Guests bringing dog to stay

[Vetyveriohohoh]

As a dog owner, if you were going to stay at someone’s house would you assume your dog would go to? Would that change if the house you were visiting also had their own dog?

DH and I disagree... need outside help please

My in-laws would never come here without their dog. They have never asked us about it. This was before we also had a dog. And after we had a dog. But I've never really questioned it tbh.

I would ask friends if my dog was welcome before brining her to anyone's house though.

No, my in-laws took care of our dog, when they were we boarded him.

*when they were away

I don't have a dog but if I even invite anyone who has a dog I assume the invitation includes their dog. I'd probably mention it just to be clear but I generally assume dogs come with them same as children.

I’d never known anyone turn up with their dog untill I met a family friend of Dhs who insists on it and then my jnlaws who at every anti pet actually let her. The mind baffles but then again she insists on being treated like family must be in the family wedding shots etc so overall rather entitled.

We never took out dogs to others house and never have others dogs in our house.

As a dog owner I'd never expect to take my dogs with me to someone's house even for a few hours let alone overnight r even if it was family.

One of my dogs with me to my parents though because their dog absolutely adores him and so do my parents.

My sister is an ‘assumer’ and never asks, she just turns to with her dogs. I’m used to it now but the first time I was a bit shocked that she didn’t even ask - especially as I have cats!

No I wouldn’t assume they were invited.

**I have a cat. Massively entitled relative told me I should put my cat in the cattery when they came to visit as their (uninvited) dog was too precious to be put in kennels.

I would be incredibly fucked off if people assumed they could just turn up with their dog, even before I got a cat. Discuss it, acknowledge that some folk just don't 'do' dogs, and be prepared to have to make alternative arrangements for Fido if it doesn't suit your host. Isn't that one of the considerations of dog-ownership?**

How rude. That would really annoy me, especially as I have 3 cats and my DH is allergic to dogs as well, and my friends and family know this.

I'd always check - especially if they had a dog.

Mine can't cope with being in a confined space with other dogs so he wouldn't be coming if there was another dog, and I appreciate the other could have issues. If both host and visiting dog were mild mannered souls I'd be a bit if the visiting dog wasn't allowed though.

A close friend has just bought a puppy and I am dreading this issue arising.
We have no pets, a baby and a toddler. I am of the firm belief that animals and small children do not mix. Others may think differently but I am firm on this.

Said friend lives several hours south and has a holiday home several hours north. I am absolutely dreading her asking to bring the dog to stay.
Aside from safety, I know that it chews furniture and has, in her words, ruined their carpet. That's what puppies do, I guess. I just don't want it in our home.

Nope! I assume my dog is not invited and have that discussion with the would be hosts.

I don't have pets but when I invite friends or family to stay who have dogs then I assume they'll be bringing them. I like dogs and I like dogs visiting though. I don't think I'd invite people with dogs to stay if I didn't want their dog to come too, seems weird to invite them and then say oh but you have to leave your dog with someone.

I’m a big dog fan. If someone has a dog and I invite them to stay I’ll make sure they know dog is welcome. I have a large clingy rescue dog. No way am I spending a night away from him - he’d be heartbroken if I left him with friends let alone put him back in kennels. I wouldn’t turn up with him unannounced though (unless at my parents who’d expect him). I’d just decline and say it’s because dog. That’d allow invitee to either say he’s welcome or oh of course, no problem.

@LadyWhistledownsQuill

I'd always check - especially if they had a dog.

Mine can't cope with being in a confined space with other dogs so he wouldn't be coming if there was another dog, and I appreciate the other could have issues. If both host and visiting dog were mild mannered souls I'd be a bit if the visiting dog wasn't allowed though.

I ought to add that while visiting dogs are now a non starter due to DDog's issues, before him I would have been THRILLED if someone brought their dog to stay as I was a dogless dog person. Dog on the sofa? Absolutely, so long as I get a bit of a cuddle!

Yes I think a polite way is ‘thanks for the offer to have us to stay but we can’t leave our dog’

Then host can say ‘oh that’s a shame or ‘bring the dog’. The host feels under no pressure.

No assumptions or rude ‘can I bring my dog?’

Genuine question: who is responsible if the dog damages the host's property?
I am thinking scratch the couch badly etc.

Would the host have to suck it up, or would the dog owner pay, even if it meant spending £££ on a new couch/other furniture/carpet.

What if the dog bit someone? Would the host report it of let it go?

I think it could be a minefield.

@Liverbird77
Those are strange questions. Presumably if you're inviting people to stay at your house then you're reasonably friendly with them and can sort things out between you?

It's a bit like asking who is responsible if a visiting toddler damages your property.
And if you saw parent hit a visiting child in your home would you report it?
Which would be a weird response to toddlers visiting people's homes!

Not strange at all. If you look up thread a bit, you'll see my previous post. I have a feeling that the friend I was talking about might just turn up with her new dog, to stay over en route to her holiday home.

I would have no intention of ever inviting anyone to bring a dog into my home.

I was just wondering what others thought. If I was the dog owner in the situation I had described, I would feel morally compelled to pay for any damage.

It would be just the same with a toddler. If my child goes i to someone's home and breaks/ruins something then I would pay to put it right. That's what I would expect also.

@Liverbird77

It would be just the same with a toddler. If my child goes i to someone's home and breaks/ruins something then I would pay to put it right. That's what I would expect also.

Well yes, that's how I'd expect reasonable people to behave. Some people don't though, and wouldn't pay for damage done by a toddler. Would you then use that as an argument for people never inviting toddlers to their house?

All dogs and owners are different. Luckily all the people I know well enough to stay at my house would be reasonable enough to take responsibility for their dogs, who are all well trained and lovely. Some visiting dogs have caused minor damage because they're dogs, but it's usually 50/50 who's to blame (half the time it's because I forgot to put something out of reach) and we just sort it out.

I'm sorry your friend wasn't so reasonable.

I would go on the assumption that my dogs aren't invited unless otherwise stated. I couldn't imagine just turning up with my dogs.

Same as when we invite others over. If their dog is welcome, we specifically say 'feel free to bring your dog if you prefer'. I would be astounded if someone turned up on our doorstep with a dog without at least checking with us.

you should always ask first if you want to bring your dog to someome elses house, I , personally am not a dog lover so would not be pleased if a dog came, few years back our brother in law brought his dog without us knowing, the dog ran in, chased the cat then careered into the back garden and promptly left us a present, I was not pleased