Husband booked a holiday,I don't want to do,aibu?

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My husband has booked a holiday for the half term.
I thought fab,just what we need...till he told me he has bought a 6 man tent and we are going away to Scotland for a week in a tent.
He's booked a parkdene tent holiday.
It was £155 for 4 of us and he has paid £700 for a tent.
He has bought sleeping bags,fridge etc
He said it's to save money.

Aibu here ?
A week in a tent in Scotland with 2 kids who don't sleep anyway.
I'm not high maintenance but I'm worried about the toilet /shower situation

I'm not happy

He didn't even discuss it with you?! I'd be fuming.
Would he be okay with you booking a holiday of your choosing that you knew he wouldn't enjoy and expecting him to come along?

Why didn't he discuss it with you before booking it?

How did he book it all without discussing it with you? I literally can't imagine a world where my husband would book a holiday without some conversation about where it would be.

Also a 700£ tent is serious kit if you're not regular campers. Is it a site with toilets and showers and a playground? Do you have a back up plan if its constantly raining? What age are the children?

Why not try it? It could be fantastic

I wouldn't go

Wave them all off and have a relaxing time at home.

That’s what I’d do if DH ever books a camping trip. I don’t do camping, he knows it.

I wouldn’t stop him going with the children though

Not being unreasonable, it sounds like you haven’t really done a camping holiday so it’s not like he booked something he knows you enjoy without consulting you. Has he really saved money, it’s cost money with the new tent and accessories which you might never use again...

He does random things like this all the time.
It drives me barmy.
It's a park that has caravans etc and they have a entertainment every night /pool etc
It's just the thought of sleeping in a tent for a week.
Knowing our luck it will rain every day.

He's never put a tent up in his life ..he probably expects me to help him build it.
I can't even put u a flat pack table up from IKEA with instructions never mind a tent !

*put up

He randomly books stuff for you assuming you'll just go along with it? That sounds a bit controlling.

I wanted to do a holiday over half term that my husband has zero interest in. He also doesn't like not having his own loo and separate bedrooms. I'm taking the kids and he's working over half term.
We have a week booked in the summer that we are all going on, but I didn't want to miss out just because it doesn't appeal to him. Is it too late to cancel your annual leave?

You could probably stay on the same site in a static caravan for the same length of time for less than he paid for the tent. Would you go if he returns the tent and books better accommodation?

Which park is it? Some of them have really lovely surroundings.

Sounds like hell! I would send him on his way with dc and stay at home. No way I would go after not being consulted. For the money he has spent on the tent and site to could have hired a nice lodge/cottage with toilets and showers.

Tell him to go on his own while you put your feet up.

This would not be my idea of a holiday at all and I would refuse to go. Camping in Scotland = rain and midges. My childhood was full of such trips and they were mostly really shit.

I'd tell him he's taking the kids alone and enjoy my week on my own. Yes, I really would. Fuck that.

I wouldn't go. Just say you're not up for it. It sounds awful. Scotland will be freezing for a start.

Those sites are pretty well set up and the loo/shower situation will be fine.

Sounds like he’s booked a pitch with an electric hook up if he’s bought a fridge.

You might fine the fresh air totally zonks the kids out.

It's the park in Dumfries
I would have enjoyed a nice caravan
I fancied center parcs.
He bought the tent on eBay too which makes it worse as he can't return it.
So looks like we are stuck with it.

Is it the one in dumfries? Southerness?

@CassandraTrotter yes that's the one.

@Singlebutmarried

Those sites are pretty well set up and the loo/shower situation will be fine.

Sounds like he’s booked a pitch with an electric hook up if he’s bought a fridge.

You might fine the fresh air totally zonks the kids out.

Not if you don't care to share a loo and shower.

And she will be fine, staying at home and letting him deal with it all.

Which parkdean? I’m not a camper, I’d hate it tbh and who books something like that did their family and doesn’t consult the family first?...I wouldn’t go either
Tell him to have a fun time on his own

Fuck that.

No, I don’t think I’d fancy that at all.

You could tell him to book a caravan for you and sleep in the tent himself!

Or keep the tent for when it’s summer.