AIBU - just been called completely irresponsible for going to stay in a hotel?

[Pivotthesofa]

DH and I are late ish 30s so not been vaccinated yet.
We have a short break early this coming week in London which involves meeting friends for an afternoon tea, then staying at a lovely boutique hotel near at James park and having dinner in a restaurant on the same road

My sister has just told me that I’m completely irresponsible for still going, that I’m essentially saying I’m happy to leave 17 month old DS an orphan for the sake of a few cocktails!

I feel really upset now. It’s the first break away or night out we’ve had since I was six months pregnant as I had a bad pregnancy, and I was really looking forward to it.

DH Has an Addison Lee account through work so we were getting a car for the hours journey to the hotel and back the next day, so no public transport. We were going to be really careful etc

But DS talking about how it’s really bad for those in their 30s - the new variant - and acting like we are basically signing our own death warrant for a day away has really chilled me.

I was having a bit of a wobble anyway and was reassured by some lovely posters on here when I posted about it, but now I’m wondering if we should just cancel the whole thing. :(

AIBU to go?

@Toomuchtrouble4me I'm so so sorry to hear that. I don't want my post to come across like I'm not taking it seriously, believe me I have taken it really seriously. The only reason we are going is because it's allowed and it's been postponed multiple times due to Covid and we were feeling like it was safe to go as numbers were low. Obviously the situation is changing and we will rethink and possibly postpone again if anything changes this week, but figured we can't stay at home forever.

when you say the Indian variant is real in London what do you mean? Nobody is doubting that it's real as far as I can see on the thread.

This!!
I was in Borough Market for brunch with friends today and regularly go out to eat in town. I will travel in again next Friday and the weekend after that, DH and I are in a hotel in London for our anniversary.
Following your sister’s logic, I risk leaving my children orphaned several times a week.
She’s being over-cautious, to put it mildly. London has a population of millions. The chances of anything awful happening to you is minuscule. Go and enjoy yourself, just be sensible 🤷‍♀️

Thanks always

I live in London but will be taking my daughter to a restaurant next week as soon as they are open. I am sick of not doing things we enjoy and am more than ready to try to live as normally as possible. Hope you enjoy your mini break.

thank you @mummadeze enjoy your dinner out :)

[quote Pivotthesofa]@Toomuchtrouble4me I'm so so sorry to hear that. I don't want my post to come across like I'm not taking it seriously, believe me I have taken it really seriously. The only reason we are going is because it's allowed and it's been postponed multiple times due to Covid and we were feeling like it was safe to go as numbers were low. Obviously the situation is changing and we will rethink and possibly postpone again if anything changes this week, but figured we can't stay at home forever.

when you say the Indian variant is real in London what do you mean? Nobody is doubting that it's real as far as I can see on the thread.[/quote]
You're taking it TOO seriously, frankly (and I say that as a complete rule follower).

It's already been established that the case numbers in London are just as low as yours at home. There is absolutely no difference in your risk on your trip to your risk at home. I really don't understand why you're overthinking the risk so much. Behave as you would if you were doing the same things in your own area.

The vast majority of people here (including people whose every waking moment is spent in London because they live there) are telling you to relax and enjoy it. But as soon as one of the over-anxious posters who lack the ability to judge risks, posts, you fold again.

You'll be fine. Please, please stop overthinking, and enjoy your trip.

@saraclara you are correct. I think I need to step away now and just look forward to my trip. Thank you. I feel seen - but you're absolutely right.

name change fail! but I'm really stepping away now :)

I don’t think your being unreasonable at all. I have a break away booked for July! (A long weekend in blackpool, but were in Scotland and not getting a sunny holiday for a few years yet). Your being careful and the hotel wouldn’t allow guests had they not been following covid guidelines. Its not as if your going to be licking people’s sweat away for god sake! Enjoy your toddler free break - have a drink for me! 🥴

Oh my goodness it sounds divine and is all totally allowed!

Enjoy yourself :)) and ignore your dramatic killjoy sis! Xx

Ffs go & enjoy yourself. I really hate people bullying about the vaccine. It won’t prevent you from getting the virus or passing it on. Let’s start living again.

She's being over-cautious. I'm 6 months pregnant, haven't been vaccinated and currently on a break by the coast with my DH (though not in a hotel). So far we've: eaten lunch inside a packed service station, eaten outside in a busy pub garden and been swimming in the park's pool full of hyper children. Sure we're being careful and sticking to the rules but both of us have been working flat out since Christmas and wanted some couple time before baby arrives. We're having a great time.

Have a great time!!

She is being very dramatic.
Go and have a great time!

PS, they are vaccinating 35 years+ now, so you should get a call pretty soon!

I'd be really upset with her saying that you'd leave your child an orphan.
Sounds like she's suffering with anxiety.
I saw you mention health anxiety. I also suffer health anxiety and ocd and have actually dealt with the pandemic pretty well because I'm so used to using coping strategies with general life. So I've noticed when I've been out with friends they're very concerned and I'm just feeling the same as always.

Rates of infection are very low right now. Your sister is being utterly ridiculous and needs to get a grip. Go out and have a great time.

The country is opening up again so why not make the most of it while you can? Who knows how long it will last, have fun x

Sorry no, that’s not correct. I am Indian I have been getting news of young people dying who have no underlying issues. In fact it is affecting younger people as much as the older. Lots of completely healthy people in their thirties snd forties dying. The latest being DH’s colleague’s 32 year old brother. The Indian variant is like nothing we’ve seen here in UK. It’s really scary. Boris is making light of it, even though I’m sure he knows how deadly it is.

I think you should be fine and I am very cautious person. I think going to a supermarket is a higher risk and lately they have been packed with people. Keep to you group of friends not mixing with too many people to keep the risk low. And test yourself just in case to minimise the chances of passing it to your baby if you do catch it.

There are millions walking around feeling fine with very damaged organs

Evidence for this outrageous statement?

OP, your sister is being ridiculous, go and enjoy yourself.

There’s a pandemic.

You’re not vaccinated.
You have a new baby.
There’s a new variant.
London has a high number.
Really - you’re considering going to a hotel?
I’m speechless.

I am Indian I have been getting news of young people dying who have no underlying issues. In fact it is affecting younger people as much as the older. Lots of completely healthy people in their thirties snd forties dying.

People will require evidence of this, not ‘news’, you expect them to take it seriously.

I’m speechless.

People need to get a grip 😂

London has a high number.
Really - you’re considering going to a hotel?
I’m speechless.

• It doesn’t. The highest rate in any London borough is 40.5 per 100,000 in last 7 days. That’s nowhere near the rates in the areas of the country which are currently causing concern.
• Hotels are very safe - at what point will OP be spending extended periods of time with strangers?
• Sadly not, it seems.

Sadly not, it seems.

😂