to think this is a stealth post or am I a miserable cow?

[Sternschnuppe]

I'm due to start a new job in June. It's a complete remote position and I'll be training for four weeks at the beginning with other new starters.

I don't know any of the people I'll be training with, but today I saw on LinkedIn that one of the HR people at the company who headhunted me liked a post of one of the new starters at the company.

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life"

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?

Check out @StateOfLinkedin on twitter for similar

Very cringey but inoffensive

The use of the word blessed (in the millennial sense) makes me shudder though.

😂

I say again - if you use LinkedIn (and don't just want to have an anonymous moan about how other people seem to be getting ahead via the time-honoured means of self-promotion) everyone here can set the example by using it better themselves, if they are not already. What I mean by this is: if you post on LI, have a purpose which goes beyond boasting about how great you are. Instead, share some expertise which people might be interested to know, to uplift them, or make them think or reflect (although accept that there are always going to be a few who steadfastly do not want to participate and think it cringey). It is like anything to do with work (and life) - the inexperienced people learn and imitate skills from the experienced people (and then take these on to the next stage). The experienced people should do useful, non-cringey LinkedIn posts - and then the next generation may copy them

@Whatshouldicallme

YANBU, it's a humblebrag in the middle of a pandemic which has affected the jobs of many. Completely tone deaf. I'm shocked at the number of people that seem to think this is okay?!

You're shocked that someone announced their new job on a career network site?

I'm torn, I'm happy to see young women be confident and be proud of their successes, but I think 'I feel so blessed' is just a smidgen less annoying than #blessed.

It’s a bit ott but what ever floats their boat.

‘YANBU, it's a humblebrag in the middle of a pandemic which has affected the jobs of many. Completely tone deaf. I'm shocked at the number of people that seem to think this is okay?!’

@Whatshouldicallme but it’s good that people are finally able to find work again! Are people supposed to remain unemployed so as not to offend others?

LinkedIn isn't for crappy posts like that. YANBU she should have saved it for Facebook.

What I really hate, and I cannot possibly explain how much, is people at work who feel they need to have an opinion about you ( in some cases, apparently, before you even walk in the door).

Someone posts something in social media? - you don't need to have an opinion
Someone has or doesn't have a baby? - you don't need to have an opinion
Someone gets married/divorced? - you don't need to have an opinion
Someone is X years old and in Y job? - you don't need to have an opinion
You saw someone in town doing something with someone? - you don't need to have an opinion
Someone eats salad/10 happy meals for lunch? - you don't need to have an opinion

In a shared spreadsheet, someone links to multiple individual cells in Excel, rather than doing a proper formula that finds what it's supposed to be look for, every time? - have a fucking opinion. Have it fast, have it hard and have it loudly. Because that's your work, and, for a change, your business.

For the rest - look to your own life for entertainment. If you get bored doing that, the solution is quite obvious.

It’s cheesy and pedestrian. But it doesn’t tell you whether this person will be delightful or a twat / not sure why you are bothered.

@dudsville

Let other people live their lives differently to you. This isn't how I communicate, but I respect her right to communicate this way.

I have to say I don’t respect people who behave like this. It’s like giving your boss a present. It’s just wrong. Not narcissistic, but what used to be called sucking up.

@partyatthepalace

It’s cheesy and pedestrian. But it doesn’t tell you whether this person will be delightful or a twat / not sure why you are bothered.

It gives you a bit of a clue, to be fair 😂

Advance brown-nosing

@nongnangning

I say again - if you use LinkedIn (and don't just want to have an anonymous moan about how other people seem to be getting ahead via the time-honoured means of self-promotion) everyone here can set the example by using it better themselves, if they are not already. What I mean by this is: if you post on LI, have a purpose which goes beyond boasting about how great you are. Instead, share some expertise which people might be interested to know, to uplift them, or make them think or reflect (although accept that there are always going to be a few who steadfastly do not want to participate and think it cringey). It is like anything to do with work (and life) - the inexperienced people learn and imitate skills from the experienced people (and then take these on to the next stage). The experienced people should do useful, non-cringey LinkedIn posts - and then the next generation may copy them

This is really helpfully put - thank you! I've been vaguely thinking I need to do something a bit with my LI presence, beyond just using the various like buttons to respond to other people's news.

I'm with you OP, I think it's cringe worthy and narcissistic. But then I am really fucking old and remember the times before people's lives were "online stories". It's absolutely alien to me. In my day, you told you family about your news when you saw them with your real fucking eyes, you didn't publish it to the world, which is essentially what social media is. I can't stand social media. I think the very first people who got involved with social media were narcissists but now, everyone is involved. I think the new normal is for everyone to be a narcissist and to gob off with views about stuff they know shit all about, but have perhaps learnt off someone online, who may or may not know their arse from their elbow. People are on and off bandwagons and you must agree with the twitter view or you are cancelled. I prefer to keep out of the whole weird mess.

I voted YANBU because I automatically thought of MLM lol

It's just flowery verbal diarrhoea that's so common these days (Meghan Markle is a master at it). Why use 10 words when you can use a hundred?

What is the sudden trend to have a dig at MM on completely unconnected posts? FFS. @osbertthesyrianhamster

@nellwilsonswhitehair Points will be deducted for any usage of the word blessed slipping in by accident. Go to it! You will soon be gliding by with thousands of followers, linking to your own YouTube channel on developments in your industry

I hate linked in.

Lots of ‘feel humbled to have been given this award’ or ‘so proud to work with x who has just been given an award.

You chose to let us all know you were head hunted so pot calling the ketttle...

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Did you really need to ask?

I don't think it's narcissistic or gushing or fake. It sounds genuinely happy. It's a bloody nightmare for uni students trying to find work during the pandemic. Why not allow her a little public joy about it without assuming she's self-centred? She might just be very relieved and happy. Also, ime people often post stuff like that after they have had a long hard slog of a time and finally have something to celebrate.

@aiwblam

I'm with you OP, I think it's cringe worthy and narcissistic. But then I am really fucking old and remember the times before people's lives were "online stories". It's absolutely alien to me. In my day, you told you family about your news when you saw them with your real fucking eyes, you didn't publish it to the world, which is essentially what social media is. I can't stand social media. I think the very first people who got involved with social media were narcissists but now, everyone is involved. I think the new normal is for everyone to be a narcissist and to gob off with views about stuff they know shit all about, but have perhaps learnt off someone online, who may or may not know their arse from their elbow. People are on and off bandwagons and you must agree with the twitter view or you are cancelled. I prefer to keep out of the whole weird mess.

You've just used an online platform to express an opinion, tell us about yourself and attempt to mould how we see you.

In response to an ongoing discussion, DrSbaitso?

But now I kinda "roll my eyes" just as often at the dementor society we've put in place to compensate for all of that above. ♟ (A Dementor in the wild). Where we can never talk publicly about anything good, anything we're grateful for, anything we've overcame, anything we're hopeful for. Because even if a Dementor doesn't come to publicly sook the joy out of your soul, they'll definitely be thinking it and rolling their eyes.

Oh God, so true. It’s nearly driven me mad this last year - clapping for key workers, Tom Moore, kids’ rainbow paintings - the cynicism and bitching about the few nice things has been awful. It’s been like a competition to see who can bring you down fastest. I hate it.