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Cat got run over [Content warning added by MNHQ - graphic description]

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bettertimesareacoming · 11/05/2021 06:00

Hi I am just wondering if you all think I am being unreasonable. My partner seems to think I am and lost patience with me lastnight telling me this stuff happens all the time and it's just a cat .

Coming home from shopping lastnight and I see a few people at the side of the road . I noticed it was a cat and as I drove closer it was covered in blood . I jump out and ask what happened and they said a man had drove over him and drive off . They didn't know what to do with him but picked him off the road .

I grabbed a towel and picked him up and took him in the car . He was covered in blood and screaming . The smell of the blood was horrific. I was phoning around vets and finally found one half hour away . All I could hear was the cat struggling to breath the whole way . Finally got him to the vets and when they picked him up I noticed the extent of the injuries . He had been hit on the head and the force had knocked his eyes out and broke his jaw . He was crying and his mouth was in hell of a mess . I just broke down . They asked if I wanted to stay and I did .

The bet took a look and said the best thing to do was to pts but it was my decision. I said yes . No one has come forward saying this cat is theirs. I have been asking around all night .

It has really shock me up . I'm still a mess in work now . I can't stop thinking of the suffering he went thought and what kind of person does that and drives off ! I just feel so upset and can't snap out of it .

Stupid question really because I am an animal lover but is it normal to feel the way I am ? I felt guilty all last night because I could see I was doing my partners head in being upset .

I spent over an hour cleaning all the blood and fur out of my car too . So getting in it this morning made me worse !

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swiftt · 11/05/2021 06:03

Oh gosh, that sounds really awful. I feel a bit upset just reading your post, so can only imagine how traumatised you must feel. I think your partner is being very insensitive. I don’t think you’re over reacting at all in how you’re feeling about what happened. Hope you feel better soon. The poor wee mite isn’t suffering anymore at least, and you did everything you could to try and help. I’ll never understand how anyone could do that and just drive off.

GoddessKali · 11/05/2021 06:05

Yes it’s perfectly normal, you’ve just been through a horrible incident.
My cat was run over 8+ yrs ago, I can still recall the smell of blood and his injuries too - I agree it’s horrific and stays with you Flowers

MishMashMummy · 11/05/2021 06:05

I’m so very sorry. How traumatic - not at all surprising you’re very upset. How lucky for the cat that you were there to show some compassion at the end and to ease its suffering.

I really hope you’re ok - this was a horrible experience and it’s completely understandable that it has caused you so much distress.

Woeismethischristmas · 11/05/2021 06:10

Worth remembering that legally he’s done nothing wrong. Morally questionable but so is letting your cat take its chances roaming the busy streets.

I say that as a cat slave.

Elai1978 · 11/05/2021 06:10

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Levrierssontmeilleurs · 11/05/2021 06:11

Not unreasonable at all. Thank you for taking him to a vet

Josette77 · 11/05/2021 06:15

You are lovely. That sounds horrific and I'm so glad you were them there for them. I wish I could bring you flowers and tea. You are kindhearted. The world needs more people like you.

SherryPalmer · 11/05/2021 06:17

I feel sorry for the cat (and you for having to go through that). I don’t understand why people let their cats roam the streets when they don’t have any road sense. Is it really worth it. Are free-range cats really that much happier than those in a cat-proofed garden/indoor cats?

AlmostSummer21 · 11/05/2021 06:20

((((HUG))))

That was lovely of you to look after the cat like that, you were brave, kind & compassionate. You did all the right things.

Your 'partner' on the other hand is a horrible twat and he'd no longer be my partner.

Take care of yourself & try to talk to a friend/colleague who has a bit more understand & compassion than your 'partner' 💐

BakedBeansBang · 11/05/2021 06:21

Of course you will feel traumatised after seeing such horrific injuries. I am a vet, and that image would have stuck with me too. Well done for acting quickly. I think your partner is being very unreasonable.

Tossblanket · 11/05/2021 06:21

I don't think you're being unreasonable.

That sounds pretty horrific and I'm not surprised it's staying with you.

Take comfort that you did what was best for the cat.

IAmFleshIAmBone · 11/05/2021 06:21

Oh god, how horrible for you and the poor cat. You did a really kind thing taking him to the vet. I'll never understand why people let their cats roam free :( your partner is being unkind, I'd be inconsolable if this had happened to me. It's not 'just a cat'.

bettertimesareacoming · 11/05/2021 06:31

Thankyou all for the lovely comments . Actually started me off again 😌. What really wound me up is when I phoned him to say why I would be late coming home he started laughing and said it's just a cat ! He then text and apologised but I can't get that out of my head either . When the vet took him off us he was clinging on to us . I think it's because he felt safe . Obviously because of Covid I couldn't go in with him when they put him to sleep . I really wish I could of been . The man who hit him did know he done it there were people who seen him . He just drove straight off fast up the hill 😢. Thankyou again for all these comments ❤️

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bettertimesareacoming · 11/05/2021 06:32

@BakedBeansBang

Of course you will feel traumatised after seeing such horrific injuries. I am a vet, and that image would have stuck with me too. Well done for acting quickly. I think your partner is being very unreasonable.
❤️ I actually don't know how you deal with things like this on a daily basis . I was thinking that lastnight at the vets . Thankyou for everything you do ❤️❤️
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shewalkslikerihanna · 11/05/2021 06:34

I’m so sorry.
I would be devastated too.
It’s not just a cat. It’s a being that’s suffers pain and has been seriously injured.
Poor puss.
Thank you for helping it in its hour of need.
Poor puss.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 11/05/2021 06:35

“I felt guilty all last night because I could see I was doing my partners head in being upset.”

It sounds like you had a very normal reaction to a horrible experience.
What isn’t normal is your partner’s lack of empathy and the fact that he was annoyed you were upset, instead of comforting you.

UsedUpUsername · 11/05/2021 06:41

Your reaction is absolutely normal and good on you for caring for the cat in it’s last moments. Pity you couldn’t have been there when it was PTS 😥

Your partner OTH is really off, you had an unpleasant, visceral experience and he can’t even sympathise with you

KaleSlayer · 11/05/2021 06:42

You sound lovely OP. You did a kind thing helping the cat and he’s not suffering any more now. I would say what you are feeling is very normal, I’d be very distressed by this.

The driver is a cunt. Just because you don’t legally have to help, you’d have to be a heartless bastard not to help a living creature who is suffering in this way.

And your partner doesn’t sound very kind. I wouldn’t want a partner that didn’t care about animals. But also, regardless of whether he doesn’t care about the cat, you are upset and he doesn’t seem to care. That’s not a good trait in a partner.

AnUnoriginalUsername · 11/05/2021 06:45

You did the right thing and I'd be worried about the mentality of a person who can see something like that and not be upset by it.

Elai1978 · 11/05/2021 06:47

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picturesandpickles · 11/05/2021 06:49

Your reaction is understandable, I'd be quite Hmm Sad to find out my partner was so heartless.

Take care for the next couple of days, while the shock wears off.

IAmFleshIAmBone · 11/05/2021 06:50

It's possible that the driver didn't notice, or wasn't able to stop. I like to think most decent people will stop for any animal if they are able to.

KaleSlayer · 11/05/2021 06:52

Not really, I wouldn’t stop for a rabbit, squirrel or a bird either.

Like I say, the driver was a cunt. Just like anyone else that would leave an animal suffering. You sound a bit too proud. You do you though.

lollipoprainbow · 11/05/2021 06:58

@Elai1978 you sound delightful.

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