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To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:29

DH has painted our bedroom this weekend. The tester looked nice but now that it's all done I hate it so much I could cry.

We have lovely new bedding and curtains and the walls just spoil it, it doesn't suit the room at all.

I want to go to Homebase tomorrow and paint the whole thing again but I feel TERRIBLE. I'd happily do it myself but I'm pregnant so he didnt want me doing it (Might also explain the crying)

Would I be a total cow to ask him to redo it? I've not confessed that I dont like it yet as he seems pleased and it feels a bit wasteful. Or should I just try and live with it?

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Sixsillysausagessizzlinginapan · 23/05/2021 19:37

Wait till you are not pregnant to decorate. I bought a sofa pregnant. Loved it. As soon as those hormones moved on I hated it. Stuck with it for 4 more years until it was paid off.
Never again would I do anything creative under the influence of pregnancy hormones. They're terrible.
Even clothes. I looked horrendous. My sudden fondness for florals was bizzare.
Don't trust the hormones.

onepieceoflollipop · 23/05/2021 19:40

I’ve had a google of denim drift painted rooms and having even one white contrasting wall may well make a difference. And white paintwork/accessories/bedding

I have a very deep/bright coral on one bedroom wall.
For me all bright or dark colours have to grow on me then when I adjust I like them.
If you are more drawn to paler/neutral colours you do have to adjust
I’ve several bright walls round the house - not strictly feature walls and I don’t regret any of them.

I particularly love the deep neon blue in my utility room...

Anna727b · 23/05/2021 19:41

Would it look better with one/two walls painted white/cream? Maybe your DH would be more okay about just repainting one or two walls? (you could always then change your mind half way through and ask if he wouldn't mind doing all of the walls!!).

Benjispruce3 · 23/05/2021 19:42

@moonfacebaby is that Inchyra blue? Looks like my living room colour. Love it.

Whatamesssss · 23/05/2021 19:42

I would say repaint it. I did this about a month ago. Went with an ivory paint last time DH gets to choose cheap paint and it just looked grey and dull. I gave away the rest of the paint on FB and bought a (more expensive and better quality) nicer colour.

I just knew I didn't like it and decided to repaint straight away.

I think some of the ideas from PP are great though, paint a couple of the walls a very light colour to break it up a bit. Also paint does change quite a bit as it dries.

Blossomtoes · 23/05/2021 19:45

It’s such a pretty colour - sorry, I know that’s unhelpful. Could you paper one wall to add interest?

Springchickpea · 23/05/2021 19:46

If you wanted to break it up a bit it would go really well with polished pebble. I think unless your room is normally very gloomy it will be ok though. We did put it in a small loo and repainted that because it was just very gloomy. But in our other bathroom it is very nice.

PandaLady · 23/05/2021 19:52

When I was pregnant I viewed a very nice house which would have been perfect for us. However, the air freshener in the downstairs look made me feel queasy so I refused to put an offer in.

Wait till baby hormones have gone then re-consider the walls Grin

PandaLady · 23/05/2021 19:53

Downstairs loo...

moonfacebaby · 23/05/2021 19:53

@Benjispruce3 I can’t remember what the colour is. I think I tried a few tester pots, possibly more expensive brands and then just did the dulux colour match thing

EversoDelighted · 23/05/2021 19:54

I agree with leaving it a few days, maybe till there has been some sunny weather. Whenever we do anything major to our house I hate it for the first few days, its just the difference comes as a shock.

RaskolnikovsGarret · 23/05/2021 19:57

Everyone on MN has beautiful homes that look like they’ve come straight out of a magazine. The decor is fantastic, and I’m in awe of all of you. A polite person would call my style ‘eclectic’. In reality it’s a hodge podge of stuff added on over the last twenty years, and it hasn’t dated well. If Dulux bring out a colour called ‘pig sty’ or ‘cesspit’, I think it would work quite nicely throughout the whole house.

