Cat got run over [Content warning added by MNHQ - graphic description]

[bettertimesareacoming]

Hi I am just wondering if you all think I am being unreasonable. My partner seems to think I am and lost patience with me lastnight telling me this stuff happens all the time and it's just a cat .

Coming home from shopping lastnight and I see a few people at the side of the road . I noticed it was a cat and as I drove closer it was covered in blood . I jump out and ask what happened and they said a man had drove over him and drive off . They didn't know what to do with him but picked him off the road .

I grabbed a towel and picked him up and took him in the car . He was covered in blood and screaming . The smell of the blood was horrific. I was phoning around vets and finally found one half hour away . All I could hear was the cat struggling to breath the whole way . Finally got him to the vets and when they picked him up I noticed the extent of the injuries . He had been hit on the head and the force had knocked his eyes out and broke his jaw . He was crying and his mouth was in hell of a mess . I just broke down . They asked if I wanted to stay and I did .

The bet took a look and said the best thing to do was to pts but it was my decision. I said yes . No one has come forward saying this cat is theirs. I have been asking around all night .

It has really shock me up . I'm still a mess in work now . I can't stop thinking of the suffering he went thought and what kind of person does that and drives off ! I just feel so upset and can't snap out of it .

Stupid question really because I am an animal lover but is it normal to feel the way I am ? I felt guilty all last night because I could see I was doing my partners head in being upset .

I spent over an hour cleaning all the blood and fur out of my car too . So getting in it this morning made me worse !

You are a wonderful person to help that poor little cat and I think it would be weird not to feel as upset and traumatized as you do. I know I would be exactly the same.

Firstly, thank you for taking care of that poor cat and getting him the help he needed.

Secondly, your reaction is very normal, you've been through a horrible experience and it's perfectly natural that you're upset about it.

Thirdly, your partner is being an arse. Whether he thinks it's 'just a cat' or not, it's upset you and he is being a dick about it. I'm not one to leap on the partner bashing but I would have serious questions about a
man who thinks the appropriate response to his partners obvious and understandable upset is to laugh and take the piss. Not a good trait in my mind.

YANBU

I would be the same. After our much loved cat died suddenly I cried every day for 2 months. I’m still sad. You sound compassionate and kind

Thank you so much for helping the cat and showing compassion.

I would have been upset as well, given that I am a cat slave.

Poor cat - you did a lovely thing OP & of course you’re upset. Those injuries sounded terrible. I agree with pp’s about your partner. You need someone to take care of you, not laugh at you & get annoyed! That’s awful!

I felt sick just reading your post.
Thank you for caring enough to take care of that cat. My cats are my babies, it would be my worst nightmare that this happened to one of them.
Regardless of whether someone is a cat lover or not, it's still a living animal and was clearly in pain. Your partner is heartless.

Poor kitty, thank you for doing what you could for him.

Your partner is an absolute dickhead. I‘m afraid I wouldn’t be able to look at someone the same way again if that was their reaction.

You poor poor thing OP, that sounds awful. My DH witnessed our get getting hit by a car and sustaining similar terrible head injuries a couple of years ago. He also rushed him to the vet in the car before having to make the decision to PTS. He was absolutely traumatised and the incident actually led us to move house to be further from a road. I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you did the best you could for that poor creature.

You can’t help how you feel. You tried to save him, it was emotionally very upsetting for you and maybe next time (if you stop) it would be best to assess the cats injuries at the roadside rather than rush him to a vet? If cat’s injuries are clearly incompatible with life and it’s screaming in pain I think it might be kindest to end its life there and then (provided someone had the knowledge/ tools to do so painlessly and humanely) or call a vet to the scene.

Legally I don’t think people have to stop if they hit a cat. Maybe the man didn’t notice he hit it?

My DH wouldn’t have been sympathetic either if I’d rushed someone else’s fatally injured cat to the vet and got the car full of blood and hair (actually he’d have been cross as he’s the sort of person who’d have dealt with it at the scene or found the owner to deal with it).

But you tried which is more than most would have done. Don’t feel bad about it.

It's absolutely normal to be upset by this.

Thank you for staying with him and taking him to the vet. Lots of people wouldn't bother.

You are lovely op. I would have done and felt the same. It's not just a cat, it has feelings. Sending you hugs

Your distress is completely understandable. It sounds awful

@bettertimesareacoming
The problem here is that your partner minimised and dismissed your distress and laughed at you whilst you were clearly upset. That tells you a lots about who unempathetic he is and how dismissive and unsupportive he is of your distress.
I'd honestly be rethinking the relationship

That sounds horrific, I would be deeply upset too. Your partner is shit

Thank you for caring for someone's beloved Dcat. It must have been so traumatic and you had no obligation to help but you did. I hope the owners come forward and they can take comfort that you were there for the cat and they were not alone. It would mean everything to me. Take all the time you need to process what happened.

Oh, and your DP is an uncaring arse. I'd be rethinking everything right now.

You did a kind and selfless thing, and it’s completely understandable that you’re upset.

I don’t think the driver can be blamed for not stopping, we have no idea what else was going on in that persons life that meant they couldn’t or didn’t want to stop at the time. There’s also not much point in them stopping unless they’d be prepared to have the cat in their car to find a vet, which many people understandably wouldn’t. It wasn’t their fault that they were put in this position and it is the risk that cat owners choose to take with their pets, so try not to be angry with the driver.

Your reaction is completely understandable. Even if the cat had died very quickly or you’d found him passed away it would be normal to be upset but you’ve witnessed something very traumatic and unpleasant. I’d be more worried if you weren’t affected by it!

Thank you for helping him and I’m sorry your partner is being so unsympathetic

If you can though, it might be worth editing your post to say it includes injury detail. I wasn’t expecting that and it’s genuinely made me feel a bit sick.
I might also just be overly dramatic though

@HalfTermHalfTerm I agree actually the detail was quite 'well-described'