Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

I do not think 2 weeks in one room is a big deal when you are having busy days.
We have done a week camping and that is much more challenging.
I think this is about middle-class families on MN who would never stay anywhere except a villa in Florida, but who would camp for a week in Devon or Cornwall.
And yes I know you get separate pods in a tent, but there are no walls so your kids and neighbours can hear everything.

I think this is a budget issue, I’d rather spend my money on being near the theme park, food and activities than on a bigger living space, even if it was at the expense of intimacy, I can have sex at home, I don’t want to spend my holiday budget on a bigger room just for that reason.

I don't think it's necessarily just about sex, it's a proxy for all the things you won't be able to do whilst you're stuck in the same room as your kids for 2 weeks.
That said, paying money to put myself in a position where I was sexless for 2 weeks (I'm including masturbation in this), would not be something I would do willingly.

We did Disney
You’re barely in your rooms apart from sleeping
Can he not cope for 2 weeks? Bloody hell

@Ericaequites

Florida is Hell with worse food and less interesting people. Why not go to Boston, visit civilized historic attractions, and enjoy a much better climate?

I'm glad you don't like Florida because we wouldn't want you here with an attitude like that! We don't want to share our amazing food and great climate (nine months of the year anyway) with you.

@DeadlyMedally so you would never go camping?

OP has long disappeared but my 2 cents are if it is first/only trip to Orlando then closeness to the action would be my priority. The action being the resort I had traveled half way round the world to visit.
Similar threads about family hotel rooms in European beach resorts would garner different responses.

[quote astery]@DeadlyMedally so you would never go camping?[/quote]
I've been camping, it's never stopped me having sex.

@DeadlyMedally that surprises me. Your kids are literally in the same space separated by a tiny bit of canvas.

Jesus. What a dick!

@DeadlyMedally Basically if you would have sex while your young kids are in the same tent, you would have sex in a shared family room. There is no real difference.
I would not.

I can't imagine the whole family staying in one hotel room for two whole weeks! When our kids were younger we found it worked for a day or two at a time, but any longer than that we would need somewhere with separate sleeping quarters for the kids.

It's not just about, or even mostly about, sex, although I do think that's part of what makes a good holiday. With more time to relax, away from the stresses of everyday life, we tend to have more sex than at home and that's part of the enjoyment of a holiday, even one with the children.

But not having anywhere to relax in the evening after the kids have gone to bed, always having to tiptoe around, limited space for everyone's things, no washer and dryer, etc. That just wouldn't be enjoyable for more than two or three days.

This would be something where I would compromise elsewhere to be able to afford the extra space. Maybe even making it a 10 day holiday rather than 2 weeks.

So I don't think your husband is being unreasonable. Maybe he shouldn't have phrased it as being all about the sex - although you should be glad that he finds that to be an important factor, but I bet it would be a much more enjoyable holiday with separate bedrooms.

I won't buy tents where the bedrooms are all next to each other because we can't have sex if the DCs are a foot away (and camping makes me horny). We only camp for 4/5 nights. Definitely wouldn't want to share a room for a fortnight!
However, I've never taken DCs to a hotel, I like space.

I much prefer a villa near WDW or stay in the WDW Fort Wilderness Cabins...you’ll have a bit more privacy and that resort is delightful, deer roaming around, lots to do including horse riding and canoeing. The Disney hotels are wonderfully themed and always worth a visit, but in terms of room size and layout, think motels.

It's only two weeks I don't really get the issue tbh...

@8monthsinandcranky

We plan to take our 2 to do Disney/universal in years to come and had the same convo. DH assumed they’d be in a separate room but honestly the price difference of having 2 rooms for a 2 week stay really puts me off! Easily £2.5-3k extra and that’s in a mid range hotel like yacht club. Not taking into account trusting 2 under 11’s and extra tips for cleaning...etc

Suggested we drop down to one of the budget hotels like AOA or pop century where you can get family suits with living spaces but DH not interested.

I’d honestly rather go 2 weeks without sex than pay up to 4K more. Plus all the parents I know who have been said they same thing, it’s a fab but totally exhausting holiday and they were passed out as soon as the kids were on a night 😂

There are a million kids clubs though so maybe suggest to DH that you stick the kids in a couple of those over the course of 2 weeks and give yourselves a couple of hours free in the room

You know very little about WDW!

For two weeks, it would not cost £2.5-3k more for a mid range like the Yacht Club, because the Yacht Club is not mid range and you would not get a room for less than £4k and likely much more. A suite at Pop Century or Art of Animation is going to be about £6k for two weeks, so it is not the cheap option that has been suggested. The villa that the OPs husband has suggested would be cheaper than most standard roomS at WDW and about a third of the price of a suite.

Also there are not millions of kid clubs at WDW. The idea of WDW is that you take them with you to the parks, not put them in kid clubs.

[quote astery]@DeadlyMedally that surprises me. Your kids are literally in the same space separated by a tiny bit of canvas.[/quote]
I don't have kids .
If I did I'd out them in a separate tent and far enough away that they couldn't hear a conversation happening in my tent.
If they were too young for that to be viable, I probably wouldn't go camping.

@DeadlyMedally if you do not have kids, then this isn't really a relevant discussion for you.
You can't put young kids in a separate tent, just as you cant put them in a separate villa.

@Littlefluffyclouds13
Maybe if you're eating in the worst of the counter service offerings; we prefer the actual restaurants like Boathouse, Teppan Edo, Yak and Yeti, Jiko, Boma etc which serve international cuisine and are pretty much all in the top 100 restaurants in Orlando. The food is a huge part of our holiday, and partly the reason we won't return until the dining plan comes back.

Isn't that a standard holiday with little ones?

When we went we had a suite so not all in together, the next time we had an apartment, there is no way Id have all 4 of us in one room for that long !!!

I think your husband sounds very shallow - he needs to recognise a trip to Disney is primarily for the kids
He needs to get over himself frankly

I personally think things like this are a bit of a red flag 🚩

[quote Unihorn]@Littlefluffyclouds13
Maybe if you're eating in the worst of the counter service offerings; we prefer the actual restaurants like Boathouse, Teppan Edo, Yak and Yeti, Jiko, Boma etc which serve international cuisine and are pretty much all in the top 100 restaurants in Orlando. The food is a huge part of our holiday, and partly the reason we won't return until the dining plan comes back.[/quote]
Boathouse - the steamed honey rolls and the blueberry cheesecake 🤤

Teppan Edo - so fresh and tasty! Fab entertainment.

Yak & Yeti - Hit and miss for us, but we used to love the pineapple and cream cheese wontons.

Jiko - very expensive for what we had, much prefer Narcoossee’s for the twin lobster tails and almond encrusted cheesecake.

Boma - not keen on buffet so get the Zebra domes from the QS and eat at Sanaa instead.

You’re right though, there are some fabulous restaurants at WDW.

Have you done Cali Grill? ‘Ohana? Morimoto Asia? Homecoming’? All fabulous! Coral Reef (for the views)?

@omgthepain

I think your husband sounds very shallow - he needs to recognise a trip to Disney is primarily for the kids He needs to get over himself frankly

I personally think things like this are a bit of a red flag 🚩

Hate it when people say ;its for the kids ' noooooo its for EVERYONE !! We went and loads of couples there without kids, loads of teens, loads of older people, and families, it really isnt just for kids..........................

Oh and a Crystal Palace breakfast! The breakfast lasagne 😍