Good luck with whatever you decide - a newly painted room sounds amazing!

HappydaysArehere · 23/05/2021 19:59

Have you got brilliant white on your ceiling and woodwork? That makes all the difference.

myfuckingfreezer · 23/05/2021 20:00

I have denim drift with oak furniture in my room and it's gorgeous. But I have a very light room.

Come on OP, show us a pic!

WhyMrsRobinson · 23/05/2021 20:02

Omg, he painted the room! You didn’t have to! Just be very very grateful!

SkodaKodiaq · 23/05/2021 20:03

Yeah I wouldn't want battleship grey meets Royal Navy in my bedroom either.

ALWAYS go for pale colours in a bedroom, even if you have massive windows

SkodaKodiaq · 23/05/2021 20:06

@RaskolnikovsGarret

Everyone on MN has beautiful homes that look like they’ve come straight out of a magazine. The decor is fantastic, and I’m in awe of all of you. A polite person would call my style ‘eclectic’. In reality it’s a hodge podge of stuff added on over the last twenty years, and it hasn’t dated well. If Dulux bring out a colour called ‘pig sty’ or ‘cesspit’, I think it would work quite nicely throughout the whole house.

Good luck with whatever you decide - a newly painted room sounds amazing!

😆
Creativenina · 23/05/2021 20:07

We just had an extension put it. I was looking to paint the main room (which could serve as a bedroom/living room) a really light blue. I went to B&Q and chose a paint which they made for me. I was so excited to take it home and paint it on the wall. I tried a sample when I got home and it looked a bit lilac so I thought maybe it will look different when all the walls are painted.
The following day I went to work and my dh had started painting all the edges of the room. I came home and absolutely hated it. It was lilac. I didn’t have the guts to tell him that I hated it so the following day at work I texted him to say that it’s not the colour that I thought it was going to be and it looks more lilac. He was not too impressed as he’d spent quite a few hours painting it. I’d wasted £46 on the paint. I told him as it was my mistake I’d spend the weekend fixing it. I had to do 3 coats of white paint to get rid of the lilac. 😆

JustMarriedAndLovingIt · 23/05/2021 20:08

Sorry, I don’t like it. We’ve got mineral mist in our office and first frost in our bedroom which are both much lighter. I feel your pain OP. The pervious owners of our house left us with the most gopping features walls in various rooms and the house didn’t feel truly mine until they were gone. Good luck.

Iwouldlikesomecake · 23/05/2021 20:12

I like it - but we have sapphire salute on a feature wall that runs the whole length of the house (open plan lounge/dining room) so probably a bit biased! I’d put it with wood furniture and white bed linen and curtains.

Dauphinois · 23/05/2021 20:12

We had a disaster with Denim Drift in our bathroom! It looked great in magazines but just didn't work for us.

And yes, I made DH do it again Grin

TatianaBis · 23/05/2021 20:19

Wait til you’ve given birth and redo it yourself.

Strong colours are hard to get right. It’s important to paint the tester across the corners and on the wall that gets not light as that will show you how dark it will come up.

DinoHat · 23/05/2021 20:21

I know the colour and it was too dark for my lounge. I did a tester. I went for quintessential blue and love that.

Paint it yourself. Being pregnant is no excuse not to paint. I’m 7 months with my second and haven’t stopped doing DIY!

NiceGerbil · 23/05/2021 20:26

We choose and decorate together (he'd do most if I was Pg!) and if one or both not keen we have a think.

Bedroom faces North and is very cold. Only got a colour that felt warm after 6 goes (not in a row but not ages apart- over s year or so maybe). We both have to live with it so do it together and he has opinions about how we decorate etc same as me.

I wouldn't say do it again but I would say yikes it's cold isn't it. Let's do it again in a bit and when we can do it together maybe.

I never understand why people don't talk to their partners more openly tbh.

Oblomov21 · 23/05/2021 20:27

Put white bedding on the bed. It will totally lift the room.