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Am curious .. do have any unreasonable bias ? ? ? . .. I know that I do and I am not proud😂

456 replies

Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 19:46

I think that we all try to be reasonable and non judgemental. However, I do think we can be labelling and bias at times. I was just discussing in private,with dh , my own pet peeve. He was quite taken aback .. he never judges , is mostly fair . Its made me wonder if many of us have quiet little unreasonable ( and are aware of ) thoughts and judgements .. ?! Meant to be light hearted.😂

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DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:36

Your uneducated about the breed you have and the breed you are talking about and notably didn't answer whether you have a warning harness.

I'd honestly save your judgement and deal with your own dogs aggreaive tendencies

Am curious .. do have any unreasonable bias ? ?  ? . ..  I know that I do and I am not proud😂
DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:40

Ah cross post there. Glad yours wears a harness. Yellow is more visible. The rest still stands. Go educate yourself because you are anything but educated in dog breeds and traits.

BeneathYourWisdom · 15/05/2021 19:42

Your uneducated about the breed you have and the breed you are talking about and notably didn't answer whether you have a warning harness

Interesting choice of source 😂 Note it refers to staffies only not bull breeds and doesn’t mention dog aggression! Yes GSD are alert and excellent at guarding property, and they can be mouthy and nippy as pups, but easily trained out of it. Unless you’re a police dog handler then your GSD will be trained to bite as part of its job.

I’m well educated about both breeds thanks.

DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:43

You're also 😅

DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:46

You really aren't.

BeneathYourWisdom · 15/05/2021 19:51

I'd honestly save your judgement and deal with your own dogs aggreaive tendencies

Working with a dog-reactive rescue is an ongoing process. Most owners (myself included) pour time and money into training. But there’s only so much you can do. Some dogs will always need to be on leads in public. A dog who has been attacked several times by bull breeds may never get over that trauma. They may never relax around bull breeds and maybe they have a point?

The only way to deal with the illegal cross breeding of staffies is to ban all bull breeds or tighten up licensing so all bull breeds must be registered, chipped, securely housed and walked on leads at all times.

DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:51

A simple Google search will correct your unfair bias. I would link other sites but I don't think it would change your mind. You're wrong though.

DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:54

I'm no talking about "bull breeds" as a whole. Just staffies.

DottyDoom · 15/05/2021 19:57

I can only apologise for my typos, I'm in hospital and on alot of morphine. I'm no doubt falling into a multiple of these bias posts right now. Drug induced Blush

MrsMackesy · 16/05/2021 08:30

[quote BumCat]@MrsMackesy could be worse, could let your child eat in the supermarket like me. 😂[/quote]
I have done in the past, BC, I have done - if needs must, but I've never smoked or vaped so I pray that mitigates my faux pas down a bit! I judge your name by the way, and I like it!

MrsMackesy · 16/05/2021 08:32

@DottyDoom

I can only apologise for my typos, I'm in hospital and on alot of morphine. I'm no doubt falling into a multiple of these bias posts right now. Drug induced Blush
Take care, pp Flowers
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/05/2021 08:53

@coffeefi, relative of a colleague would never dress her toddler dd in anything but upmarket and expensive.

When the child was 3 her GM took her shopping and in an ‘ordinary’ shop saw a sparkly jumper she thought a 3 year old would love.

The child looked down her nose and said, ‘I only wear designer.’ Three!. Would be funny if it wasn’t so appalling.

I later heard that the DM of that child was sponging off her own mother because they were in debt and couldn’t pay the bills.

evtheria · 16/05/2021 08:58

@askingrandomsonlinemighthelp

The way protesters dress (e.g. Extinction Rebellion). I usually agree with them. I'm a vegan, leftie, rad fem. But, the way they dress with their cheesecloth layers and green dreadlocks and bells on their toes and mooncup earrings means nobody will listen to them. Say what you have to say without setting up meditation tents and dancing around with tin whistles and rollies. Take your nose ring out, you're on the fucking telly! You don't look like you're talking any sense. You look like you believe in crystals and fairy folk. Nobody will listen to you. It's a pity it's like that, but it IS, so dress the part and leave the dreamcatchers at home for the weekend.
Laughing at how true this is, luckily in Mcr there seems to be a healthy proportion who dress like Lake District walkers.
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/05/2021 09:03

I will confess to internal wincing when anyone spells an ordinary plural with an apostrophe + s - story’s, baby’s, party’s, etc.

And I do wonder whether despite very likely crap schools/hopeless teachers, they ever read anything - they surely must? - and don’t notice that it’s not how you make the plural of a noun ending in y.

I dare say some are down to sodding autocorrect, but I doubt that that’s the majority.

