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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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Bahhhhhumbug · 19/05/2021 01:34

New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.

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New neighbour, terraced house, seems to expect silence

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New neighbour to my empty (atm) terraced property. As soon as moved in started sending me texts (got my number by asking previous neighbour she bought house off but that's a whole other thread) informing me there seems be a tv left on in the property.
She said l hope l didn't mind her texting me and she askedfor my number.
I texted prev. neighbours and queried whether their buyer knew my house was empty and she said yes as she had told her.
I have always got on very well with former neighbour so didn't 'pull her up' on giving out my number as was very out of character and just figured she got caught on the hop in what was a very stressful house move for unconnected reasons to this tale.
So l text back to new neighbour that yes l was aware and it was a radio left on a talking channel as the house was empty but thanks for letting me know.
Next day l get a phone call from her and she's all 'Hi (insert very shortened version of my name, which even the old neighbour never called me) and she tells me again the radio has been on all night (it hasn't its on a timer goes off about 11pm and a lamp comes on) because she ' can hear it ' l was l admit a little frosty with her as l was annoyed at these chummy texts and calls from someone who shouldn't even have my number and shouldn't have even asked for it imo though l accept old neighbour partly to blame.
I had to read between the lines at this point that she found it too loud so l said (without being asked) l would call next day, (which l did) and turn it down and move it to the far wall in the kitchen (no neighbours that side).
I've had another long text off her today after ld done all that saying can l please answer and confirm that l am going to turn it down (she wasnt in when l went round and obliged so obviously at this point didn't know l had already done so
) Whilst there l also checked upstairs l couldn't hear it wafting up the stairs which l couldn't whatsoever and l have good hearing. It is quieter than a normal volume speaking voice and you can only hear it after you've gone two doors into the house, it's about a volume 3 on Alexa equivalent.
Old neighbour when asked said couldn't hear it when l was in there and neither could l.
Shes rang me twice again now and l just ignored her in the hope she will text me and tell me what the fucks wrong now. She did then text saying she wants it switching off as she can still hear it.
She keeps bringing up that she works from home and l get impression she seems to think that means should be almost silence from neighbouring properties. Or maybe because the vendors told her my house was empty she had an expectation of it being completely silent.
If people moved in they would be entitled to watch tv, talk, have radio on etc and all at a higher wolume than one quiet radio. WWYD as she is really getting on my nerves now.
If l was a rude person l might suggest she should've bought a detached house maybe, but lm not.











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Zelaidee · 25/05/2021 22:13

A radio on low is perfectly rightful, away from a joint wall a must .

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LolaSmiles · 25/05/2021 22:40

Minezatea
All those examples are one off situations and not something that would routinely happen in daily life.

We've all read the threads on here that show there are people out there who will moan about any element of daily life, including a radio being on periodically.

By the end of July we'll be graced with all sorts of threads about neighbours complaining and we could make a bingo card in advance. My first round will be:

  • neighbour moaning to an OP/ OP moaning about someone using a lawnmower, or cutting a hedge, or doing some form of gardening
  • the ever moving mumsnet timetable for appropriate garden use, which is never before 11am because some people like a lie in, never in an afternoon because it ruins the peace, and never in an evening because someone else might be putting the children to bed
  • use of the phrase "peaceful enjoyment of my garden" being used to mean "but I want silence on a weekend afternoon"
  • neighbour complaining about / OP complaining about the fact children were in the garden on a nice afternoon
  • something about hot tub use
  • advice to ring the police or council to report entirely reasonable and expected noise from gardens


I know I shouldn't joke, but sometimes on here is another world. I highly doubt everyone piling on the OP for having a radio on abstain from watching telly on an evening, which is going to be as loud, if not louder than the radio. I also highly doubt they'd be moving their telly to another room if their neighbour decided to create an issue.
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Zzelda · 25/05/2021 22:52

@JocastaElastic

If you believe the radio can't be heard next door, then what's the point in having it on? Because if it can't be heard next door, then it won't be heard in the street. Turn the radio off!

Why should she, given that it's not now bothering anyone?
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Minezatea · 25/05/2021 23:23

I know I shouldn't joke, but sometimes on here is another world. I highly doubt everyone piling on the OP for having a radio on abstain from watching telly on an evening, which is going to be as loud, if not louder than the radio. I also highly doubt they'd be moving their telly to another room if their neighbour decided to create an issue.

Yes they are one-off which kind of proves my point - context is relevant when assessing whether noise is reasonable or not.

Re: the telly. If anyone was deliberately playing their telly loudly enough to be heard outside then I think that would be problematic. So this is not really comparable.

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