Is this dress OK?

[User72651]

Is this dress OK for my partner's mum to wear to my wedding (mother of the groom)? I just see a long white dress:

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I would not confuse her with the bride

Does your MIL already bought this dress? Just asking as it’s out of stock now. 😉
Not sure it’s the style I would go for if my DS gets married , I think it’s just a summer dress and not anything special. Also agree with people who says no one should wear white at the wedding except the bride.

I don't think it's too white. I quite like it for a wedding.

Unless you have a dress code for your wedding, I wouldn't say anything.

It's difficult navigating weddings, some people hate black or white of any discription at their wedding. I think it's best to be upfront about what you expect people to wear, if you don't want any bit of white.

One of my brothers had a black tie wedding, I wore a fab black dress and silver accessories, he and his wife didn't speak to me for 2 years...

You would have hated my wedding, it was all white, everyone wore white.

I don't think it's bridal but I do think it's too white tbh. The floral pattern is too spaced out and shows too much of the white background I think so I personally wouldn't wear it to a wedding just in case any offence was caused. I just think there are sooo many dresses in sooo many colours out there so why would you risk causing an upset by going for one that's white?! For the sake of family harmony I wouldn't say anything if MIL decided to wear it but I do think others might comment on it behind her back.

Who honestly thinks it’s possible to upstage the bride?!

I didn’t care what colour people wore to my wedding. My MIL wore a white silk jacket and cami and looked stunning (I helped her choose it).

@YourSexNotGenderIsOnFire

I think it's a bit too white tbh. I wouldn't wear it to a wedding.

This.

I admit I haven't RTFT but when i first clicked on it said that the dress was no longer available.

Is your future MIL that sort of size as obviously it would look completely different on some with a different figure.

I think any potential ‘ill effect’ on your photos is not worth how you will make your MIL feel if you tell her you don’t want her to wear that dress. My SIL caused a huge fuss about my mum’s outfit for my brother’s wedding (apparently it was too similar to her own mum’s outfit - it wasn’t, it was totally fine) and it completely ruined it for my mum. It was so sad after my mum had searched and searched for the perfect outfit and she was so excited and it totally took the wind out of her sails. I don’t think she’s felt the same about my SIL since.

Too white.

It’s a lovely summer dress. It doesn’t look like a wedding dress. Just leave it.

Etiquette? Are you from a Jane Austen novel? Sorry, I think you’re being precious 😳

Surely in this instance it's only bad etiquette IF the bride would be bothered, otherwise who cares?

My friend had all her bridesmaids in white as well as her, looked gorgeous. Were they breaking etiquette? No because she was okay with it. So the dress itself doesn't intrinsically break etiquette, it depends how the bride feels. I didn't wear white (I wore green velvet) so someone wearing white didn't bother me at all and the dress didn't break etiquette because there was no "too similar to the bride".

So either you're bothered (which tbh I think would be unreasonable as it's evidently not bridal or anything close - but your call and you could tell her you think she's being rude/breaking etiquette because you believe it's too similar to a wedding dress...) OR you're not bothered as you can see it's clearly not a wedding dress nor the same as your bridesmaids dress in which case problem solved.

I just see a long white dress

@User72651 Something wrong with how you're looking at it (presumably you're not a fan of your MiL and tend to read malice into her behaviour.) It might be white, but has a large yellow floral print, not like a wedding dress. The sleeves aren't anything like those on most wedding dresses, either. I'm imaging someone pairiing it with a lemon-coloured hat.

It's a lovely dress. Do you object in some way?

I think all these threads with dresses which are floral with a white background can be answered with "fine, as long as no white accessories",

Do all these etiquette obsessed brides observe etiquette in their daily lives? What would that even involve?

It's absolutely fine!

I just can't even.

Oh, fgs. It's fine. Don't be silly.

It’s your wedding if you think it’ll make your photos ‘too white’ then ask her to choose something different.

If you’re fine with it, then say it’s fine?

I think it’s perfectly fine and these threads are getting more and more ridiculous about summer dresses with a white background and other floral colours.

It’s not bridal or bridesmaid-y in any way. Solid white no but it’s not. The bride is always the bride but crickey other people will wear pale colours at a summer wedding and this is perfect acceptable.

Well, it's YOUR wedding, literally the only person who cares is you.

So if you're happy with it then all good.

If you're not then by all means tell another grown woman what she can and cannot wear to an event where noone else will give a fig what she's wearing.

The dress is fine. In fact it's great and the photos will be too as long as everyone in them is smiling because they're having a lovely and relaxed day with their loved ones.

@User72651
My bridesmaid dresses are essentially the same - a pale champagne colour with smaller yellow flowers.

In that case, it's perfect for the mother of the groom as it's in-keeping with the bridesmaids.

We can only view it from a photo and to me, the big yellow flowers are evident and bold, so I don't see it looking plain or 'white dress' in the slightest - in fact I think it's quite clever that she's found a dress which compliments the bridesmaids so well.

It's a great dress for mother of bride / groom. Doesnt look remotely bridal. I imagine it with a big hat.

We had two main wedding colours. My DM wore one, my MIL wore the other. I thought it was great that they looking part of the wedding party.