Right i've quoted to single replies, but I'll just @ back on here ( or make another separate blanket @ back posts if my reply here is too long for Mumsnet... ) I'm not sure if I'll be answering any more hopefully what I answer in this thread is enough... gonna be long answers again but can't help it.
@FindYourPorpoise
I understand but when i'm asking men his age irl and they're basically fobbing off the idea that he's not creepy then it make me think maybe it's just me.... needed women's perspective...
@Couldhavebeenme2 lol
@AccountCreateUsername I put the TLDR in the comments by accident, was typing on phone.
@Badtasteflump already answered...
@Wearywithteens Yep life has been shit, looking a bit better though. And no, sadly it's real. The requests, fetishes, the things that happen on Adultwork, you never know what's f* coming next.
@WorraLiberty SW= Sex Worker/Sex Work AW= Adultwork.
@RickiTarr i've gotten creeps before, I was doubting my judgement because the men his age ive vented to irl don't think he's creepy just immature/bad luck/stupid to settle down with someone so young.... And your other question.... I got into SW because I wasn't holding any jobs down.... so SW was my main income but i still looked for a job but when I entered it I was still living at home so wasnt paying bills as such... but I never did it full time, it was still kinda off/on now it's just completly off/on just the good paying clients really or domming. i'm still studying and I work part time at a tutition centre ( like kumon).
@merryhouse i've encounted creeps before in sw nothing new...... but actually I have met nice guys and had a bf while doing this ( also had a ex client turned bf who was kind of my age who was a twat but different story...)
@ChaToilLeam @AnyFucker @MrsTulipTattsyrup @Mamamamasaurus @flaminjono @AFS1 @Penistoe @3scape @HostessTrolley no disagreements.
@Anonymous48 thanks for validation.
@Miasicarisatia he makes around 50k a year, not poor but just not going to be paying me £2k a month + hermes bag. i've answered your other question but to answer your other two questions.. wasn't trying to be offensive with baby mum, not all but i guess generally that's how people my age speak? it's not meant to degrade anyone. He calls them by their name tbh. And yes validation.... because asking/venting to men his age irl which i havent met through sw don't think he's creepy at all ....... needed to make sure I wasn't a bitch for thinking this man is a creepy b**
@Miasicarisatia and no I don't need help with screening, I know about ugly mugs and the rest, back in hey day I had a good driver, I check reviews, I put live location on whatsapp to a few friends and tell them address etc, I tell clients in anice way, my drivers outside/ my friends just want to send live location... when he said the 3rd ran away, I immediatly throught guys abusive, he seems ok but could turn, where he lives and where he drives me it's so quiet he could bury me if he wanted to and no one would find out so I now tell him to come near me in a city... he was fine with that.
@nimbuscloud lol
@HollowTalk maybe the post is too long and TLDR is also a bit long and not clear but basically i've vented irl to men his age ( 40-50) and they literally said " oh if the third one ran away then either he's not emotionally his age or he's bad at choosing partners " and " he's stupid, 16/17 year olds want to party not settle down " I was gobsmacked as the response.... but then started thinking maybe it is me....... maybe things were that different years back...needed opinion from women to clarify ...
@Namechangeforthis88 agreed..... tbh he keeps pushing for a relationship and i'm like nope ......... it's made him back off a bit from me oh well... but still paying car insurance and repairs for me...
@Bambini12 how did you get out of it?
@PriestessofPing I don't believe being a sex worker or sugar baby means putting up with everything, yes creeps timewasters etc will bound to come knocking but still... and no that's not my question.. maybe the post is too long and TLDR is also a bit long and not clear but basically i've vented irl to men his age ( 40-50) and they literally said " oh if the third one ran away then either he's not emotionally his age or he's bad at choosing partners " and " he's stupid, 16/17 year olds want to party not settle down " I was gobsmacked as the response.... but then started thinking maybe it is me....... maybe things were that different years back...needed opinion from women to clarify
@ThinWomansBrain I don't choose to work for just him and pretend it's sugaring not sex work............ that's not what I said.... I said he's kinda a sugar daddy, the only benefit is that he pays and given me a practice car and pays the insurance and repairs.... he pushed for relationship, i said no, so he asked if i can be his sugar baby, so no it's not proper sugaring but stil benefits.. I know i'm going to attract creeps but i've vented to men his age irl and they don't think he's creepy while I do I wanted opinions from women his age and in general too..
@ThinWomansBrain I didn't mean the term offensivly ... but really? I deverse to be with a creep because I used the wrong term? I didn't even use a slur ffs...
@TimetohittheroadJack @Streamside he makes 50k a year, not poor but not rich. I said he's kinda a sugar daddy, the only benefit is that he pays and given me a practice car and pays the insurance and repairs.... he pushed for relationship, i said no, so he asked if i can be his sugar baby, so no it's not proper sugaring but stil benefits.
@FrankButchersDickieBow thanks.
@TattyDevine it's not that it's not working out... men his age that ik irl don't think he's creepy, I do, wanted opinions from women his age ( basically wanted validation that i'm right that he's creepy af and i'm not losing my mind)
@BinocularVision nope, basically men ik in rl i've told them the situation and they don't think hes creepy just immature/unlucky and stupid for thinking the girls would settle down with them. I always thought creepy from 3rd girl running away and he doesn't know where she is to this day. I wanted validation that i'm not losing my marbles to think he's creepy really.... he wants a relationship I always say no clearly.
@Theworldisfullofgs life's hard when you can't hold down a job but still look for normal work while selling your body... btw I remember reading on MM years ago about a woman who told her husband to take her drunk friend home, he slept with the drunk friend, told her about it and said he's going to see her again and the woman agreed, she may not be a SW but I think she has less self respect than someone who profits off her body,no? for some reason from what I remember no one told here she didn't have self respect...
@EineReiseDurchDieZeit @EarringsandLipstick I wasn't trying to be offensive, I mean i'm pretty sure lalalalaletmeexplain uses the term baby mum aswell and i'm sure she's generally seen as a pioneer of empowering women...
@Spidey66 I use contraception. He pays and paid for my pratice car, and pays the isurance, i've already told him i'm not entering a relationship with a client again and it has to be an arrangement only... i can't hold down jobs the job i now have i hold down but it's a student type job that pays shit, I'm basically learning to drive with his pratice car so that I can get a job involving driving and then when i pass my test i'll nicely LBB.... friends think creepy, family doesn't know... as far as aware doesn't missue drugs or alochol.
@Sn0tnose @AgentJohnson hit the nail on the head really. lol he keeps trying but the answers no, he pays car, car insurance, repairs and pays me, as long as i pass my test..... i'm gone. ( i'm trying to pass my test to get a driving job as stable job/base i don't hold jobs down really). and to keep myself safe with him I use methods I use with new clients and I tell him to come near me and not his ( he lives in rural are i live in city), deffo no plan to be bb#4
@MadMadMadamMim @whatnow41 @Aspiringmatriarch @EveningOverRooftops @CPsRus @Havisham @RamsayBoltonsConscience @Justilou1 @Babygotblueyes fairs
@Dontbeme yeah he is, but I always say no.
@TooMuchAndNotEnough loooooool, for some people reading over three paragraphs on the net is a novel, at least everyone got a double warning that my post wasn't going to be near short though.