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To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:29

DH has painted our bedroom this weekend. The tester looked nice but now that it's all done I hate it so much I could cry.

We have lovely new bedding and curtains and the walls just spoil it, it doesn't suit the room at all.

I want to go to Homebase tomorrow and paint the whole thing again but I feel TERRIBLE. I'd happily do it myself but I'm pregnant so he didnt want me doing it (Might also explain the crying)

Would I be a total cow to ask him to redo it? I've not confessed that I dont like it yet as he seems pleased and it feels a bit wasteful. Or should I just try and live with it?

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ThinWomansBrain · 23/05/2021 18:06

sounds great - but I like dark/greyish blues and teals - and generally find they go well with many different accent colours.
what does your partner think about it - does he like it?

I'd live with it for a bit.
If you really don't like it in a few weeks time, accidentally get it splashed with baby vomit?

RockPainting · 23/05/2021 18:07

YY to it drying, Different lights etc.

But if you really hate it you really hate it, and my thoughts are, you might as well redecorate it while all of the rest of the paint is fresh, and while you still have everything out!

Some years ago my dad helped us wallpaper our bedroom. We didn’t like it as it was going on, but we persevered, and the three of us agreed when it was finished that it looked absolutely dreadful. He came back the next day, we stripped off the paper together, went to buy some more, and re-papered the room.

I was always glad that we had done that.

We had bought paper that was too cheap and flimsy for our old house, proper case of buy cheap, buy twice!

Hankunamatata · 23/05/2021 18:08

Lamps and a couple big light prints?

CaraherEIL · 23/05/2021 18:08

Wait at least until the morning the pigments in the paint seem to shift around a bit and almost sink in and rebalance as it dries. You seriously might look at it tomorrow and love it. If you hate it in the morning then just ask him if he can repaint. I have repainted a room 4 times one after the other because I hated the colours so much. I just not a live with it type either.

Felifox · 23/05/2021 18:08

Grey can be depressing in certain rooms, depending on the light and outlook from windows. So I don't think yabu to want to repaint it. As your dh has put a lot of effort into it I think I'd leave it for now.

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 18:13

Thanks for all the tips, I will play around with the decor and lighting during the week and see how I feel.

DH really really likes it, but blue is his favourite colour anyway so hardly surprising!

The Instagram post I liked wasnt sponsored or anything like that, it isn't even a home decor account she just happened to post a photo in that room and someone asked in the comments what the wall colour was. I've had a screenshot saved on my phone for a while to make sure I didnt go off it!

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 18:15

@teddyclown yours looks lovely! Especially with all the natural wood.

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Gymsmile21 · 23/05/2021 18:15

If that’s the case maybe it’s just because you don’t have the floor down yet which is making the room look worse?

Best tip is when in doubt add plants!! Plants lift any room!!

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 18:15

Its definitely blue rather than grey

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PermanentTemporary · 23/05/2021 18:17

I've looked at a few pictures and unhelpfully just want to say it looks fabulous Grin

I hope it looks more like you wanted over time. I do think a few new light bulbs could work wonders.

sunshinesupermum · 23/05/2021 18:18

You have my sympathy OP. I dislike the colour too - it's too drab for a bedroom!

Singalongasong · 23/05/2021 18:20

Actually if DH really really likes it and he did all the work, I don't think I could ask him to repaint. But hopefully you'll come round to it anyway.

Viviennemary · 23/05/2021 18:22

I agree with leaving it a week. If you still dont like it ask him to re do it or get a decorator to do it.

Benjispruce3 · 23/05/2021 18:26

That’s a lovely colour. Are your accessories up yet? Pictures, lamps etc? You might be focusing too much on the colour and not the whole look. Live with it for a while. I love dark moody colours but find they look even better when ‘dressed’ with pictures etc. Have a look on Pinterest for ideas.

Maggiesfarm · 23/05/2021 18:26

How does your husband feel about it?

I remember when husband and I were quite young, in our previous house, we painted our living room (or he did), in a fairly neutral colour which looked OK with the tester. When all the painting was done it was somehow gloomy and depressing, we both felt that, so bought some more paint and did it again.

If your husband likes it, I suggest you put up with it at least for a while but he may agree with you. It doesn't have to be re-done tomorrow but, fairly soon.

Flowers500 · 23/05/2021 18:26

What specifically do you not like, that might help people to help you? Is it too blue, or too grey? Too dark, too light? Too pigmented, not pigmented enough?

What is your style? How did you want it to look? Is the room naturally bright? Large or small? What’s your lighting, what colour carpet, what colour curtains and bed covers?

Doilooklikeatourist · 23/05/2021 18:26

Denim drift is the colour I wanted for one wall in our bedroom ( haven’t even bought the tester yet though )
The other wall are white and there are huge windows ( and a velux roof window that I hate with all my heart )

Flowers500 · 23/05/2021 18:27

I imagine it looking gorgeous with lots of whites or pale natural woods. This would bring out the soft, natural sea blue

user11838686969686 · 23/05/2021 18:29

Doesn't help this time but in future paint the tester onto a big swatch of lining paper. Then you can test it in different places around the room at different times of day to really see how it's affected by the lighting in the space.

VeganCheesePlease · 23/05/2021 18:33

I think it's unreasonable to ask him to paint it again. Leave it a bit and see how you feel, or maybe you could return the bedding and accessories and get different ones that you feel go better.

ButterPie1 · 23/05/2021 18:34

We have it in our ensuite but love it so much I'm akready debating where else it can go Grin it will look different again with the carpets in xxx

Londontown12 · 23/05/2021 18:35

I feel your pain !! My hubbi painted our bedroom I hated it , it made it look dark so he repainted it back to original colour 😂😂😂 he was ok a little peeved so now he’s more cautious with my crazy paint colours x

Hirewiredays · 23/05/2021 18:35

I have a colour scheme similar and it only word with white. We have white furniture, bedding and walls.

Hirewiredays · 23/05/2021 18:35

And curtains

mainsfed · 23/05/2021 18:35

Eek that colour is like marmite.

Sympathies, DH put Pebbled Shore or Polished Pebble on our living room walls and I hate it.

I really wish I had insisted on Chic Shadow.

We’re both too lazy to change though.