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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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Branleuse · 23/05/2021 09:26

I think that while you might like the idea of staying onsite, if your partner really wants a seperate room for the kids, then thats a fairly reasonable request that lots of people would insist on too.
In fact its the only way i think id agree to go. Id rather not do disney at all than have 2 weeks in one room. The sex would be part of it. The sleeping. The claustrophobia. The tiptoeing in the dark.
If i felt my partner was also mocking me about it, i just wouldnt go. Sounds like a chore.
Is there a compromise so you all have a good time?
I dont mind sharing for a few nights max

Kottbullar · 23/05/2021 09:31

Sex is the only thing that would make two weeks in Disney bearable. It's fun for the kids but DH and I are not Disney people.

HangingOver · 23/05/2021 09:31

"No wonder dh is grumpy, little people all day and no sex at night"

Confused SAHMs manage to tolerate their own children's company for extended periods of time!
Flowerlane · 23/05/2021 09:33

Bit shocked at some of these replies to be honest...but hey we are all different.

I would rather be on site then off even if it meant room sharing. You hardly spend any time in the room anyway it’s basically to sleep! Also you will be so tired after a day out that you will probably be too tired for sex anyway!

I wouldn’t be impressed if my partner was pissed off because sex may not happen for 2 weeks! It’s a family holiday.

PicturesOfLily · 23/05/2021 09:33

I wonder if your DH doesn’t really fancy Disney at all, especially on-site, and thought the sex thing would be something you couldn’t argue with? But I’d be pissed off with the sulking. I haven’t been to WDW but would like to take dc when they are older if we can afford it (even though it’s DH’s idea of hell so he’ll be coming for the dc’s benefit) and we’ll absolutely look at family rooms on-site as one of our options. Opportunities for sex wouldn’t feature high on my list of priorities for booking a trip like that and I’d be annoyed if DH sulked about it, especially as I do all the trip research and booking!

ElaborateSalad · 23/05/2021 09:34

I think it's normal for that to be a consideration in a healthy relationship. We're going away for a week with teens and a toddler, and I'd be lying if I said that I hadn't worried a little about going so long without

rookiemere · 23/05/2021 09:35

Oh jeez how on earth has the virtuousness of SAHMs managed to infiltrate this thread. I think @HangingOver the poster perhaps meant all the thousands of other little people one would be surrounded with,

Thinking about it more, we really enjoyed quiet relaxing time outside Disney and the opportunity to make our own modest breakfast on occasion. I realise everyone is different but I'd struggle to be in full on Disney mode 24/7 even if I had my own bedroom - although I have read about the Wilderness Lodges and they sound like the best bet, but don't think they have the free transport or dining packages.

astuz · 23/05/2021 09:36

I'm really surprised at this thread. I thought most people just booked a family room when going abroad to resort type holidays (WDW, Med holidays etc) - it's so much cheaper. And camping as well - I'm surprised there aren't a lot more people saying they camp for 2 weeks all in the same tent.

Our children are teenagers now and we are looking to book our next holiday. If we stay in hotels, it would mean two separate rooms, and they're too young really to be in a separate room on their own. And double the cost. So what do you all do? Do you always book a self-catering apartment type place? It's a California road trip that we're thinking of, and I just assumed we'd have to stay in hotels in one room every night, but you're all now making me think I should look into self-catering apartments a bit more, but often these have to be booked out for a full week. It's not really the sex thing for us (believe me, there's no privacy even in a separate room when they get older! - I think some of you are going to have a shock later on), It's the fact that they're older and all 4 of us need private space to get changed etc.

dottiedodah · 23/05/2021 09:39

We stayed at Disney world and had the same set up .I had the feeling that this was the usual situation,and that it was illegal in Florida for DC to have their own room? Wait until they are asleep and pop to the bathroom for some fun!

rookiemere · 23/05/2021 09:41

@astuz I generally look for family suites or aparthotels on booking.com. It does take a little longer to find, but for our sadly cancelled two week Costa Rica trip I managed to find either one or two bed accommodation in each location for the 2-3 nights needed, also did it for NZ when we travelled round there.
We have a teen DS and it really helps all of us as a family to have a little space, but then we always factor in a bit of downtime no matter where we are. I don't recognise some of these WDW they sound like gulags rather than a break, but then we don't like big crowds so we avoided most of the parades.

Twinkie01 · 23/05/2021 09:44

Sex and gin and knowing I've a second week away from all that Disney making magical memories shite is all that get me through the first week!

