AIBU - just been called completely irresponsible for going to stay in a hotel?

[Pivotthesofa]

DH and I are late ish 30s so not been vaccinated yet.
We have a short break early this coming week in London which involves meeting friends for an afternoon tea, then staying at a lovely boutique hotel near at James park and having dinner in a restaurant on the same road

My sister has just told me that I’m completely irresponsible for still going, that I’m essentially saying I’m happy to leave 17 month old DS an orphan for the sake of a few cocktails!

I feel really upset now. It’s the first break away or night out we’ve had since I was six months pregnant as I had a bad pregnancy, and I was really looking forward to it.

DH Has an Addison Lee account through work so we were getting a car for the hours journey to the hotel and back the next day, so no public transport. We were going to be really careful etc

But DS talking about how it’s really bad for those in their 30s - the new variant - and acting like we are basically signing our own death warrant for a day away has really chilled me.

I was having a bit of a wobble anyway and was reassured by some lovely posters on here when I posted about it, but now I’m wondering if we should just cancel the whole thing. :(

AIBU to go?

My son and wife in their 30s with 4 children all unvaccinated are going to London for half term as their holiday abroad was cancelled. They wouldn't be open if it was that unsafe. People really need to get out their houses and realise it's not as bad as the media makes out!

Not a risk I would take at the moment

Jealousy is behind it 100% I feel

I hope you explained to your sister where she could shove her ridiculous opinion. Have a lovely time!

Why do you care what she thinks? Go and have a lovely time (and taunt her with photos of cocktails!)
Millions of Londoners are out and about, travelling on public transport - and surviving. I very much doubt your child will be orphaned!
Plus, you'll be almost the first guests at a hotel that has been scrubbed/sanitised within an inch of its life.

I think I'd go, whatever she said. It is bad (I've had it but have other medical conditions) as I've had it but no worse than bad flu or a chest infection together. Yes it makes you feel like utter shit , but most healthy people will not die from it. And kids don't generally either from what I've heard.

Enjoy your trip!!

Ffs, your sister is being a drama queen. Go, and have a bloody good time. Me and DP just had a night away in a hotel and it was amazing.

I am hoping to do the same first week of Ju next. Go, and have a great time!!!

First week of June*

Your sister sounds mentally ill. You’re in your thirties and presumably healthy hence why you haven’t been vaccinated yet, there’s little to no chance you’d even be hospitalised with covid let alone die from it. She’s being melodramatic and clearly struggles with anxiety. You’ll be fine, have fun .

Have fun! I can't see much extra risk than going about your normal daily business really. Unless you've been shielding.
If you weren't in a restaurant in London, you may well be in one near home. Or a supermarket.

if you are in your early 30s with no underlying health conditions you are more at risk of being hit by a double decker London bus during your few days in ol’ London Town than of dying of Covid. And all the evidence points to the Indian variant being more transmissible - not being more deadly.

Only you can make that decision OP. But, if it was me, I'd put it off for a couple of weeks to see how things develop. If people take the opportunity, as so many on here seem to be doing, of travelling around, then the new variant is bound to spread. In that case, we may finish up with more restrictions and you will have missed your chance of a break. On the other hand, will you enjoy it if you're so anxious?
It sounds as if you will be vaccinated soon, so why not wait until then?

Your sister sounds dramatic.
But how have you not had your vaccines yet?
I'm mid 30's, had both mine and dh early 30's had his first one.

I think your sister is jealous?

I personally would not be going if I had not been vaccinated (even one).

Hope you have a good time away.

I was out and about in London yesterday and today.

It was busy but everyone was wearing masks.

We ate out in the sunshine and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.

Why would both of you automatically die if you actually got Covid?
Your sister is being hysterical

But how have you not had your vaccines yet?
I'm mid 30's, had both mine and dh early 30's had his first one.
Most people in their 30s haven’t had them yet. DH is 38 and I’m 36, his is next week and I’m not eligible to book yet.

Haven't been able to book unless you're 38 or over on the website and our GP service hasn't called us, is still doing 38 and above.

Enjoy yourself. Hotels are very careful about Covid. Just make sure you keep your hands clean. I've had students sat next to Covid positive ones who've not got it.

Thank you. My main concern is the journey but we are thinking with sticking with AL taxi with masks and windows open so I think that will be fine, apparently they have a screen between passengers and driver now as well.

I am looking forward to it now. If anything dramatically changes we'll postpone but we are going to do LF tests before we go and when we get back and we aren't straying far from the hotel, maybe just for a walk around the park, once we are there so I think we will be fine.

We didn't book ours, we got phone calls and texts from our gp. I wonder if a lot of people have refused and that's why we've moved up the queue then. Sorry that's totally off topic anyway! Lol.
I say go, just use common sense about getting too close to people etc, lol.

@Thatisnotwhatisaid

Your sister sounds mentally ill. You’re in your thirties and presumably healthy hence why you haven’t been vaccinated yet, there’s little to no chance you’d even be hospitalised with covid let alone die from it. She’s being melodramatic and clearly struggles with anxiety. You’ll be fine, have fun .

I think it would be kind to be mindful that as a society we have lived through an incredibly strange and upsetting time and seen and done things we would have thought unimaginable 18 months ago. Dependent on circumstances many people will have had to make peace with varying levels of fear and anxiety. It sounds like the OPs sister is just very anxious. Anxiety is actually a really sensible response to what we’re living through, anxiety has a function in keeping us safe. I think a lot of people will be understandably very anxious as we come out of lockdown and being supportive of them is probably better for everyone rather than - ‘nothing wrong! To say otherwise means you’re mentally ill!’

Your sister is brainwashed enjoy your trip!!! You deserve it

@Lostinacloud

Have you had a hangover before OP? Because I’m 10 years older than you and that’s what covid felt like for me. A few days with a bit of a headache and feeling like I wanted easy food on the sofa whilst watching films. If you were extremely unlucky enough to be able to catch it, from the current pool of less than 2500 daily infected people in the entire country, then this is most likely the reaction that you will have at your age. Go and have fun and enjoy your break, you will be more likely to experience a real hangover by the sound of it!

That’s exactly how I was, had it really mild. Then a month during later a routine stomach scan they saw the base of my heart wasn’t right and I have developed pericardial effusion as a direct result of Covid. My neighbour is in her 30’s - she too had a mild case which has left her with scarring myocarditis. There are millions walking around feeling fine with very damaged organs. So please don’t imply that it’s nothing to worry about because that’s just not true. I live in London op, the Indians variant is real here, so it’s up to you but this thing is far bigger than a week on the sofa.