Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

[quote SteveArnottsCodeine]@theleafandnotthetree two things:

1. I think you know how I was defining ”tragic” here; as in the colloquial “all-encompassing derision that asserts a person’s utter lack of redeemable qualities” -way rather than the “characterised by extreme distress or sorrow” -OED way

and

b) you sound like a lot of fun and your kids are very lucky. I expect you have also never let them believe in Father Christmas either, lest they get out of infant school believing that a magic man brings those toys rather than the money that you’ve worked bloody hard for because you won’t have any child of yours not understanding the value of money even if they are only four

Sometimes Mumsnet makes me really sad for some kids.[/quote]
Hyperbole much? Being a fun and enaged parent - which I mostly am - does not mean doing every single thing based on their needs and preferences. Of all the children in the world you should feel sad for, mine wouldn't rank too highly. I just spent the last two hours alternately playing basketball and soccer with my daughter. And I raise them to have a sense of proportion and gratitide and awareness that the very priveleged life they have - that most Western childreh have - is a result of good fortune, privelege and yes, my work.

Different things work for different people, my dc enjoyed WDW they have also very much enjoyed holidays like wildlife ones in Costa Rica and city breaks in places like Grenada.
It is possible to mix up the type of holiday you have so dc get to experience a range of things.

I don't want to raise dc that look down their noses at popular culture anymore than I would want dc who can't manage to enjoy an art gallery occasionally.

@Mathshelpme bloody hell, that is a LOT of trips to Disneyworld? And a month in Florida at a time?! Wow.

Lot Sid snobbery in this thread. I went to Florida with my parents when I was 14, we did all the resorts and it is one of my most treasured memories. We all had a blast, and that was without being interested in Mickey Mouse. It was more about Space Mountain and the Epcot fireworks and just the general fun of the place. I also grew up more than able to appreciate museums, architecture, nature, history and other cultures and got a degree in a very obscure academic subject.

I was never interested in anything Disney related till my brother and his wife took me there following the breakdown of my marriage of many many decades. I only went in order to spend time with them but I ended up loving it and I spent everyday there. We’d do something different most evenings but that was it. I had the time of my life and I’ve since been back a few times but we always go without children.

Disney and Universal are amazing , yes no culture etc but you really feel like you are transported into a magical world, you can just let go and have fun, its a wonderful magical experience.

I’m laughing at the idea of Disneyworld having no culture fun fact, Disney actually make films. They’ve had some quite well known ones! Ditto Universal. It might not be the culture that you personally want exposure to, but that’s no odds.

but not quite amazing at age 5 when she believed every character was real

The first time I went I was 58 and I very much believed Prince Charming thought my perfume was lovely.

And I may have cried when Pluto waltzed with me when we were in line to have character photos taken. It was a long overdue cry and a long overdue dance and I felt really happy.

[quote HaveringWavering]@Mathshelpme bloody hell, that is a LOT of trips to Disneyworld? And a month in Florida at a time?! Wow.[/quote]
We do spend a lot of time there, but with indirect flights and off site accommodation we’ve spent far more on two weeks in Greece. Honestly it’s the tickets that cost, but as annual pass holders, we don’t have to factor that in.

Yes they think characters are real at 5 but may not remember the holiday, when kids are older they can ride all the big coasters, adults can enjoy it too as well as all the shows, the food, the drinks, the characters are only a small part of it really and at 5 , they are just as happy to see Rory the tiger at Haven!

But how do you get the time off @Mathshelpme?

We do spend a lot of time there, but with indirect flights and off site accommodation we’ve spent far more on two weeks in Greece. Honestly it’s the tickets that cost, but as annual pass holders, we don’t have to factor that in

Am I confusing you with another poster who lives in the states and has Math as part of her username?

Perhaps she is self emp, or doenst work, or wait, none of your business?

Two week holiday with no sex?? Sounds awful! We do it twice a day on holiday as we have no work, kids club and are relaxed and happy.

@Coldwine75

Perhaps she is self emp, or doenst work, or wait, none of your business?

