I've been bad - damaged someone's car in carpark

[GuiltyMoo]

I came back to my car in a supermarket car park to find that someone had parked their car with their passenger side way too close to my drivers side. So close that I couldn't get past their wingmirror to get to the door. So I had to bend my wingmirror in to squeeze past. Then I had to do contortions to open the door and then get in. I accidentally knocked their wingmirror out of position and dented and scratched their door doing so.

I confess that at that point I was so furious that I let my car door bang again against the other car. I then drove out of the space, stopped, got out and went back to put their wingmirror back in place.

I am now at home feeling super guilty, waiting for a knock on my door from the Police after they track me down from the carpark CCTV.

So, AIBU for squeezing into my car and causing the damage? Should I have gone back to the supermarket and had them call the driver to move their car so I could get in mine?

I'm a big worrier, and this will pop into my head for years to come, as another moment of shame.

What is 'too close'? They are either over the line or they aren't. If they are then they are in the wrong, if they aren't then it's your problem, maybe you need a smaller car or leave more space on the driver's side.

And I will continue to be a happy scumbag that really doesn't give a fuck.

I guess that says it all 🙄

At least one of those words is true anyway.

I'm not quite sure why not putting to with shitty behaviour equates in some people's minds to behaving shittily themselves.

I get that in this situation there's not a lot of options about addressing the poor behaviour. But that's life. Sometimes people will behave badly and it's frustrating / annoying etc. But it shouldn't entitle us to up the ante & behave in an even worse way - which is what you did, whether you accept it or not.

According to you
You seem to have a real bee in your bonnet about it.
It's not like I smashed my door into his shitty old van

I'm not quite sure why not putting to with shitty behaviour equates in some people's minds to behaving shittily themselves

On mumsnet there is I think an element of false bravado. Folks who seldom leave home posting about how big and hard they are in their imaginations.

@Bluntness100

I'm not quite sure why not putting to with shitty behaviour equates in some people's minds to behaving shittily themselves

On mumsnet there is I think an element of false bravado. Folks who seldom leave home posting about how big and hard they are in their imaginations.

🤔 No, I'm not meek outside of this echo chamber. I'm not one of those dickheads that "tell it like it is" either.

But feel free to make more assumptions about me

Sillyducks, I don’t think I mentioned you?

DO you feel guilty?

Or do you not?

It sounds rather like you think it served them right.

@Sillyduckseverywhere

According to you You seem to have a real bee in your bonnet about it. It's not like I smashed my door into his shitty old van

I do, yes.

I think it's a horrible reflection on society that someone's instinct someone else has behaved badly (as they did in your case) is to see what way they can 'get them back' in this case smearing sun cream on their car expressly to cause them discomfort.

It's horrible.

Of course maybe you didn't & you're just being goady & I've fallen right into it with my reaction.

But yeah, think it's a really horrible way to behave.

On mumsnet there is I think an element of false bravado. Folks who seldom leave home posting about how big and hard they are in their imaginations.

I think you are probably spot on with that Bluntness

Good point.

But yeah, think it's a really horrible way to behave.
I agree

shrug
I'd do it again in a heartbeat.
Actually, under parking thread rules shouldn't we have diagrams?

I wouldn't worry. It's just a scratch: they prob won't notice on the passenger door anyway. At least not straight away

@Sillyduckseverywhere

shrug I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Actually, under parking thread rules shouldn't we have diagrams?

You seem to have somewhat hijacked the thread to tell everyone of your vile behaviour and how justified you feel about it? I wonder why it's so important to you to feel validated?

@GreyhoundG1rl
Boredom mostly. And because people are so indignant despite it being a weird, frightening and deliberate act that made me do it.
Anyway, got things to do now so I'll leave you all to get on with it.
Have fun!

@Sillyduckseverywhere

shrug I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Actually, under parking thread rules shouldn't we have diagrams?

Honestly no one is impressed. It’s your call if you take the “if they go low, I’ll go lower” route, but no ones going to fangirl you for it.

And honestly if this isn’t just a “cool story bro” then I can’t imagine how silly you looked doing it.

@Zancah

Someone once did the exact thing to me, except they parked so close I actually couldn't even get between them as I was enormously pregnant.

I still climbed over from the passenger side. Did myself a real mischief too, but it would never have entered my head to scratch their car on purpose or duff up their car with my door.

I would never do this.

Not a chance would I clamber over car seats, injuring myself whilst heavily pregnant, to avoid bashing my car door into somebody who didn't care about me or my car when parking far too close to it.

OP, the only place I'd say you were in the wrong is by bashing it a second time deliberately. That's not on. But other than that, if you don't want your car bashed by car doors, keep well inside the lines / away from other cars. If you park like a knob, far too close to others cars, there's a chance your cars gonna get hit.