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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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CasaBonita · 23/05/2021 10:02

We also had a family room and managed a few shags over the two week period. DC were exhausted and out for the count and we did it very quietly in the other bed. Job done!

Unihorn · 23/05/2021 10:02

@MMMarmite

I wouldn't want to book a holiday that guaranteed no sex. I don't "need" it. But it would seem a shame.

On the other hand, kids club might work as an alternative solution?

There's no such thing at Disney hotels, because presumably 99% of families are there to spend time together at the resort... They do offer in room babysitting for about $25 per hour if anyone is really desperate for sex after walking 30,000 steps a day.
Unihorn · 23/05/2021 10:05

@Littlegoth I always wanted to go to the old Peter Pan kids club at the Polynesian but the first year we went I was too old, I remember being gutted I couldn't at least go and have a nose around before it closed!

Nogoodusername · 23/05/2021 10:07

It’s a Disney holiday, literally hours on your feet all day every day: no one is going to have any energy for sex by the time you get back to the hotel!

stressbandit · 23/05/2021 10:12

I couldn't do it whether it's a kids holiday or not I still want to have sex with my partner in the night time Confused.

ApplyWithin · 23/05/2021 10:12

They do offer in room babysitting for about $25 per hour if anyone is really desperate for sex after walking 30,000 steps a day

But then there’s another person in the already overcrowded room! Where do they have the sex??

FakeColinCaterpillar · 23/05/2021 10:13

I think when we went I was asleep the same time as DD every night. Rooms are big with 2 big beds and the ones I’ve had have had lots of storage so easy to keep it tidy. Bathrooms have massive countertops unlike here which is helpful.

Like people say, the rooms are for sleeping mostly. We spent the odd wet night in a room with a meal watching a movie but usually you are so tired it’s a nice break.

I’d definitely say if you are just doing Disney, stay at Disney. Driving in and out, paying for parking, is a waste of time if that’s the one place you are going.

Unihorn · 23/05/2021 10:14

@ApplyWithin

They do offer in room babysitting for about $25 per hour if anyone is really desperate for sex after walking 30,000 steps a day

But then there’s another person in the already overcrowded room! Where do they have the sex??

Haha yes I realised after I'd posted it that it's in room not out of room!
OllyBJolly · 23/05/2021 10:17

Four of you in one room would not be my idea of a holiday! Tiptoeing about, having to stay quiet, the mess, the lack of space - no not for me.

We loved the villa - and the DCs loved having their own pool so much it was sometimes a struggle convincing them to go to the parks! And I love US supermarkets although we mostly ate out or takeaways.

actiongirl1978 · 23/05/2021 10:18

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut we all went to bed at the same time. So out for dinner, back for treats in bed (their fave thing eating choc in bed watching American TV!) then all to sleep about 10pm. During the night we'd usually wake and have a cuddle then back to sleep. Not every night but some nights.

Though when they were little we'd get them to sleep then put the TV on and have a drink.

Estasala · 23/05/2021 10:20

OP, how old are the DC and have you tried a holiday before where you all slept in the one room?

We only made that mistake once. 3 YO would not sleep and we had to turn off lights and lie in silence. Never mind sex, but I do want to at least be able to have a glass of wine, a chat, watch a movie or something when the kids are in bed.

At least one separate bedroom with a sitting room is a non-negotiable now. Otherwise it's worse than being at home.

FlorencenotRatchet · 23/05/2021 10:21

@BadNomad

I never understand why so many people on Mumsnet have such contempt for men who like to be intimate with their partners. As if it's some disgusting act only selfish perverts engage in.

Yeah, your husband will survive without sex for 2 weeks if you insist. Or you'll find somewhere else to do it. But I dont see why he should be ridiculed for being down about not being able to be intimate with the woman he loves.

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WouldBeGood · 23/05/2021 10:22

I’m with him, but I like holiday sex.

beingsunny · 23/05/2021 10:23

I think some are being a bit harsh, I know I hate sleeping in a room with my DS, I hear every movement, cough, moan and am a really light sleeper so would be exhausted!

