Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

We did Princess dining, and all sorts of amazing food places in Epcot, probably go back one day just dh and I x

@Coldwine75

Agreed. I’d definitely go without kids. And the Disney Cruise without kids is just amazing.

Its wasted on the kids lol!

It probably isn't just for kids, Coldwine, but it is at least 50% for children if you are having a family holiday.

The point here is the op's husband's immature attitude towards sex, which sounds like he is thinking in terms of 'marital rights'.

For goodness sakes, there could be all sorts of circumstances where sex is not on the cards for longer than a fortnight and people don't die. There are other things to do and plenty of time to do them when not away at Disney.

Anyway the holiday isn't until next year and anything can happen between now and then.

But actually op, to respond to your actual question for me, no sex for two weeks would spoil my holiday. I’d be a grump feeling very sorry myself. My husband is luckily always up for it after a bit of vitamin D and sunshine, so I vote for the villa, a condo like Bahama Bay, or the shower.

Also, I’m a huge WDW fan and I love having dinner at the resorts and exploring the resorts, but we rarely stay more than a few nights at the Disney resorts as the rooms are far too small.

@Mathshelpme
Love California Grill, had our engagement meal there! We always do Crystal Palace as well, haven't done Obama for a bit and Homecoming wasn't open last time we went unfortunately, looks really good though.

Tell him he'll be so knackered after a day in the park all he will want to do is sleep

Tell him to masturbate if he really is that desperate.

@KaptainKaveman

Tell him to masturbate if he really is that desperate.

What is so horrible about this is the impression that he is desperate. Someone married for several years with children, and generally quite content, usually has no problem going without for a while.

Mumsnet is a funny old place. I work for a travel company and I'd say maybe 85-90% of the family bookings we make are for everyone sharing one room.

Yet here on Mumsnet 85-90% of respondents are appalled by the idea.

I would pick a Disney hotel on site over an off-site suite or villa every single time. Sex or the lack of it wouldn't come into it on that type of holiday, not least because of how exhausted everyone is at the end of every day!

Holidays in Orlando leave me and my family exhausted! It’s all long days, early mornings, so many steps etc! Last thing I would want is sex, definitely would rather a foot rub after all the walking 🤣

@KaptainKaveman

Tell him to masturbate if he really is that desperate.

if I told my dp that id rather have a seperate room to the kids so we could have sex, and he was snippy about it and told me i could wank if i was that desperate, then id honestly think differently about us. Id feel that he was treating me as if i was some sort of pervert We usually discuss what things we are prepared to compromise on and what we arent. Wanting a seperate room is hardly insisting that you are going to be swinging from the chandeliers all fortnight. It just means youve got the option for some adult space and sometimes that means sex. I really do hate the way that some people are so negative about even normal sexual needs and wants in relationships

Except paying thousands extra for it is the problem. Life is a series of compromises.

Id never go in one room anyway but sex can happen, in the bathroom , in bed late when the kids are asleep, or are they teens???

It sounds horrendous, we did it for a few nights, it was a nightmare. They wouldn’t go to sleep because we were all in there, and then once they had we couldn’t do anything, we ended up sitting out on the corridor so we could have a conversation.

I also think that part of the objective of a holiday is to relax and get some down time so for me having the whole family in one room would sort of undermine the point of it. Not so much because of the sex, just I would find it really stressful to have everyone on top of one another. I'd rather do a much cheaper, more local holiday and have two rooms.

That said I would never go to Disneyland anyway so...

On our honeymoon we had two separate rooms

@ImInStealthMode I think there is always a lot of snobbery around places like Disney.

@thepeopleversuswork people do not go to Disneyland for downtime.

We always put DD to bed at the same time as us on holiday. We've never gone back to the room early and sat there ourselves while she's in bed. Usually I'm the one suggesting we go back to the room while she's wanting to stay up with her holiday mates. In Orlando there's so much to do at night, you won't be in your room before 10pm. I had about two alcoholic drinks the whole time we were there as I was too tired to even be bothered about that.

There's a bathroom!

@ImInStealthMode

Mumsnet is a funny old place. I work for a travel company and I'd say maybe 85-90% of the family bookings we make are for everyone sharing one room.

Yet here on Mumsnet 85-90% of respondents are appalled by the idea.

I would pick a Disney hotel on site over an off-site suite or villa every single time. Sex or the lack of it wouldn't come into it on that type of holiday, not least because of how exhausted everyone is at the end of every day!

Our very first vacation in WDW was WDW Caribbean Beach. Next was Port Orleans Riverside, then French Quarter. Then we did Art of Animation and Animal Kingdom Lodge and finally the Cabins at FW. Whilst these were fabulous holidays, they lacked space and were very expensive. That’s when we decided to try off-site and we chose Bahama Bay resort, a two-bedroom condo. It was gorgeous. We had loads of space. The pools were empty. There was space to relax and grounds and wildlife to explore. We never looked back.

We do still stay at Disney resorts, but we do a few nights within our larger vacation and this allows us to stay at places like Yacht Club, The Poly and Wilderness Lodge, which we could never afford to stay in for the full duration of our holidays.

Since opting for off-site, we have been able to double the length of time we stay in Florida to 4 weeks and still save money on what we spent on WDW resorts.

I’m not saying WDW resorts are bad. We love to resort hop. But in the grand scheme, the Disney Resort basic rooms are just slightly more themed versions of the Clarion Inn or the Doubletree and it’s inevitable that some families may find this more of a squeeze than others.

[quote astery]@thepeopleversuswork people do not go to Disneyland for downtime.[/quote]
No indeed. It's a lose lose. No culture, no sightseeing, no relaxation, just spunking money up the wall.