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To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)

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SunflowerOwl · 23/05/2021 17:29

DH has painted our bedroom this weekend. The tester looked nice but now that it's all done I hate it so much I could cry.

We have lovely new bedding and curtains and the walls just spoil it, it doesn't suit the room at all.

I want to go to Homebase tomorrow and paint the whole thing again but I feel TERRIBLE. I'd happily do it myself but I'm pregnant so he didnt want me doing it (Might also explain the crying)

Would I be a total cow to ask him to redo it? I've not confessed that I dont like it yet as he seems pleased and it feels a bit wasteful. Or should I just try and live with it?

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Gymsmile21 · 23/05/2021 17:52

That’s what you get for being influenced by someone on insta. Pictures on there are not real- it’s staged to look good alongside file yet galore to brighten it so if doesn’t look like a prison.

You don’t deserve it but you have been foolish thinking of you painted a wall your bedroom would look like hers- unless you have the same layout including windows placed the same too.

I would leave it until the baby is born and repaint it after unless his wiling to do it again. If it’s a dark colour it’s going to take a million coats wo will take ages to do.

Clymene · 23/05/2021 17:52

Oh that's a really nice colour! What colour are your bedding/curtains? I can't imagine much it doesn't go with unless everything is super chintzy

1forAll74 · 23/05/2021 17:52

So what colour do you wan't it to be,something completely different as in your own choice, and not from some influencer this time, Always a bad idea to copy others choices..

Singalongasong · 23/05/2021 17:52

@SunflowerOwl

It is SUCH a great colour in other peoples bedrooms! Dyou think it could just be because it's a miserable grey day??
Yes! Leave it a few weeks, it probably hasn't even reached its final colour yet. Then if you really can't bear it, consider painting the 2 easiest walls white to soften it a bit.
ThatIsMyPotato · 23/05/2021 17:52

You should have told him after the first pot of paint not when he'd finished it really. Your mind will be taken off it once baby is here. Could you try changing the light bulb? And any bits you can paint white etc? I'd also wait until we get some sunshine so you can see what it looks like then.

Summersun2020 · 23/05/2021 17:53

Redo it. I’ve done this twice and tried to learn to live with it and honestly the hatred just grew with each passing day. I’d get someone in to repaint it if you can to save your husband the job.

ThatIsMyPotato · 23/05/2021 17:54

Singalongasong that's a good idea, you could always have a feature wall if that helps OP?

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 23/05/2021 17:54

It's a nice colour, but really needs light accessories to work

NameChange74567 · 23/05/2021 17:55

Live with it for a few weeks and see if you still feel the same. I asked dh to paint our bedroom a similar colour and it was too dark, I absolutely hated it. I got used to it but never really liked it, DH did though so I never asked him to change it.

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 23/05/2021 17:56

Just looked at the colour
It is horrible! Like the colour of misery

I would def repaint for something much lighter

Shelby1981 · 23/05/2021 17:56

Wait and see what it looks like when properly dry, at different times of day and in different light etc.

Sleepthief · 23/05/2021 17:56

I've got denim drift in my kitchen and it does look different depending on time/brightness of day - sometimes grey, sometimes blue. It reminds me of the North Atlantic I grew up beside!

InTheNightWeWillWish · 23/05/2021 17:56

It does take a few days for paint to settle in a room. It looks different as it dries. DH painted our bedroom at the beginning of lockdown and I hated the colour as he put it on. I gave it a few days and I love it now. Getting the new carpet might make a difference too. If you really hate it after a few days and the new carpet, you can repaint it but it’s just taking a little extra time and being cautious on the carpet.

4PawsGood · 23/05/2021 17:56

Have you got the curtains and bedding back up/on?

If they definitely look rubbish, would it be easier to just change them rather than the paint? Put plain white bedding on and get new curtains? Presuming you can buy some that are not very expensive. I wonder if they just aren’t right together. I agree that denim drift looks lovely!

thebestnamehere · 23/05/2021 17:58

Can you link to the bedding? So we can visualise it?

SmileyClare · 23/05/2021 17:58

I knew you were going to say a grey shade! It's practically the law these days Grin

Didn't you look at it when he'd done half? What a shame you let him finish the whole room!

I'd suggest a big mirror, more lighting and perhaps painting the darkest wall a much lighter shade as a "feature" at some point in the future. It'll look completely different once you've "dressed" the room like they do on instagram.

bigfloweryblouse · 23/05/2021 17:58

Put a lot of pictures up and then that'll reduce the impact of it. Also, it'll go lighter when it's fully dry.

There's no way I'd ask my DH to do it again, wouldn't be fair

Tootsey11 · 23/05/2021 17:59

I have a feature wall in aegean blue which is slightly darker than your denim drift. Team it with very light silver and white and it looks fantastic. Like you I wasn't sure to start with, but mess around with other colours to see how it looks.

Gymsmile21 · 23/05/2021 17:59

Waiting for sun light is silly if you live in the U.K., it’s more gloomy than sunny. Winter is always dark too.

Take a photo and use snap seed filter to brighten it then you will see the influencers room looks dark and dreary like yours too and it’s just a filter that makes the room look good. Did she get paid to promote the paint? If so she will say it’s great and edit photos to be great even if she doesn’t like it because that’s what they are paid to do. That’s why it had to be made clear on insta if something is a ad because people were being “tricked”. Some influencers still don’t make it clear though they are being paid to say somethings great when maybe they think it’s not.

Candleabra · 23/05/2021 18:00

Denim drift sounds like a dark colour so I'm guessing it's a big change from what you had previously, so might be a reaction to the change?
I think the reason a lot of these dark colours look so nice in pictures (and they do look lovely) is the lighting.
Before you set your heart on repainting I would:

Borrow some lamps from other rooms
Borrow some other light and/or reflective accessories
Add them to your bedroom
Take some photos so you can be more objective when you look at the room

I bet it'll look great.

Parker231 · 23/05/2021 18:01

Probably best waiting a while to see what it looks like at different times of the day. Does your DH like it?

cupsofcoffee · 23/05/2021 18:02

It won't have dried yet - you need to give it a good 72 hours to dry out properly, then have a look at it in a decent light.

teddyclown · 23/05/2021 18:04

I love the colour. Very similar to what we have in several rooms here, which is Farrow and Ball Berrington Blue

To ask DH to decorate again (He finished today and I HATE it)
Blowingagale · 23/05/2021 18:04

Leave it at least a week, even if it means painting after the floors are done. If the wall was light coloured before then repainting may be more rather than the same amount of work again.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 23/05/2021 18:05

Change lightbulb shade. Some are more yellow, some are more white and they don't always go with the paint. Some combination of light and paint is horrible. Different lightbulb can totally change it