To think ds was entitled to say the teacher was wrong

[challengerequired]

Ds has an EHCP and as a consequence has a teaching assistant in some lessons.
Today this teaching assistant kept him behind after one lesson because ds had told her that he thought her answer to a question was wrong. She told him never to do that again, as it would confuse the girl next to him.
Aibu to be annoyed? 1 - because I think she's his TA so the other girl doesn't really come into it
2 - because a child should not be discouraged from challenging opinions? I think she should have used it as an opportunity to ask him why he thought she was wrong - get a conversation out of it?

[Notthissticky]

@Ellie56

I used to work as a TA and if the teacher made a mistake, I used to say, "Oh everyone's asleep this morning. Nobody's spotted Miss X's deliberate mistake."

Cue 30 kids and 1 teacher all madly scanning the text to find the error.

Love it! And I say that as a teacher

[crochetmonkey74]

As a teacher this happens a lot, it sounds like maybe the info was being drip fed to the girl and though your child was right , maybe the full information with nuances etc despite being correct may be confusing until the foundations are understood. So for example, I teach a class where the students are struggling to get the lower grades, so whilst some things are 'true' it confuses them and may lead to them being even unable to access the lower grades as their answers would be so confused. Sometimes it's a bit of a blunt tool. I'd say trust the teacher as they may be doing a step by step guide to understanding. It doesnt sound like she was horrible, she seemed to be getting your child on side

[Billben]

@Ellie56

I used to work as a TA and if the teacher made a mistake, I used to say, "Oh everyone's asleep this morning. Nobody's spotted Miss X's deliberate mistake."

Cue 30 kids and 1 teacher all madly scanning the text to find the error.

That’s fantastic 😂

[steff13]

That teacher must have trained at George W Bush University

It was Dan Quayle that spelled potato incorrectly, not George W Bush. It was at a spelling bee, and the card the school gave him to read from had spelled potato with an "e" on the end.

[mam0918]

People saying teacher wouldnt be mad just for being told theyre wrong lol, I use to get in trouble for questioning the teaches and I was often right as many where older and where working of outdated info.

One I remember so specifically was a teach going mental at me in class, yelling and calling me stupid in front of everyone then putting me on dentention because he marked me wrong for saying there where '8 planets' in a class practice test and when he insisted there where 9 I told him 'Pluto wasnt classified a proper planet anymore and it was an ice dwarf' which is pretty common knowledge now but was fairly new classification at the time.

I was right (and it was pretty easy to look up and prove) but punished for it and the teacher treat me like crap for the rest of my time at school and sabotaged my GCSE by not letting me take the higher paper even though I was in the higher class and had near perfect test result in my mocks.

Some adults just cant handle 'a child' correcting them on something, its an ego issue.

[Maray1967]

Much depends here on how he said it.
In general terms, I’ve had to tell both of mine who are very keen on science to accept the GCSE version and just give the expected answers- teachers have been great here, explaining that they need to give the simplified GCSE version and when they do the subject at A level they can then write the more correct complex version. And presumably at university they find it out that the A level version is not quite correct as well .
I’m a good speller and I did once correct the teachers incorrect correction of a word. I put a post it note in his book with a polite note and the correct spelling. Heard nothing more but she knew I am a university lecturer in a humanities subject and presumably accepted it. Head of 6th form told DC1 to get me to check his UCAS statement for correct English as I would do a better job than her ...

[Maray1967]

And there’s a missed apostrophe in my last post!!

[dapsnotplimsolls]

@Maray1967

And there’s a missed apostrophe in my last post!!

Was that deliberate to see of we could find it 😉

[dapsnotplimsolls]

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[OnGoldenPond]

@steff13

That teacher must have trained at George W Bush University

It was Dan Quayle that spelled potato incorrectly, not George W Bush. It was at a spelling bee, and the card the school gave him to read from had spelled potato with an "e" on the end.

I stand corrected and concede my mistake with good grace. OP's son's TA, take note!

[year5teacher]

YANBU, one time I had had very little sleep due to DP having broken his foot and I demonstrated column subtraction wrong. (Something like 5620 - 4261 and forgot you couldn’t take 1 away from 0 hahaha) and all the kids just went with it except for one who pointed out it was wrong. No harm in it - it was wrong! Just goes to show them that teachers are not infallible figures of authority. I certainly don’t want them to see me like that.

[year5teacher]

I do also have experience of teaching a child who sadly was deeply unpopular because they always pointed out when people were “wrong” (or just using a word in one context when it COULD mean something else in another context). They would CONSTANTLY really desperately try and tell me I was wrong, even when I wasn’t, and then sit there and smirk - it was rude. So it’s not always as clear cut, I guess.

[MichelleScarn]

I stand corrected and concede my mistake with good grace. OP's son's TA, take note!

Op says her son was wrong? Also think you should have a discussion with the school op, I think relationship has broken down, he doesn't want to show her his work, you say 'he isn't there to make her life easy' which while its correct, its a unusual way of looking at things.

[Nanny0gg]

@Cindy87

There are ways of saying you disagree with someone. I'm guessing your son probably said it in a way that meant the TA felt the need to keep him behind.

Also, she isn't his TA - it doesn't work like that.

Sometimes how kids report stuff back isn't exactly how it happened. I say that as both a parent and a teacher.

Of course she can be his TA if she's employed to support him as per his EHCP