To not know if I'm a Mrs or a Miss

[Ticklemycarpets]

I got married recently, happy to be known as Mrs Husbandsname but haven't changed name officially on any documentation.
I was completing an official form today (counter signing someone else's passport) and had to fill in my title with my name.
I am thinking for the purposes of this, my name is still my maiden name as that matches my passport. However I hesitated over ticking the Mrs or Miss box.
I think of my self as a Mrs now....
..but I'm not Mrs Maidenname.

All of you who are married but use your maiden name, do you say you are Miss on official forms?

I use the Ms option!

When I'm using my maiden name I use 'Ms' when I'm using my married name I use 'Mrs'

In your circumstances I would have used Miss. however if you don't feel that is right could you not use Ms?

If you're Mrs Husbandsname then be Mrs Husbandsname. Why would you use your maiden name at all? If your passport is still in your maiden name and you're using that as proof of ID for something just provide your marriage certificate at the same time to explain the name change.

You’re Mrs from the date of your marriage. The evidence of name change is your marriage certificate.

It’s obviously up to you whether you keep your maiden name or husbands name, but if you chose to change you are again, Mrs Husbands name from the date of your marriage, as evidenced by your marriage certificate.

@Ticklemycarpets You know you're going to get roasted on here for being happy to change your surname to your husband's surname!

Because most women on here keep their maiden name don'tcha know? And so does every other woman in their social circle.

Oh and until you get your name changed to HIS, just use 'ms' as a pp suggested.

I just use Ms Nesski as I didn't take husband's name in any shape or form... It just seems right to me. 'Miss' is something to use up until marriage but I wish I had changed to 'Ms' earlier, as I feel like it's for women up until teens...

*Miss is what I used up until I got married

I’d use Miss

Mrs if married. Miss if single. Ms if you don't want to specify.

@DinoHat

You’re Mrs from the date of your marriage. The evidence of name change is your marriage certificate.

It’s obviously up to you whether you keep your maiden name or husbands name, but if you chose to change you are again, Mrs Husbands name from the date of your marriage, as evidenced by your marriage certificate.

Not true.

Married 18 years, never once used Mrs.

Only ever Ms or Ms Myname. Never Hisname.

@MIC2689

Mrs if married. Miss if single. Ms if you don't want to specify.

They’re all equally meaningless in legal terms. Why should women share their marital status with the world in this way when men don’t.

And don’t get me started on changing surnames. Fucking hideous, sexist, outdated “tradition”.

Depends on what I can be bothered with at the time, usually Ms.

I use Ms. I get mildly irked when I've used Ms in communications (email) and then as soon as the person I'm corresponding with realises I'm married they start using Mrs, even after I've made it clear I prefer Ms.

I'm Mrs Maiden name. But then DH took my name, so that probably changes things.

I use Mrs even though I kept my surname.

Tv licence has me usually as a Mr tho...

I’ve made it my mission for as few people as possible to realise I’m married!

@NavigatingAdolescence I completely agree with you but that's always the way I've used it. Plus you use Ms which kind of confirms what I said.

I’d prefer to use nothing. Tempted my Mx now.

Ms Maiden name
Mrs DH name

I don't really like my DH's surname much. Usually go with my maiden. Kind of annoys me when I am written to as Miss, usually by my DC's school. Why can't they just call me Betty Surname.

It really doesn't matter. I use Ms /miss/mrs/dr depending on what I feel.

Dh was once put on a form with my xxx surname after I said Mrs xxx.
My surname is a female version (we have male and female versions where I come from) so it made him a girl😂 I still giggle.
Peril of not sharing surnames😂

As you are using your name on an official piece of paperwork for someone and that person needs their passport I’d suggest you use the name that’s currently on the passport.

That will keep it quick and straightforward for them to get one quickly. When it’s all processed your name will tie up with your passport number job done.

If you sign another name they won’t have your marriage certificate to prove you are who you say you are and it could take weeks longer as it will be presumably recorded as a mismatch and the application returned to the applicant or binned.

So I’d use the passport name which is your maiden name so your friend gets their passport in time.

For anything else I’d probably say use whatever name you’re going by now as it will be easy to prove it with the marriage cert. but not on this occasion as this isn’t for you.

I use Mrs maiden name. He remains Mr hisname

They’re both short for “Mistress” so it really doesn’t matter what you use. There is no legal definition at all, so just use whatever you are happy with, in whatever context.

Also, you can definitely start using your husband’s surname as soon as you like - you don’t have to wait to “officially” change anything. You can use multiple different names if you want, as long as you’re not doing it for an illegal purpose. You don’t even need a deed poll as some think - that’s just a useful way of showing to banks etc that you have changed your name, but there is nothing that stops you from calling yourself whatever you want.