Am curious .. do have any unreasonable bias ? ? ? . .. I know that I do and I am not proud😂

[Tiddleypoms]

I think that we all try to be reasonable and non judgemental. However, I do think we can be labelling and bias at times. I was just discussing in private,with dh , my own pet peeve. He was quite taken aback .. he never judges , is mostly fair . Its made me wonder if many of us have quiet little unreasonable ( and are aware of ) thoughts and judgements .. ?! Meant to be light hearted.😂

@tinseloatcake

Not wanting to be a total twat but this is not an unconscious bias.

That is when you treat people less fairly without realising. Eg in filtering job applications or chairing a meeting.

This is just judging people.

Yes, and we all do it - including those who say they don't.

My next door neighbour has had the curtains closed in both his bedroom and living room from the day he moved in, about 18 months ago. I honestly don't know how he stands it!

Bet his house stinks

People with blue hair ( shudder)
People who swear in front of or to their children

Men in tracksuit trousers (always grey!) with no pants. Yes we can tell. No we don't want to see it. Yuk. It gives me the impression they're a bit thick, a bit rough, and likely to drink too much and get in a scrap.

I heard myself telling DP to 'open the curtains properly please, the place looks like a bloody squat!' this week. When he'd opened one half and left the other. I've turned into my DGM. Not that she would have sworn, that's common...

People who are either in stained, grubby clothes (usually a tracksuit) or their kids are snotty and dribbly and grubby and they make no attempt to wipe their faces. Poor little things, it hurts to have a permanently snotty nose and lip when it gets chapped.

People who post stuff for sale and the carpet / room in the photo is piled high with clutter and filthy. Usually saying 'needs a clean'. Well clean it then you minger, no one wants your dirt!

I'm sure there's more, but most boil down to my DGM and her worry about being perceived as 'common' and the lengths she went to, to show she wasn't. She was very poor growing up, had to be taught how to wash as a young teen and never finished school. She was mercilessly judged, and spent her whole life trying not to be 'common'.

I remember the first time we got chips for lunch from the takeaway in town, and she was worried where we would eat them. As kids we suggested the bench on the green - you'd think we were snorting coke from the way she tried to conceal what we were all doing, while surrounded by other families eating chips!

Oh this is one i feel ashamed of . . People who dress their dc beautifully ( or maybe so in their eyes ) , but feed them crap food.
I am guessing that many of our judgements are based in our own values. I dont really care what people think of how I dressed my dc .. however , I care massively about their diet.
But who am i to judge , quite often those without funds may , and I say may , not absolutes here, dress the dc up as a defence .. often the poorest people ive known have expensive clothes on . I do get it.

@askingrandomsonlinemighthelp

The way protesters dress (e.g. Extinction Rebellion). I usually agree with them. I'm a vegan, leftie, rad fem. But, the way they dress with their cheesecloth layers and green dreadlocks and bells on their toes and mooncup earrings means nobody will listen to them. Say what you have to say without setting up meditation tents and dancing around with tin whistles and rollies. Take your nose ring out, you're on the fucking telly! You don't look like you're talking any sense. You look like you believe in crystals and fairy folk. Nobody will listen to you. It's a pity it's like that, but it IS, so dress the part and leave the dreamcatchers at home for the weekend.

This is immense! You speak my very thoughts!

Everybody judges, it's how we keep ourselves safe. And also how we perceive to keep ourselves safe. Negative judgements are very often of feelings we have about ourselves. People with high self esteem are much less critical of themselves and others than those with poor self worth. So if you were brought up by a highly critical parent it is likely you are a highly critical person both of yourself and others - unless you gain self awareness and train yourself out of it.

Lack of basic grammar.

Judgy pants straight on. Either don’t read, never went to school, or simply can’t be arsed to write properly.

Especially in job applications or other formal documents. Get someone to proofread it!

Plastic grass.

People who put their pronouns in their emails etc

I do judge people who use poor spelling and grammar, because I believe that those who have a specific learning difficulty check what they’re writing far more.

I judged someone today, who sauntered towards a shop wearing a sunflower lanyard and no mask and smoking.

I’m not fussed about people who keep their curtains closed. I just assume they’re very private people.

I judge people who post pictures of piles of birthday and Christmas presents, post photos of massive plates of food, especially when I know they are overweight and it’s because of eating too much.

I judge people with messy houses too. The ones you see on Rightmove makes me wonder why the agent agreed to take photos and publish them.

I judge FB sellers who can’t be bothered to take decent pictures of what they want to sell, or clean the irremediably, or make any effort to present it well.

Tattoos

Parents of baby girls wearing those headbands that keep their non-existent hair out of their eyes. Even worse if they have a rose/flower at the side.

Any adult over 40 with train tracks.

I judged Benjamin Netanyahu's purple hair. And then myself for being incredibly shallow.

People who apply make-up on trains.

People who bring their muesli and carton on milk on a train and proceed to breakfast on the crowded 08:15.

This is one of those lighthearted hilarious threads when you can be a right twat because it's lighthearted afterall.

Or half open them at strange angles

I've threatened to divorce my husband for this. Heathen!

I don't think disliking bad grammar is unreasonable actually.

or disliking people eating in public.

I am a bit biased against very short petite women. That's unreasonable. (but explainable as I'm tall and not petite and feel hulking and like a giantess next to them, so is perhaps down to my own ishoos after all)

And toddlers on scooters careering down the street with their smiling smug parents looking proudly on.

Peole who use the 'f' word in every sentence.

People who use 😂 when it's not funny not aimed at you OP but it really causes me bias.

I am very biased against drivers who can't be bothered to use their indicators.

Tattoos....chav, and pegs left on washing lines...again chav overt prejudice I know....

People who cut their (round) Christmas cake into wedges. Shameless.

I judge people who don’t like drinking water.
I know that we’re all different. Different strokes etc, but a small wicked part of me thinks they are deeply pathetic and expects them to also say they don’t really like breathing either.

There, I’ve never told anyone that. Thanks.

I am fully aware that rhe speed limit is not am aim to meet, but the limit at rhe speed you should drive.
However, if a person , which includes dh a great deal, drives quite a bit under that speed .. ( say 25 mph in a 30 zone) .. the things I assign to , and the names I shout at that person ..

I’m the wrong person to ask. It’s like the court robing room in my head with the amount of judging going on. Often at foibles that (if I’m honest with myself) I know apply to me

Yep I'm quite judgemental and I'm not proud of it. Really can't help it though! I do t say anything out loud but silently I do...
Fat bald men walking down the street with no tops on in the summer; parents who give their kids iPads in restaurants; people with pit bull type dogs; people who swear loudly in public; young girls who have l in p filler... I could go on