Maybe give the children gin so you can have sex whilst they're passed out.

Sixsillysausagessizzlinginapan · 23/05/2021 09:46

It's literally a base. You'll never be in the room unless your sleeping. I never pay extra for separate rooms, costs too much, I'd rather use that money on food. But sex is never a problem and were a daily sex kind of couple. It's what the bathroom is for 🤣

JinglingHellsBells · 23/05/2021 09:49

I'm pretty shocked TBH that a man considers 2 weeks a long time without sex. Most couples I knew who had young kids would go weeks often with no sex due to being totally knackered at the end of every day.

Life can throw a hell of a lot of stuff over you where sex is bottom of your priorities for all kinds of reasons.

And sorry if this is unpopular, but it annoys me that men have to dictate their 'needs' as if their balls will pop without sex for a couple of weeks.

Pieceofpurplesky · 23/05/2021 09:51

I was that knackered after a day at Disney I was asleep faster than the kids!

cocoloco987 · 23/05/2021 09:52

I'm surprised there aren't a lot more people saying they camp for 2 weeks all in the same tent.

I don't think that many people camp for 2 weeks - if they do they probably have all the kit (plus a tent with separate rooms). A once in a lifetime (which it is for most) trip for 2 whole weeks half way round the world costing thousands of pounds has different expectations than a few days in a rainy field costing £20 per night

BunsyGirl · 23/05/2021 09:52

@astuz My kids are 7 and 10 and we try and get one bedroom suites wherever possible. We sleep in the bedroom and the kids on a sofa bed in the living room. Works well for us. We have also stayed in hotels which have proper apartments in the hotel. We stayed in a two bedroom one in Portugal that was fab. We still had all the benefits of the hotel - daily house keeping, room service, full breakfast each day.

YellowFish12 · 23/05/2021 09:53

Never mind the lack of sex, two weeks in a family room with no separate space will be hell! You’ll have to sit in the dark, in silence every night after your young children are in bed. Sounds like a shit holiday!

Lindtnotlint · 23/05/2021 09:54

Compromise. Either a family suite at AoA or a cabin at Fort Wilderness (both have separate rooms but are not tooooo pricey). Or do one week resort room sharing and one week villa.

Jolie12345 · 23/05/2021 09:55

We’ve done this a few times at Disney Hotels. You’ll hardly spend any time in the room so it’s not that difficult sharing with the kids. They will pass out as soon as their heads hit the pillow. You’ll probably do the same. Two weeks is Disney is not a sexy holiday. It’s an amazing experience though so sex should not be a deciding factor. I can’t actually believe people think no sex for two weeks is an issue!

YellowFish12 · 23/05/2021 09:55

I'm surprised there aren't a lot more people saying they camp for 2 weeks all in the same tent.

People who go camping for 2 weeks with children I would expect to have a ‘family’ tent with separate bedroom pods. Plus you can sit outside and chat in the evenings whilst the kids are asleep in their pod.

MMMarmite · 23/05/2021 09:55

I wouldn't want to book a holiday that guaranteed no sex. I don't "need" it. But it would seem a shame.

On the other hand, kids club might work as an alternative solution?

Abraxan · 23/05/2021 09:56

Tbh after a long Disney day it'd be the last thing on my mind. When we get back late from the parks, and then another early long day the next day we are fit for putting our feet up and sleeping!

actiongirl1978 · 23/05/2021 09:59

We went to America in a family room for 17 nights. Kids were 10 and 8. We managed sex 3 times once they went to sleep. We popped them in the same bed together and used the other double bed.

It's not hard!

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 23/05/2021 10:00

I couldn't be doing with that. The lack of privacy would be the least relaxing thing possible.

Besides, what if kids are tired and you want to stay up a while?

Littlegoth · 23/05/2021 10:02

@8monthsinandcranky there are definitely not a million kids clubs, there is ONE - at the Dolphin near beach club. There were 3 across Disney property until last year, when the other 2 closed.

I would be very happy for you to prove me wrong though so we can have an adult meal one day without resorting to kids night in 😂

Planning our own Disney trip for a few years time. Kids will be small and hopefully sleep well, but as long as we have a balcony we are happy to sit out with a bottle of wine and rest our feet after a busy day. We’ve done Disney pre kids and were knackered at the end of the day. It’s not like it’s every year.

Have a lovely holiday x