Two week holiday, family room, no sex

[Timetheworldsaysicantafford]

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

I don’t really know how well you have researched this OP, because firstly you have decided that what is best is an accommodation situation that doesn’t suit the other adult travelling, surely research should cover preferences of the travel party? And it is easy to say his view doesn’t count because it is about sex, but I would wonder if it is just as much about adult time and some adult space and privacy.

Also I am wondering how well you have researched as you refer to a family room, which suggests something particularly designed to accommodate families. I am very familiar with WDW and they don’t call any room category a “family room”. It is just a room, same room as a couple might get. There are a limited number of suites, but these are hugely expensive, budget about £6k for two weeks

Finally there are currently very few benefits to an offsite WDW stay,. The dining credit is a bit meh for a family and certainly would not even begin to make up for the price difference between a WDW suite (if that is what you mean by “family room”) and an off-site Villa. No airport transfer, no dining plan, no 60 day fastpasses, no EMH.

A lot of criticism for a man who would like to have sex on holiday.
A lot of support for a woman who wouldn't go camping with her family, because she needed her own toilet and shower.

Agree with others, there are ways round the sex thing if you want there to be.

Just to add that it is a family holiday. He is part of that family and so has a say. I'd try hard to find a compromise that everyone would be happy with. If it's cost, I'd save for an extra year to get that. If you force him into a holiday he's not happy with, it'll be miserable for everyone. As it would be if he forced you in to a holiday you weren't happy with.

Hope you find a solution. Xx

We often stay in a family room or in a tent together, it would not occur to me to factor in sex. Sex is spontaneous, if circumstances are right. I would not like the whining.

Is your DH doing some research and looking for alternative options? Somehow, I'm guessing not and that he is just complaining about what you are presenting him with.

The expectation that I had to perform would put me right off for the whole holiday, the spontaneity is really important to me. I think he could have phrased it differently, like "I think we might need a bit more space for 2 whole weeks". To be fair you might, if someone is having trouble sleeping or a dodgy stomach, you will all be awake. He could think a bit more about how attractive he is to you, because complaining that he won't 'get any' for 2 weeks, as his top consideration is deeply unattractive.

We have twice now gone away with young children and had just a 1 room hotel room and it was hard. Once was a week and once was a weekend. The evenings were hard as once the kids were asleep we were tip toeing around and little things like the kettle boiling we were worried would wake the kids up. We have just booked to go away next year and have actually paid a bit more to book a 2 bed apartment to give us more space and make a more relaxed holiday. It's so worth it.

Just to add that it is a family holiday. He is part of that family and so has a say.

His only concern is when he is getting a shag though. There is having a say in the family holiday, fine, but when his only 'say' is his dick? No, that's not remotely 'family holiday' related.

Some of these replies are hysterical. When we went to WDW we managed to still have some energy for sex, despite the gruelling day's activities .

Staysky suites on international drive has a double room and double sofa bed in the living room for space.

@rookiemere

Some of these replies are hysterical. When we went to WDW we managed to still have some energy for sex, despite the gruelling day's activities .

Same. We went to WDW on our Honeymoon (best decision ever).

WDW is an amazing holiday and 2 weeks one room is fine. Just go to the bathroom. We only stay onsite. Have never had a problem in that department 😉. Much better, IMO to be onsite with their transport system. Saves a fortune. Ditto if you can get free dining.

Surely when couples are exhausted all year coping with work, chores and kids, the major attraction of a holiday is the opportunity for lots of non knackered sex?
I used to work 100 hour weeks as a junior doctor. DH and I both looked forward to holidays - and not because we wanted to spend hours queueing in a theme park!
I’m totally in team DH on this one.

Forget about the sex, but TWO weekssharing a room with young children sounds like absolute hell to me.

Two nights MAYBE but two weeks?
No.

So when we went we stayed in a privately rented 2 bed condo at Fantasy World. It was cheap as chips for the accommodation and although it wasn't glamorous we had two bedrooms, a washer dryer and fully equipped kitchen, plus lazy river and a few amenities on site. We hired a car, but there were free shuttle buses to the Disney locations or I'm sure an Uber wouldn't have been too pricey.

As we woke up so early (on UK time) we would get to the parks for opening time when they weren't busy and then use fast passes from about 11 onwards. We'd then go home early afternoon and relax by the pool.

What are the advantages of staying on site? The cheaper hotels look huge so it looks like it would take a long time to get places. I guess the meal plan would save some money, but once you're outside Disney there are plenty of low cost options ( groceries weirdly expensive though).