None of your business either, why are you sticking your nose in? I was just interested! If she doesn’t want to answer she won’t, she doesn’t need you to appoint yourself as thread police

[quote astery]@ImInStealthMode I think there is always a lot of snobbery around places like Disney.[/quote]
I don't know about snobbery, for me it's more a sense of bafflement that if you had that kind of money to spend on holidays why you would spend it (in many cases over and over again) on ANY one place and especially on a fake 'world' when the real world is so amazing. If money and worries about carbon emissions were no object, I can think of so many amazing things I could do with my children that would be great fun but would also teach them something about the world, spark interest in things like history or music or give them an insight into how other people live. Off the top of my head...a road trip in a campervan across Europe or the US, a safari (my daughter's dream) a trip to somewere like Jordan or Iran, going to Scandinavia in the summer and renting a cabin by the lake, going to Moscow (my son's dream), taking a long train ride through a spectacular landscape. I just think going repeatedly to DW just seems a 'waste' to me.

@HaveringWavering

But how do you get the time off *@Mathshelpme*?

DH and I work in education.

@BananaBoatFeet

We do spend a lot of time there, but with indirect flights and off site accommodation we’ve spent far more on two weeks in Greece. Honestly it’s the tickets that cost, but as annual pass holders, we don’t have to factor that in

Am I confusing you with another poster who lives in the states and has Math as part of her username?

Definitely. I wish I lived in the states but I don’t. There’s quite a community of us though who go for extended periods of time. On The Dibb, it’s quite common.

I don't know about snobbery, for me it's more a sense of bafflement that if you had that kind of money to spend on holidays why you would spend it (in many cases over and over again) on ANY one place and especially on a fake 'world' when the real world is so amazing. If money and worries about carbon emissions were no object, I can think of so many amazing things I could do with my children that would be great fun but would also teach them something about the world, spark interest in things like history or music or give them an insight into how other people live. Off the top of my head...a road trip in a campervan across Europe or the US, a safari (my daughter's dream) a trip to somewere like Jordan or Iran, going to Scandinavia in the summer and renting a cabin by the lake, going to Moscow (my son's dream), taking a long train ride through a spectacular landscape. I just think going repeatedly to DW just seems a 'waste' to me

You can holiday at WDW as well as do the kind of trips you’ve suggested. In fact my children, all of them now adults, have done some of the trips you’ve mentioned as children, as well as others such as a fairly recent family trip from Nairobi to Tanzania by road stopping many different places along the way. They still all enjoyed Disney Land Paris though as did their children.

@Mathshelpme

Thank you. I haven’t seen the other poster around for quite some time and I though you were her with a name change.

@theleafandnotthetree I obviously don't know what your budget is but when the world is open again I can highly recommend South Africa National Parks accommodation for a really authentic safari experience at a fraction of the cost of staying in a private lodge or on a private reserve 🦁

Just to add to my last though; I'm lucky enough to have been all over the world and had fantastic experiences but still love Disney (even without kids, and on one occasion entirely alone).

Enjoying one doesn't mean you can also enjoy the other.

@BananaBoatFeet

I don't know about snobbery, for me it's more a sense of bafflement that if you had that kind of money to spend on holidays why you would spend it (in many cases over and over again) on ANY one place and especially on a fake 'world' when the real world is so amazing. If money and worries about carbon emissions were no object, I can think of so many amazing things I could do with my children that would be great fun but would also teach them something about the world, spark interest in things like history or music or give them an insight into how other people live. Off the top of my head...a road trip in a campervan across Europe or the US, a safari (my daughter's dream) a trip to somewere like Jordan or Iran, going to Scandinavia in the summer and renting a cabin by the lake, going to Moscow (my son's dream), taking a long train ride through a spectacular landscape. I just think going repeatedly to DW just seems a 'waste' to me

You can holiday at WDW as well as do the kind of trips you’ve suggested. In fact my children, all of them now adults, have done some of the trips you’ve mentioned as children, as well as others such as a fairly recent family trip from Nairobi to Tanzania by road stopping many different places along the way. They still all enjoyed Disney Land Paris though as did their children.

Ok fair enough, I guess I assumed that if people were spending that much, using that much leave, going repeatedly, that it didnt leave much room for other holidays. I was probably extrapolating (unfairly) from a few families I know for whom that is the case. It is true of course that for people with resources, it's not either or. I can't afford any of it and I guess it makes me a little sad and maybe not always reasonable

[quote ImInStealthMode]@theleafandnotthetree I obviously don't know what your budget is but when the world is open again I can highly recommend South Africa National Parks accommodation for a really authentic safari experience at a fraction of the cost of staying in a private lodge or on a private reserve 🦁[/quote]
Thank you, that's very kind of you. My budget is small but my daughter and I are both saving hard! 😊

[quote BananaBoatFeet]@Mathshelpme

Thank you. I haven’t seen the other poster around for quite some time and I though you were her with a name change.[/quote]
That’s ok, it’s no problem :)