Should I tell him about period??

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I feel very childish asking this!! Been with someone for around 6 weeks. He's coming over after work tonight and will stay the night - I'm on my period so don't really want to be intimate but I do want to see him.
Do I tell him before he comes over?

@aurynne

"I’ve bled through a super plus tampon and a maxi pad in 20 min before now. Plus clots. Some women bleed a lot, and perimenopause can make it worse. Anyway, you don’t need litres to ruin a mattress, a few tablespoons will do."

Surely if you bleed so much during your periods sex is not the only time you risk "ruining the mattress", you would regularly be bleeding on the sheets at night too?

Yes, and required a waterproof layer and towels under me on a regular basis as bleeding could be very erratic. It also limited my spending the night elsewhere, so I found it difficult to go on holiday. My point was that excessive bleeding is a good reason for not wanting sex during a period.

@aurynne

"I’ve bled through a super plus tampon and a maxi pad in 20 min before now. Plus clots. Some women bleed a lot, and perimenopause can make it worse. Anyway, you don’t need litres to ruin a mattress, a few tablespoons will do."

Surely if you bleed so much during your periods sex is not the only time you risk "ruining the mattress", you would regularly be bleeding on the sheets at night too?

Yep.

Bleeding through pad plus tampon, having to change several times in the night and still needing towel/mattress protector....

I think it’s sad when even women are unaware of how heavy and disabling periods can be. And just assume these women are just struggling to cope with body fluids/ashamed/prude etc...
Clearly more education is needed...

Btw @aurynne, before giving a lecture on how to have sex during your period, maybe read the posts of women who said No Way and WHY they said that.

Your list with 10 points when women have gone on heavy periods just shows you didn’t just not read posts but actually dismissed those women experience.
It’s crap imo.

Some people just don't want to, how weird people trying to persuade women they do. Ew.

The OP said in the OP “I don’t want to be intimate”. The End.

It is bullying behaviour to try to shame her (and others) by peddling the “prude!” line. I was accused upthread of “hating women” by being ashamed of periods. Utterly bizarre. People can be private, or just feel it’s not their thing, or be concerned about a huge flood, and that’s just fine.

What is not fine is telling people they are wrong and, worse, that it would be somehow letting down the man to not be up for it. Rather than sounding terribly modern and uninhibited, this sounds like the behaviour of a “all the other girls do it” desperate teenage boy from the 70s.