I'd also like the option for sex on holiday too, my DP wouldn't care as much and doesn't hear the kids so would be happy with a family room.

He isn't saying it's his first priority as some PP are suggesting but that it's something that matters for him.

Notmyfirstusername · 23/05/2021 10:24

We are Disney Vacation Club members, which we were lucky to have from before the kids.
It means for us the benefits of the deluxe on site Disney hotels but with a 1 bedroom apartment with full kitchen, big bathrooms and laundry. You can get smaller rooms for a stay without kids and much larger rooms for when the kids grow up and want privacy- some sleep up to 12.
Perhaps you could look into renting some points off a member- much cheaper than from Disney and makes everyone happy as it’s a much more relaxed holiday.

lockdownalli · 23/05/2021 10:24

This thread reminded me of a colleague who was so excited telling us about a family cruise she had booked for her family "and the best bit! We are all in one room so I don't have to have bloody sex on holiday!"
Every woman there agreed with her Grin

As you were.....

Aprilx · 23/05/2021 10:26

@tobedtoMNandfart

How sad that his desire to have his sexual demands met outweighs what is best for the family.

Mind you if he stays grumpy he'll be the least sexy man alive so possibly this problem might resolve itself?...

Best for the family according to what? If the one other adult doesn’t want to share a single hotel room for a fortnight, how is it what is best for them as a valid part of that family?

If this were a man saying he had booked “what was best for the family” even though it was something his wife didn’t want to do, he would be called all names under the sun. Indeed I didn’t see much support for the guy who booked a week in a tent in Scotland without his wife’s agreement, perhaps he thought it was “best for the family”. So it was ok after all then apparently..

Randominternetbitch · 23/05/2021 10:28

OP, have you considered renting DVC points for a 1 bed? Old Key West and Saratoga Springs can be very reasonable. This will give you separate sleeping areas and you still get free parking.

MissBPotter · 23/05/2021 10:29

I would want to have sex on holiday (and I’m a woman). I think it’s normal to want to have sex with your partner whilst on holiday. Find it weird that some people think he’s some kind of perv for this!

Archiduchesse · 23/05/2021 10:30

We did a week at DisneyWorld and were so shattered we all went to sleep at the same time. It was fine all sharing a room because we spent so little time in it. However longer than a week we would have wanted a villa.

I can't imagine two weeks without some downtime just relaxing in a pool. How about splitting a week in resort and a week in a villa? Just check thoroughly for bed bugs wherever you end up staying!

Aprilx · 23/05/2021 10:34

@CasaBonita

We also had a family room and managed a few shags over the two week period. DC were exhausted and out for the count and we did it very quietly in the other bed. Job done!
Could you post a link to a “family room” at WDW. I am a repeat visitor Of many years and have never ever seen a listing for a “family room” so I am puzzled as to what people are referring to.

I am aware that they sometimes have a fifth Murphy bed into a room but the room is still just a bog standard hotel room, just an over crowded one.

Or are you speaking of a suite at one of the value hotels? In which case I would be inclined to say to OP to save circa £5k over two weeks and book a villa instead. There are so few onsite benefits not I cannot see how paying £6k+ for an Art of Animation suite would be better than spending £1-2k on a villa.

SarahBellam · 23/05/2021 10:34

If i work my butt off all year and use up half my annual leave to go and look at 30 year old men dressed up as a mouse for two weeks then too fucking right I want a nice shag on my holidays. If you’re not into Disney it is REALLY hard work and two weeks sounds hellish. I did 5 days and it nearly broke me. It is his holiday too.

Littlegoth · 23/05/2021 10:36

@Unihorn Polynesian is where we will be staying 😊

SwimBaby · 23/05/2021 10:37

I’d do a week in a room on site and then a week in a villa. Not just because of sex but also for the extra space in general.

Foxglovesandlilacs · 23/05/2021 10:37

I would t go on a holiday where I couldnt have sex, but going to Disney world isn’t really my idea of a holiday tbh Smile

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