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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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SimonJT · 23/05/2021 19:22

@theleafandnotthetree You don’t have to limit yourself to one type of holiday, I have been to Disney Florida, California, Paris and Tokyo. I’ve also been to Machu Picchu, New Zealand, Galapagos, Uluru.

Runmybathforme · 23/05/2021 19:32

No, wouldn’t work for me, two weeks without sex is no holiday.

Ledkr · 23/05/2021 19:34

You'll be too knackered after a day in the park. 😊

Macncheeseballs · 23/05/2021 19:35

Yeah wouldn't bother me

CasperGutman · 23/05/2021 19:39

I wouldn't want to stay in a fully room for more than a few nights, personally. I know it's convenient being near the parks, but my children would be exhausted after a few long days and would need an early night or two.

In a family room we've ended up putting them to bed then sitting watching TV on the tablet in the en suite more than once before now (there's only so much shower sex I can handle to pass the time!). It's not my idea of a relaxing two week getaway.

Personally, I'd go for a few nights in a Disney hotel the move a bit further out to somewhere the children could sleep in a separate room.

CasperGutman · 23/05/2021 19:40

Fully room = family room!

SakuraEdenSwan1 · 23/05/2021 19:50

@Poptart4

Sulking because he may have to go 2 weeks without sex would be a HUGE turn off for me. It's a once off 2 week period, he needs to get over it.
Well said!
thepeopleversuswork · 23/05/2021 19:52

I don't know about snobbery, for me it's more a sense of bafflement that if you had that kind of money to spend on holidays why you would spend it (in many cases over and over again) on ANY one place and especially on a fake 'world' when the real world is so amazing. If money and worries about carbon emissions were no object, I can think of so many amazing things I could do with my children that would be great fun but would also teach them something about the world, spark interest in things like history or music or give them an insight into how other people live.

Exactly. And its so fricking expensive. I could understand if it was Butlins or something that's cheap and cheerful but this would make a decent chunk in a year's salary. And for what?

Why not save yourself thousands of pounds and go somewhere where you can afford two rooms. And not get rinsed every day at a theme park.

Coldwine75 · 23/05/2021 19:53

Each to their own but its a wonderful place and full of magic for adults as well as kids. I think people who moan are just jealous.

Castlepeak · 23/05/2021 19:56

Personally I love a Disney holiday precisely because it is so sanitized. I don’t ride roller coasters, just the tame rides. I just love the order and precision of the place. It’s so ridiculously organized that it makes my anxiety drop, despite the crowds. IMHO this is how the entire world should work. In case you were wondering, yes, I am on the ASD spectrum.

Coldwine75 · 23/05/2021 20:02

I agree Castlepeak and what's wrong with being in a 'fake world for a while? Real life is stressful!

carlywurly · 23/05/2021 20:16

Grin totally agree. I personally cannot see the appeal of Disney (and I have been), just as I can't see the appeal of those huge multi-storey cruise ships. Some friends of ours literally go every year and love it.

It's good that everyone wants different things on holiday.

I'd want relaxation and separate space from a holiday. We've only ever all shared once and 5 nights was plenty.

Mathshelpme · 23/05/2021 20:16

@thepeopleversuswork

I don't know about snobbery, for me it's more a sense of bafflement that if you had that kind of money to spend on holidays why you would spend it (in many cases over and over again) on ANY one place and especially on a fake 'world' when the real world is so amazing. If money and worries about carbon emissions were no object, I can think of so many amazing things I could do with my children that would be great fun but would also teach them something about the world, spark interest in things like history or music or give them an insight into how other people live.

Exactly. And its so fricking expensive. I could understand if it was Butlins or something that's cheap and cheerful but this would make a decent chunk in a year's salary. And for what?

Why not save yourself thousands of pounds and go somewhere where you can afford two rooms. And not get rinsed every day at a theme park.

Well, obviously a Disney holiday will not be for everyone.

When we travel to Florida, we tend to travel around and see different nature reserves, springs, museums, cities and beach towns. We fish and sail and take airboat tours. We dive with sharks or paddle board along the coast. We shop in antiques malls or normal malls. We go to water parks, zoos or marine conservation centres, like the one in Clearwater where the dolphin without a tail fin lives. Theme parks and Disney actually play a very small part of our holiday.

