Is this dress OK?

[User72651]

Is this dress OK for my partner's mum to wear to my wedding (mother of the groom)? I just see a long white dress:

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It's fine.

Yes

Well I dislike the dress but I can’t for the life of me understand how you can only see a long white dress. Did you post the wrong link?

If you posted the right link and you’re just being all hysterical calm yourself down, there is nothing bridal about that.

@Bluntness100

Well I dislike the dress but I can’t for the life of me understand how you can only see a long white dress. Did you post the wrong link?

If you posted the right link and you’re just being all hysterical calm yourself down, there is nothing bridal about that.

That seems a very sexist comment. I am in no way 'hysterical'! How on earth does posting on a forum to say "what do people think of this, I'm not too sure, do you think it's OK?" constitute as hysterical?!

I think it's too white to wear to a wedding, especially if you are in the bridal party. I'm traditional when it comes to weddings and think there are so many coloured dresses out there to choose from, it's bad manners to choose something predominantly white.

Well you didn’t say you weren’t too sure, you said all you could see was a long white dress.,.and men can be as hysterical as women.

Look I get you don’t like the answers, but the truth is there is nothing bridal about that dress, so as said, calm yourself down.

Very appropriate mother of the bride/groom type outfit.

What are your bridesmaids dresses like? Yellow?
Is the issue that you've told her the colour/style of them and she's bought this deliberately?

Is your dress a traditional style wedding dress? That's obviously a wedding dress? If so, I really don't think there's anything to be concerned about.

If your dress is non traditional and could be worn to a different occasion, I can see why you might question it, but unless MIL knows what you are wearing she can't be acused of being inappropriate.

My mil and grandmother in law both wore lilac, which was the colour the bridesmaids wore. I could not have given a crap and the photos were lovely.

@Bluntness100

Well you didn’t say you weren’t too sure, you said all you could see was a long white dress.,.and men can be as hysterical as women.

Look I get you don’t like the answers, but the truth is there is nothing bridal about that dress, so as said, calm yourself down.

Some people have said they also think it's too white so I feel asking the question is justified.

@Janaih

Very appropriate mother of the bride/groom type outfit.

What are your bridesmaids dresses like? Yellow?
Is the issue that you've told her the colour/style of them and she's bought this deliberately?

My bridesmaid dresses are essentially the same - a pale champagne colour with smaller yellow flowers.

Someone posted a similar dress on a thread recently and asked if she could wear to a wedding and everyone said no, it was too white. So.....I have no idea. I guess it depends whether you care about these things or not?

not remotely bridal - Bridezilla or what? are you monitoring all of the guests clothing?

Op can you post a link to your bridesmaid dresses? This is getting confusing, because you said in your op all you saw was a long white dress, and now you’re saying it’s the same as your bridesmaids dresses which means you think all your bridesmaids are wearing long white dresses?

I think your point about too much white on the photos is reasonable because she’s your MIL and she will be standing close to you in a lot of small group shots. If she were to accessorise with a lot of bold yellow, it would help.

Personally the dress in general wouldn't bother me if someone wore it to my wedding but can't judge it against the bridesmaid dresses until I see them tbh

There was a thread the other week with a dress similar to this that the op was wondering about wearing to a wedding and the gen consensus was no, if you’re not sure don’t do it, you won’t know how the bride will feel. Strange that you’re not getting similar replies.

Personally I wouldn’t wear this to a wedding, I think it is too long and white.

I think it is fine for wedding guest tbh but I would let her know that the bridesmaids dresses are very similar. She might choose something else to wear. If she already knows and matched on purpose...

@honeyytoast

There was a thread the other week with a dress similar to this that the op was wondering about wearing to a wedding and the gen consensus was no, if you’re not sure don’t do it, you won’t know how the bride will feel. Strange that you’re not getting similar replies.

Personally I wouldn’t wear this to a wedding, I think it is too long and white.

Haha probably if I posted as a reverse saying I'm the mother of the groom I would get those replies

I never realised brides get involved in what other people wear.
If you decide its not suitable, what will you do? Tell her she can't wear it?

Yes, there’s definitely enough print on there to make it not white enough.

It’s completely fine and would not have even crossed my mind to be bothered by it. The only time I’ve ever been at a guest’s choice of dress was when the groom’s sister wore a floor-length pale silver beaded and sequined evening gown. Wasn’t technically white but was very, very bridal and I did a proper double-take when I saw it. But even then, it’s not like everyone there didn’t know who the bride was!

I promise that on the day you won’t give a monkey’s about whether there’s ‘too much’ white in your photos.

If you're really going to pick this as a hill to die on with your future MIL over some abstract idea of "etiquette" and photos "toning", or something... Enjoy your marriage!

Its totally fine, you can't control what your guests wear, try not to overthink it.

It’s ok but...looks a bit dressing gown like to me. Am looking for mum of the groom outfit as well and I’d not wear that because of the style. It’s a bit , well dressing gown ish .

It's absolutely fine