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Friends daughters 1st birthday

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namechangedforthis21 · 16/05/2021 21:26

It was my friends daughters 1st birthday yesterday. She had given everyone set time to show up for dropping off presents and to see her dd. My family was assigned 12-12:30 I text her during the week to say we would be there but would be slightly later as my dd football finished at 12. She changed the time to 12:30-1 which I said was no problem. After football we drove to her house and my dd was still in her football strip. Today she has texted me saying Hi I wasn't going to say anything as I didn't want to make you feel bad but I was very upset that ....... showed up to ..... 1st birthday party in her football strip given the fact I changed your time to accommodate her football. It would of been nice if you could have made an effort and got her changed into proper party attire.
I still haven't replied as I don't no what to say.
WIBU by not changing dd8 out of her football strip?

OP posts:
BumbleFlump · 16/05/2021 22:10

Can’t believe someone did this for a one year old 😯 what an unbelievably precious parent to expect people to turn up at given time slots to worship her child - the mum sounds v young and immature...I despair of the insta generation, I really do 🙄

BrightYellowDaffodil · 16/05/2021 22:11

Your friend is a loon.

Hopdathelf · 16/05/2021 22:11

Giving her all the benefit of the doubt that I can, is it a hygiene issue? Was she concerned about muddy kit near the baby?

Monkeymilkshake · 16/05/2021 22:11

I’d go fancy dress for the bbq!

tara66 · 16/05/2021 22:14

By birthday 45 she'll be less bothered.

Livingintheclouds · 16/05/2021 22:14

Goodness how greedy is she in the first place having people come to drop off gifts!
I like @VanceRefridgeration's idea - perfect!

minniemoll · 16/05/2021 22:15

Hi, I wasn't going to say anything, but you appear to have forgotten to thank us for taking the time to visit and for the thoughtful gift xxx

TeamMummy · 16/05/2021 22:15

Jesus Christ, I take it she hasn't twigged that a one year old child with have no recollection of the day. Your friend sounds very precious

SquirtleSquad · 16/05/2021 22:15

Could you wear your wedding dress to the bbq? Top hat for DH And dress your DC in the finest finery they own.

cadburyegg · 16/05/2021 22:16

How pfb 😅😅

goingtotown · 16/05/2021 22:16

OP Ignore the text.
Silence speaks volumes.

MontysRoseGarden · 16/05/2021 22:16

@Hopdathelf

Giving her all the benefit of the doubt that I can, is it a hygiene issue? Was she concerned about muddy kit near the baby?
the baby was in a gazebo...which was blocked off for guests....so doesn't sound like they came anywhere near
ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 16/05/2021 22:17

Hi, I wasn't going to say anything, but you appear to have forgotten to thank us for taking the time to visit and for the thoughtful gift xxx

Absolutely say this

Aprilwasverywet · 16/05/2021 22:18

Hire a ball gown for the Bbq...

Itsokthanks · 16/05/2021 22:18

Hilarious. Since when did kids have to get dressed up for parties anyway. Football kit would've been fine whatever.

IEat · 16/05/2021 22:20

I’d delete the message then delete her, she’s bloody rude telling you how to parent. Move on

Sleepdeprived42long · 16/05/2021 22:20

Seriously this would be the end of the friendship for me. And on the basis that therefore I had nothing to lose, I would reply to her message calling her out on her entitled, selfish behaviour!

Womencanlift · 16/05/2021 22:22

There have been some ridiculous PFB stories on this page but this is a classic!

OP if this is a friend for many years then I don’t know what’s stopping you replying saying WTF and calling her out on her behaviour. It’s what I would have done as soon as I got it

CareBear50 · 16/05/2021 22:22

That is one of the weirdest things I've ever heard!

I'd totally ignore the message. It does not justify a response and is extremely rude especially as no thank you for gift

lucy5236 · 16/05/2021 22:23

The fact someone would even arrange a slot to "allow" you to drop off a is completely rude & presumptuous. Surprised she didn't send a gift list along with the confirmation of your slot booking 😂

She basically gave you an invite go give a gift then complained at how your DD dressed while dropping it off. It wasn't a party!

EKGEMS · 16/05/2021 22:23

Reply "Have you forgotten to wash the fruits and veggies before eating them,dear?"

SirSamuelVimes · 16/05/2021 22:23

@BackforGood

We are invited to a bbq at hers in a few weeks and dh has said he will be wearing his full suit so he doesn't offend her.

Definitely. Full evening dress from you all I should think.

Absolutely full evening dress. Including tiara and opera gloves.
TooOldandTired · 16/05/2021 22:23

FFS tell her to get a grip, never in my most PFB moments would I have done anything this crazy!

Candleabra · 16/05/2021 22:23

@ThisIsStartingToBoreMe

Hi, I wasn't going to say anything, but you appear to have forgotten to thank us for taking the time to visit and for the thoughtful gift xxx

Absolutely say this

Love this. Mind you, if you send this the friendship is probably over...which you may or may not be bothered about.
Watchingstars88 · 16/05/2021 22:25

She's mental. I'd not reply and not have anything to do with her again! Ungrateful is an understatement, as well as very rude. Bonkers!

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