papered in a white brick effect wallpaper. It's a dark colour but it does change with the light. The room has a huge window so gets lots of light. He has a white wardrobe and bed and they help balance the darkness of the walls. I've also kept the door and window recess in white.

It'll grow on you OP!

Try to live with it. When the baby comes you won't notice or care what colour the walls are.

He's tried to please you , shame to reject his good intention.

I haven’t read the whole thread but no, you can’t ask him to repaint it. It’s really ungrateful and smacks of “spoilt child”. I’d feel very upset to work hard at something and be told that it’s not right after all.

Try and live with it

Change it asap ... don't live with a colour that is reducing you to tears good lord 🙄

I confess that I’ve not read the entire thread, so apologies if someone has already suggested this.
I had a bit of a problem with the paint in my bedroom when I sold my last house. Three of the four walls were fine, but the one leading into the bedroom from the door was quite badly marked. I couldn’t face painting the whole room, so I just painted that wall in a different, but toning colour. I was amazed at the difference it made to the look of the whole room - it all looked (almost) newly decorated. If you find you can’t live with it, it’s maybe something you could think about.

Following an 'influencer' why?