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Has anyone ever actually thrown their DP/DH’s clothes out of the upstairs window during a break-up?

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Heatingsystemwoes · 09/05/2021 09:44

AIBU to think this only happens on TV?
Same with cutting crotches out of trousers, cutting up suits and ties, spray painting his car etc...?
Just watched a film where the woman throws everything down from the window upstairs.
Do people do this? I’ve never seen anything like it IRL and wondered if it actually happens. What’s the worst you have seen/done?

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OwlBeThere · 10/05/2021 00:56

A colleague of mine dumped her cheating prison officer husbands belongs outside the gates of the prison he worked at.
She was the most quiet placid woman that just did not seem the type at all.
But it was in the local paper and everything.

Zarabethy · 10/05/2021 01:10

nc for this, was just thinking to myself how I rarely get angry, then I remembered...

...after 48 hours of no sleep feeding a newborn, my very verbally and emotionally abusive ex-DP came in one morning all refreshed and started on at me calling me names about something random (when he had spent all the previous day getting at me, and then had a nice 8hr unbroken sleep in between).

I was in such rage, and utter mad sleep deprived fury, that I picked up his treasured MacBook (which I had bought for him btw and which he loved more than anything else in his life), and I smashed it repeatedly to bits, then broke his expensive headphones in half and jumped on the pieces.

The MacBook did get mended and I have never done anything like that before or since, but the moment of utter satisfaction as I bashed that bloody computer on the floor and saw the panic in his eyes was worth millions. It was like living a scene out of a film and I've never regretted it Grin

Zarabethy · 10/05/2021 01:24

(and before anyone tells me how uncouth I was, try having a bf newborn baby, no sleep for 48hours, a still healing botched episiotomy and a man who wants to shout at you how much of a bitch and a mental crazy woman you are for two days straight for no reason at all, and you'd be stamping on his computer and headphones too. I think I might have been shouting something like "you want to see crazy? I'll give you crazy!"

I'm not proud of it, but I can't say I didn't enjoy the experience. Halo)

EKGEMS · 10/05/2021 01:55

@sammylady37 I think there's a massive difference between dignity and sanctimony and you're on the wrong side of the fence

MrsTroutfire · 10/05/2021 01:59

My crazy ex landlady cut up her ex husband's clothes with scissors and then took a shit on his bed (her account of what happened).

Sleepplease1111 · 10/05/2021 03:09

My ex returned some clothes of mine that were still in our jointly owned house and they all had 1 knife/scissors slash through them, I’m guessing his GF at the time did it to try and get him into trouble, they were the ones having an affair 🙈

bishbashbosh99 · 10/05/2021 03:11

Ya'll need to buy better jewellery if you can flush it or chew it 😂😂

Sillawithans · 10/05/2021 03:11

No, but I did throw his vagina sex toy at him across his office once. And he caught it lol Grin

Redrum2222 · 10/05/2021 05:23

No clothes but one Christmas when my dad came home pi$$ed again, mum tossed the Christmas tree and streamers (hanging xmas decorations) into the garden. I remember looking up in the sitting room and seeing bits of crepe paper on drawing pins where they had been! 😂

CandyLeBonBon · 10/05/2021 07:02

@Sillawithans

No, but I did throw his vagina sex toy at him across his office once. And he caught it lol Grin
Well THAT story needs more information!!! 😂
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Heatingsystemwoes · 10/05/2021 07:11

sammylady37
Superficial and low emotional intelligence to think there are better, healthier and more appropriate ways of dealing with hurt, anger and humiliation than airing dirty laundry in public, being undignified and losing one’s cool? Ok then 🤷‍♀️

There are many ways a person can show themselves up. Your judgmental attitude is one of them.

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sammylady37 · 10/05/2021 07:16

@Heatingsystemwoes

sammylady37 Superficial and low emotional intelligence to think there are better, healthier and more appropriate ways of dealing with hurt, anger and humiliation than airing dirty laundry in public, being undignified and losing one’s cool? Ok then 🤷‍♀️

There are many ways a person can show themselves up. Your judgmental attitude is one of them.