There is a lot to do and renting a car and moving about is straight forward. En-route you can fly to other pets of America and for a few days visit New York, Atlanta, Chicago, Houston or maybe Toronto. You can take a few days out to cruise or sail across to the Bahamas or other parts of the Caribbean. Or you can simply relax...and because everyone else is at the theme parks, the pool area are always empty and you more than likely have the place to yourself...there’s certainly never a battle for loungers.

We also like to visit other places and luckily we have enough time off in the year to travel elsewhere at Easter or half-term.

As our child gets older, we’ll likely visit other places as well or do Route 66. Simply put, America has quite a lot to offer and you will never do everything in just one trip.

rookiemere · 23/05/2021 20:19

We all enjoyed Orlando a lot more than we thought we would, although forever in the family history book about DH gazing mournfully at the view from our economic condo terrace of a wall and saying wistfully "It's not Tuscany is it ? ".

However not sure I would have enjoyed it in a one motel room for 14 nights for all 3 of us.

RevolvingPivot · 23/05/2021 20:40

DH is currently away for 6 months. 2 weeks wouldn't bother me.

Maggiesfarm · 23/05/2021 22:40

@Coldwine75

I agree Castlepeak and what's wrong with being in a 'fake world for a while? Real life is stressful!
I agree with you there. I quite fancy virtual reality! I have always quite liked fantasy places too but, for me, the Disney places would be too vast, I would long to get away. Also if I went to America, I'd want to see other places. It certainly doesn't appeal to me but I might have been prepared to take my kids to the French one, had I thought of it at the time, which I didn't.

My nephew has/had a nice girlfriend who has a child. A couple of years ago he took them both to Disney in Florida. They had a great time, the daughter loved it. However he does say it wouldn't be his personal choice, though he did enjoy it, and wouldn't go again.

Maggiesfarm · 23/05/2021 22:45

@Runmybathforme

No, wouldn’t work for me, two weeks without sex is no holiday.
Oh very droll! Two weeks goes by in the blink of an eye.
helpmebeanadult · 23/05/2021 23:06

With young kids we've always done family room. Sex in bathroom or v quiet when they're asleep

NoNobramma · 23/05/2021 23:26

1000s of people go camping for their main holiday and manage in a tent with no privacy for two weeks

I managed a shag as a teenager with my boyfriend in a tent holiday with my parents- I’m pretty sure parents can manage a shag whilst their kids sleep.

I can’t be arsed reading through all the pages of this- but I can’t see why a little bit of foreplay while your kids are asleep and none the wiser followed by bathroom sex to finish would be a problem? Spice up the sex life a bit?

astery · 24/05/2021 00:00

I would never have sex in a tent. Everyone can hear everything. Up to you though.

Maggiesfarm · 24/05/2021 02:42

You can have a quiet shag, it's not that difficult and can be quite funny actually.

However I wouldn't like it in a tent, there's no bathroom. I couldn't imagine myself getting up and going to the toilet and shower block afterwards! I'd rather do without or have some non penetrative sex.

buffyp · 24/05/2021 15:23

@SarahBellam

If i work my butt off all year and use up half my annual leave to go and look at 30 year old men dressed up as a mouse for two weeks then too fucking right I want a nice shag on my holidays. If you’re not into Disney it is REALLY hard work and two weeks sounds hellish. I did 5 days and it nearly broke me. It is his holiday too.
Doesn’t mean he gets to demand sex whenever he wants it. It also is common irrelevant what you or any others here think of Disney. Presumably the oh has already agreed to go.
theleafandnotthetree · 24/05/2021 15:26

@Coldwine75

Each to their own but its a wonderful place and full of magic for adults as well as kids. I think people who moan are just jealous.
Oh God I assure you I am not jealous of people going to Disney, you'd have to pay ME to go there. I am possibly a little jealous of people having the means and the time to go on such extravagant holidays and multiple times too
buffyp · 24/05/2021 15:28

@BadMotherLover

I cannot believe any of you think this is acceptable. 2 week holiday no sex. If I were OP's DP I would cancelling holiday.
And if I were your party I would be cancelling the relationship and going by myself
buffyp · 24/05/2021 15:28

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