AliTheMinx · 16/05/2021 10:06

Oh yes! I can't help myself. Pet peeves:

Poor grammar
Parents with no interest in their children's education
Parents who allow children to be glued to devices in restaurants and don't interact with them at all
Bad manners
Tattoos
People who say "kids" instead of "children"
People with ghastly fake eyebrows/overly long nails
People who wear football clothing when not playing football
People who frequent betting shops
Vaping/Smoking
Young children with pierced ears
People who don't iron clothes that clearly need to be ironed
Greying whites
People who watch Mrs Brown's Boys
People who don't say thank you for gifts
People who allow rubbish to pile up in their cars
People who consider they have good general knowledge/are good at quizzes because they read the celebrity columns in red tops
People who read red tops
Unpainted toenails
People who don't dress smartly for interviews
Lager-drinkers
People obsessed with Primark
Chavvy names
People who wear white socks (unless playing sport)
People who wear too much jewellery (rings on every fingers/multiple chains)
Board game geeks
People who don't switch the television off when visitors arrive
Protestors/Strikers
People studying for totally pointless degrees in ridiculous subjects...

DewDropsonKittens · 16/05/2021 10:14

I instantly dislike loud people. If someone walks in a room and is disruptive with their loudness I am irritated and will not warm to them.

NewlyGranny · 16/05/2021 10:19

People who ignore case and say "So and so and I" when it should be me! E.g. Elizabeth to Joy in the Archers last week, "This is a present from Russ and I, to say thank you," and the Any Answers presenter all last week in the trail for the follow up that came on at 1.45.

Badly done, BBC, badly done!

lazylinguist · 16/05/2021 10:19

I do judge people who use poor spelling and grammar, because I believe that those who have a specific learning difficulty check what they’re writing far more.

It is a very naïve and privileged view to think that having a learning difficulty is the only involuntary or forgivable reason why someone might have poor spelling and grammar.

Chunkymenrock · 16/05/2021 10:29

It's not unreasonable but I judge people who write none when they mean non. Two very different words, meanings and sounds.

Indecentobsession · 16/05/2021 11:39

@GoodbyePorpoiseSpit

I judge your/you’re used incorrectly. I know it makes me a dick. I get grammar wrong all the time which makes this a double dick move. I can’t help it - when I see it.... I think the person writing it is a fool and have to remind myself that WHAT people have to say is a billionty times more interesting and important than thei
I could have written this! You're/your gives me the rage. Your username has reminded me I need to watch Muriel's Wedding again.... You're (your Grin) terrible Muriel...
LST · 16/05/2021 11:43

@AliTheMinx

Oh yes! I can't help myself. Pet peeves:

Poor grammar
Parents with no interest in their children's education
Parents who allow children to be glued to devices in restaurants and don't interact with them at all
Bad manners
Tattoos
People who say "kids" instead of "children"
People with ghastly fake eyebrows/overly long nails
People who wear football clothing when not playing football
People who frequent betting shops
Vaping/Smoking
Young children with pierced ears
People who don't iron clothes that clearly need to be ironed
Greying whites
People who watch Mrs Brown's Boys
People who don't say thank you for gifts
People who allow rubbish to pile up in their cars
People who consider they have good general knowledge/are good at quizzes because they read the celebrity columns in red tops
People who read red tops
Unpainted toenails
People who don't dress smartly for interviews
Lager-drinkers
People obsessed with Primark
Chavvy names
People who wear white socks (unless playing sport)
People who wear too much jewellery (rings on every fingers/multiple chains)
Board game geeks
People who don't switch the television off when visitors arrive
Protestors/Strikers
People studying for totally pointless degrees in ridiculous subjects...

Don't you sound charming.
LagunaBubbles · 16/05/2021 11:51

people who dont open their curtains. Or half open them at strange angles . Makes me feel irritated

Judge all you want obviously but what I don't get is why you care about what others do in their own house? Confused

flaminjo · 16/05/2021 15:27

@AliTheMinx

I judge you to be a middle aged snob

Puffalicious · 16/05/2021 15:30

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

I will confess to internal wincing when anyone spells an ordinary plural with an apostrophe + s - story’s, baby’s, party’s, etc.

And I do wonder whether despite very likely crap schools/hopeless teachers, they ever read anything - they surely must? - and don’t notice that it’s not how you make the plural of a noun ending in y.

I dare say some are down to sodding autocorrect, but I doubt that that’s the majority.

I can assure you that despite EXCELLENT teaching and an EXCELLENT school I have taught many, many pupils who cannot grasp the concept of apostrophes. Not everyone has a higher order understanding of language: their strengths will lie elsewhere.

As an English teacher it irritates me in the written word if it's a professional document/ printed in the public eye, but I work with pupils in areas of multiple deprivation and for some of these children even being in the building takes Herculean strength and effort. It's not always lack of will. Check your privilege.

Puffalicious · 16/05/2021 15:31

[quote flaminjo]@AliTheMinx

I judge you to be a middle aged snob [/quote]
Ditto