Friends daughters 1st birthday

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It was my friends daughters 1st birthday yesterday. She had given everyone set time to show up for dropping off presents and to see her dd. My family was assigned 12-12:30 I text her during the week to say we would be there but would be slightly later as my dd football finished at 12. She changed the time to 12:30-1 which I said was no problem. After football we drove to her house and my dd was still in her football strip. Today she has texted me saying Hi I wasn't going to say anything as I didn't want to make you feel bad but I was very upset that ....... showed up to ..... 1st birthday party in her football strip given the fact I changed your time to accommodate her football. It would of been nice if you could have made an effort and got her changed into proper party attire.
I still haven't replied as I don't no what to say.
WIBU by not changing dd8 out of her football strip?

Classy way to deal with it OP. Win-win all round and she's learnt a valuable lesson for the future.

I'm most impressed that you didn't grovel and allow yourself to be walked all over and set yourself up for more of the same in the future, but also gave her a way to acknowledge she'd been daft.

Did not realise it was a party, thought it was a quick present drop off slot time so as to avoid others.

You are a very nice person op and a good friend. The text you sent allowed your friend a chance to reflect on her nutty behaviour with feeling attacked.

You follow up in person was perfect too. I wish I was as calm and level headed as you!

Well played OP

I wonder if your friend is having some
Sort of break down? Sounds very odd

YADNBU! I was gobsmacked to read what your friend said! The cheek of her! She needs to develop a sense of perspective- the faster, the better!

Oh dear 🤣 It's not you 💐

Are you really friends with this horrible grabby bully!? If so WHY

Do you actually want to go to her bbq now? Or to stay friends with a rude, judgemental, ungrateful CF?

I hope your friend reads these comments, it’s hilarious!

hilarious !!! really. what was the mum wearing ? a tiara !

I think i would completely ignore the comment and just reply back saying 'so, was the present ok for dd? ' ....

The best reply to a fool is silence. Ignore ignore ignore. Then wait for the next communication and see what happens. What an arsehole

is she quite alright?

If you really do like her then i'd ignore it because she won't have many friends if she keeps on like that bless her.
Pandemic, birth in lockdown, a new baby whilst isolated in lockdown, looking forward to a party to show off your 1yr old and then finding you can't do that because of a pandemic.
you can be the friend that lasts the test of time and understands she is Batshit in difficult times.

or if you think actually you don't need anymore batshit friends then send laughing emojiis and let someone else be her only friend.

People are mental about their babies nowadays, the gender reveal, the baby shower the first birthday 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s like a fetish. It doesn’t mean you love your child more, it means you’re narcissistic and attention obsessed. I had a friend hire a pub for her child’s 1st birthday , invite 60 guests- mostly adults- then give a speech and cry at how a little girl was able to bring so many people together. It was like her child was Nelson Mandela or something. Some people are worse than others but I don’t have much time for it.

Wow! Pfb or what?!
Ignore. She’ll realise how precious she’s been in time.

The place is weird -- i would send your reply back, she seems to have lost the plot and needs brought back down a.peg or 2...who does she think she is her message is rude and uncalled for. By sending the above reply u r being honest, frank and basically pretty polite considering, hope ur ok as this would cause me a lot of over thinking and anxiety too and its not nice to feel that way xxx

A great result all round. I think you dealt with the situation really well!

@VanceRefridgeration is spot on. Go for that reply. How precious and rude can you get. I imagine she's one of those people who always remarks on how sensitive they are to the needs of others. Always high maintenance in my experience.

She clearly read this thread and realised she was barking and had the good grace to apologise.
Mum of the 1 year old, if you are reading this, please let your DD go out in sports kit if she wants to, don’t make her think she’s only allowed to wear pink and skirts.

Wow!! Seriously ... omg. I honestly wouldn’t know how to respond to that either 🤔 on my daughters 1st birthday I was just happy that ppl turned up and made the effort to come and see her (pre covid) and I couldn’t have cared less if ppl had arrived wearing a bin bag. Madness .

Ignore. You only need to reply to this if her dd mentions it when she is 10!

Well to her credit she told you rather than just sulking but it is pretty ridiculous!!

"Told her that when she has class parties for her dd a lot of the children will show up in sports clothes she laughed and thanked me for the warning."

Great update.

Some people really are batshit crazy...

Your ‘friend’ needs to get out of the house more, sheesh.