To not know if I'm a Mrs or a Miss

[Ticklemycarpets]

I got married recently, happy to be known as Mrs Husbandsname but haven't changed name officially on any documentation.
I was completing an official form today (counter signing someone else's passport) and had to fill in my title with my name.
I am thinking for the purposes of this, my name is still my maiden name as that matches my passport. However I hesitated over ticking the Mrs or Miss box.
I think of my self as a Mrs now....
..but I'm not Mrs Maidenname.

All of you who are married but use your maiden name, do you say you are Miss on official forms?

I didn't change my name when I got married and didn't change my title either. I've been a Ms since it first became a thing - it's nobody's business whether I'm married or not.
Don't feel forced to use Mrs unless you really want to.
And I agree with PP - Miss is for girls, not women

Didn’t change my name when I married but wanted to be Mrs. I asked the registrar- she told me I could take any title I wanted as titles don’t actually need to be changed legally (I.e. you can go into bank etc and just say I am “Mrs. Original name now” and they have to accept a title change.

Since knowing this, in mail orders, I am sometimes Sir, Doctor, admiral or whatever else they offer- I like to have fun with it

On official documents I am now Mrs. With my original name.

If you are countersigning in a professional capacity then use whatever you use for work with Ms?
I use my own name for work as my professional registration is in that name. I feel "miss" sounds quite juvenile though, so I use Ms. I'm Mrs DHsname outside of work.

Be a 'Ms'. It's the only logical choice.

I'm 42, been with OH for the better part of 20 years, never married and no intention of doing so. We own several properties together, bills, responsibilities etc roughly 50/50.

I am Ms LadyJaye, obviously. OH gets called Mr LadyJaye quite a lot...

Never use any title unless forced then wander between Mrs or Ms but why do we even have a title on any form? Especially on job apps etc? There's a case for 'blind' apps .

Miss seems to imply I'm a lot younger - though maybe that's not a bad idea come to think of it (usually address cards etc to Ann Smith Bob Jones etc except when to older folk who mind).

In France they seem to address adult women as Madame ( Mrs) , youngsters as Mademoisele (Miss) indiscriminately - maybe that's the way to go if you must have a title but I'd prefer none .

Might take up the suggestion of spreading my net wider - why not Lady/ Lord, Duchess while I'm at it. Do you think I'd get better ( or worse) service!

If there’s a Ms option I will tend to pick that, otherwise Mrs. Never changed my surname (and never intended to). My bank still has me as ‘Miss’ (probably others do I never really went ‘backwards’ to change things just changed them going forward)

@Rainybows790

Didn’t change my name when I married but wanted to be Mrs. I asked the registrar- she told me I could take any title I wanted as titles don’t actually need to be changed legally (I.e. you can go into bank etc and just say I am “Mrs. Original name now” and they have to accept a title change.

Since knowing this, in mail orders, I am sometimes Sir, Doctor, admiral or whatever else they offer- I like to have fun with it

On official documents I am now Mrs. With my original name.

I do this, too.

I got a lot of fun from Waitrose's drop down, in particular, and am now Admiral LadyJaye there.

@NavigatingAdolescence

However, there are certain formalities on being married for examlpe that you must have it recorded by which name you are using in the future. A name is a very identifiying feature for all sorts of official documents and procedures so just make a decision and stick to it!

This is also horseshit. You could use a thousand names if you wanted to. And there is no official register of names.

Try applying for a passport, a bank account, driver's licence, insurance, a credit loan, social support, school place for your child, drawing your pension if you pay in one name and try to claim it under another of the thousand you have, plus,plus, plus without providing some documentation on who you ctually are! You can use any name you want in day-to-day life (how about Goofy) but there are things in life for which you need to have one official name!

I don't know if this is relevant to the topic, but I was in hospital twice recently, never been in hospital before and touching wood for the future etc.

Anyways, I had to have invasive procedures, sedation, anaesthesia the whole nine yards, and not once was I asked my title either on admission or for consent. I just gave my name as Veeeeh and Surname.

Delightfully, no one asked my marital status, just who my NOK was, and who to contact in order of availability. I was charmed that I was treated equally to any man ahem!

The term maiden name really isn't one of those things that annoys me, even though I don't use my married name much and never Mrs. It's just an easy way of referencing it.

I also sometimes say Christian name instead of given name or first name, that's probably quote old fashioned too.

Your title has no legal relevance or bearing. Use whichever one you pick on the day.