Is this dress OK?

[User72651]

Is this dress OK for my partner's mum to wear to my wedding (mother of the groom)? I just see a long white dress:

www.shopittome.com/sale/archived/abv6ad8eb88

Lovely predominantly white dress. As posters up thread have highlighted this would work with non white presumably yellow accessories. However as you have asked for opinions as not entirely sure - it would be more ideal for a non white dress to to keep everyone happy? When photographing it may be more white than expected in certain lighting conditions etc.

Well yes I agree with most others, along the lines of: it's on the light side but obviously not a wedding dress.

I don't want to sound harsh, but it comes over a little that you are angling for ways to get annoyed with her. If she is trying to provoke you, don't give her any satisfaction.

In think it’s fine! Not bridal.

When photographing it may be more white than expected in certain lighting conditions etc.

Who gives a shit, though. The photos aren't evidence in a court case. If an outfit is fine in person it's fine in the photos.

I just wouldn't wear anything black or white to a wedding, it's not the done thing.

Having said that, my MIL wore all black and it still fucks me off to this day. We had a summer wedding and she looked like Morticia Adams.

How strange to even need to ask of course it’s fine

Its absolutely fine, does not look like a wedding dress at all. Did you definitely post the right link? I see a yellow and black floral dress on a white background.

I think it’s fine . But does she know the bridesmaids dresses are similar , it might be embarrassing for her?

Totally fine

Too white!

Tbh I think long white dresses should ALWAYS be avoided at weddings, regardless of any concessions like flowers etc. It’s not like there aren’t millions of colours to choose from, so why pick the one that might cause upset? Not to mention that if I saw someone wearing a long white dress to a wedding I would assume they were a sad sack trying (albeit unsuccessfully) to draw attention to themselves at the expense of the bride.

@dayslikethese1

Someone posted a similar dress on a thread recently and asked if she could wear to a wedding and everyone said no, it was too white. So.....I have no idea. I guess it depends whether you care about these things or not?

Yes. I guarantee if you were a guest proposing to wear it you'd have your arse handed to you. Nowt so queer as MN folk

I’m astonished at the answers. Totally not fine and I’d be upset if my MIL wore this to my wedding. OP - I think it’s really bad form of your MIL but as to what you can do about it, not much I think. To raise it with her would be rude and would risk bad feeling which will be more of a dampener on the day than her making a wardrobe misstep.
Can you take comfort in having the moral high ground (and being right )

@FindingMeno

I never realised brides get involved in what other people wear. If you decide its not suitable, what will you do? Tell her she can't wear it?

this exactly....going all bridezilla on your mother in law is not a great idea

@PacifyLulu

I’m astonished at the answers. Totally not fine and I’d be upset if my MIL wore this to my wedding. OP - I think it’s really bad form of your MIL but as to what you can do about it, not much I think. To raise it with her would be rude and would risk bad feeling which will be more of a dampener on the day than her making a wardrobe misstep. Can you take comfort in having the moral high ground (and being right )

I'm astounded that you are astounded TBH. Why would you be upset? Do you have self esteem issues?

If someone wore a white dress with flowers on it to my wedding I wouldn't be the least bit upset. If I liked it I would compliment the wearer.

@PacifyLulu

I’m astonished at the answers. Totally not fine and I’d be upset if my MIL wore this to my wedding. OP - I think it’s really bad form of your MIL but as to what you can do about it, not much I think. To raise it with her would be rude and would risk bad feeling which will be more of a dampener on the day than her making a wardrobe misstep. Can you take comfort in having the moral high ground (and being right )

Well I’m astonished that anyone would be upset about a dress with yellow flowers on.

Bridezilla rises to new heights on MN.

@RampantIvy snap

It doesn’t look bridal to me at all. However I do think it’s too white, especially for a bridal party member to wear. Maybe I’m out of touch but I thought this was still seen as bad manners and don’t see the need to choose a mostly white dress when there are so many other lovely options to choose from

You should have posted in S&B.
It's too white

Well ftr, I'd tell a guest posting about it that it was fine.

But there's a perfectly legitimate difference between advising a guest not to wear something which might have the potential to cause bad feeling, and advising a bride not to begin her marriage with a stupid pointless feud with her MIL.

It's fine. It's not a wedding dress or anything that could be confused for one.

I like it. I'd wear this to a wedding without giving it a second thought tbh.

I was going to post that there was nothing wrong with it as it has coloured flowers that can be used to help accessorize. But then you posted to say it’s like your bridesmaids dresses. In that case I’d probably be raising an eyebrow at that especially if your MIL knows about their dresses.

One of my friends asked what colour my bridesmaids were wearing months before my wedding. She turned up on the day wearing an outfit the same colour that she had asked someone to make for her.

It’s a bit , well dressing gown ish

I just looked again and you are so right. Now I can’t see it as anything else!

since when has it become acceptable for anyone to have a say in what a guest wears to a wedding, how precious and controlling.

My mum & mil wore the same colour as my bridesmaids but in a different shade. I thought it was nice as then they all felt part of the wedding party.