@Timetheworldsaysicantafford

I think it's actually just helpful to see a variety of responses - which help me step back a bit! It's not a general issue in our relationship. I really want to stay onsite so willing to compromise on the room as I figured we'll barely be there... He'd rather compromise on location

Well everyone's different but I feel like over 2 weeks you might find that you all need a little space (kids included). I'd consider a shared room for a few nights but 2 weeks is a long time to have four of you in one room.

You might be there more than you think as well - imagine if one of you gets ill or something? Not a nice thought but over a 2 week period it could happen that on a few of the days, one or two of you just aren't feeling up for going out and exploring the theme parks etc.

Personally I'd avoid it and not just because of the sex issue, but it's up to you. It's lovely to be thinking of booking holidays either way, I hope it all goes ahead smoothly for you :)

@8monthsinandcranky

We plan to take our 2 to do Disney/universal in years to come and had the same convo. DH assumed they’d be in a separate room but honestly the price difference of having 2 rooms for a 2 week stay really puts me off! Easily £2.5-3k extra and that’s in a mid range hotel like yacht club. Not taking into account trusting 2 under 11’s and extra tips for cleaning...etc

Suggested we drop down to one of the budget hotels like AOA or pop century where you can get family suits with living spaces but DH not interested.

I’d honestly rather go 2 weeks without sex than pay up to 4K more. Plus all the parents I know who have been said they same thing, it’s a fab but totally exhausting holiday and they were passed out as soon as the kids were on a night 😂

There are a million kids clubs though so maybe suggest to DH that you stick the kids in a couple of those over the course of 2 weeks and give yourselves a couple of hours free in the room

Kids clubs are not a thing in Florida. They believe in families being together and doing things together.

There are obviously a range of opinions on here from:
-* don’t go to Disney you fool, go to Boston

• hotel sounds hellish go for villa
• split it one week villa, one week hotel
• hotel will be ok because you’ll be knackered
• you don’t love your children enough because you think 2 weeks in a room might be a bit much...

I’m in the middle and would probably go half and half. Maybe experience the park with the hotel abs then do a week that is more chilled out in the villa. Personally I’d need a bit of down time for any holiday. It’s never good if you go back to work feeling like you’re knackered and need a holiday.

When we got to Spain etc we generally get a 1 bedroom apartment so we all have a bit more space and a kitchen etc. When we went to Orlando for 12 nights we were all in a family room. It wasn't an issue, we got home late each night and I was asleep before anyone! We weren't there for sex. We literally slept and showered in the room.

On another note, when I was pregnant, I had several episodes of unexplained bleeding in the first couple of months. I was advised to avoid sex so we didn't do it from then until 6 weeks after birth. Should DH have sulked? Tell him to get a grip. Literally.

YANBU, but as someone who’s done this with kids I can recommend getting a villa! 2 weeks is a long time in a room together. There are loads of villas with 10 mins drive, it’s easily to get in and park, and you will save a fortune on things like food and snacks.
The villas all have little individual pools to cool off with some privacy and it is REALLY nice to have a bit of non-Disney time at the start or end of the day too...

We did a week in a Disney villa nearby and a week on the beach in a different villa and got to see a bit more of the area, went to the Kennedy space centre and a few other bits.

I wonder if those suggesting you upgrade to a suite of rooms have any idea about the price of wdw resorts

Two weeks on a theme park, Christ, I wouldn't want to do two days.

misses point

I understand your husbands concern but not the sulking. Going on holiday releases you from the daily grind and reinvigorates your relationship as you don't have to think about the normal chores of home.
It's nice to spend the evenings together chatting, reigniting the spark and perhaps getting amorous.
Personally I'd like a bit more space if I was spending two weeks in the same room. It sounds like a recipe to get fraught with tension.

Did a couple of weeks in various hotels with DD and DH in Asia 2 years ago. Never even occurred to us not to go because we wouldn't have sex while sharing a room with DD. Be a bit crap and limited to be restricted this way.

Two weeks in Disney is intense and exhausting. I definitely would need some quiet space away from children in the evenings. Nothing to do with sex. But a family room is very snug and means you wouldn't have time for adult conversation and relaxing after kids go to bed. I wouldn't like that. It would be a villa for me, definitely. Or do a mix (one week in each?).

We've only ever stayed on site. We leave the room at 7am and come back at 11pm pretty much every day, with a 2hour-ish return just after lunch to recover a bit. I can't imagine factoring sex in on a Disney holiday, all I want to do is collapse in a heap at the end of the day.

I went with my parents as a teenager with my teenage brother, so four of us sharing a room at a Value resort. I don't recall any issues in space.