Fair enough if that’s your opinion Grin we can agree to disagree
LemonRoses · 10/05/2021 08:08

Yes. We’d just moved to somewhere 200 miles away for his work and were living over the job, literally. I’d a three week old baby and a toddler who had D&V. He wanted to impress in his new job and was probably a bit stressed too.
He was getting ready for his first day with new suit and tie and said he needed to go in early, so wouldn’t hold the baby whilst I showered quickly. We had big sibling rivalry so I was reluctant to leave toddler with the baby because she’d bite him.
He spotted his new boss arriving and rushed off to say Good Morning. I saw red and hurled some of his clothes out of the window and said I was moving back to our old town. His new boss helped him pick up his boxers and socks and sent him back upstairs to apologise and make the peace.
We laughed about it many times afterwards and no permanent harm was done to anyone. It was quite cathartic and actually got me very good local support quickly in the form of two secretaries with grown up families who be surrogate grandmothers. One of them appeared about an hour later with tea and biscuits and an offer to help sort the house out or take the children for a walk to the ducks. We loved living there after we’d settled to our new life.

Journeynotdestination · 10/05/2021 08:28

Finding my abusive now ex boyfriend had another girl at his house the night before, I went into a rage and threw his votive candle holders out of his bedroom window onto his patio, smashing them to smithereens, hurled gifts I bought him into his large garden and snapped the lovely house plants I’d bought for him in two. He showed more empathy for those broken plants than I’d ever seen him show me. Cheating, narcissistic, lying psychopath he was.

lanatolater · 10/05/2021 09:09

@MrsTroutfire

My crazy ex landlady cut up her ex husband's clothes with scissors and then took a shit on his bed (her account of what happened).
Brilliant!
HandlebarLadyTash · 10/05/2021 20:49

Stop with the poster bitching / bashing just leave the thread - Mumnet is great when it works but the in house nitpicking, slagging off playground mentality is appearing all the time.

CharDee · 10/05/2021 21:45

I did this once for a friend.

We had walked in to their 2nd floor apartment to find him having sex with some girl on their couch (it had been delivered that day which seemed to add insult to injury!) Friend stormed out, he chased her. I stayed and waited for this other woman to put her clothes on and leave, it was one of the most awkward moments of my life. Friend then called me and said he had caught up with her and they were having a coffee and that I was to bin bag as much as his stuff as possible and wait for further instructions.

So I did. Further instructions came. I can't remember the exact wording of the text but it was something along the lines of we're walking back now, take his stuff to the window and do your worst. I'll buy you a shot for every time you hit him.

He had left his keys behind when he chased after her so he couldn't even get back in. It was her dads flat anyway so he could hardly get in touch with the landlord! She just stood there as I threw 3 bin bags of clothes out and then she came back in. I remember feeling so shaken after it but she was just fine. She had a cry after about an hour of clearing more stuff and then said that she refused to get upset about it anymore.

She also arranged for her couch to be returned and swapped saying it looked a different shade online and she wasn't happy with it. Now whenever I buy a couch i worry that it may also be a "sex couch return" Grin

WeatherwaxOn · 10/05/2021 21:54

I knew someone who did. Cut all the arms and legs short then threw the lot out of the window. Ran over his mobile phone too.
He had dumped her for someone else, the day they got back from a luxury holiday.

Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 10/05/2021 21:56

I threw his wedding ring out the window. No regrets

Twofurrycats · 10/05/2021 21:58

When I was teaching in the 90's one of the children told me how their summer holiday had gone wrong and his mum threw all of his dad's clothes out of the guest house window.
In the 80's one of my dad's tenants threw his girlfriend out of the bedroom window! She was fortunately not seriously injured (and they stayed together).

Blacktothepink · 10/05/2021 21:58

I live on a big council estate and seen it many times 🙄

Blacktothepink · 10/05/2021 21:59

It’s interesting when it happens from the 10th floor of a tower block in high winds 😂

Youdoyoutoday · 10/05/2021 22:01

@Noidea2114

My male cousin was driving home and saw a fire in the distance. Arrived home and it was all his clothes on the fire. His wife thought he was cheating but in fact he was arranging a surprise party for her birthday. Hence the secret phone calls to the lady owner of a hall where the party was to be held.
OMG! What happened after?
Blacktothepink · 10/05/2021 22:02

A friend of mine absolutely trashed her ex’s flat, even slashing all his clothes and the bed...

FourTurnings · 10/05/2021 22:17

I emptied my exe’s clothes out of a bin bag onto his desk at work. He’d taken up with a woman at said work after much serial cheating. It wasn’t my finest hour (there were other scenes too) but I really was so angry, SO hurt and probably not in my right mind. I haven’t felt like that in many years I’m happy to say! And he was an arse*e - a total knob.