Has anyone ever actually thrown their DP/DH’s clothes out of the upstairs window during a break-up?

[Heatingsystemwoes]

AIBU to think this only happens on TV?
Same with cutting crotches out of trousers, cutting up suits and ties, spray painting his car etc...?
Just watched a film where the woman throws everything down from the window upstairs.
Do people do this? I’ve never seen anything like it IRL and wondered if it actually happens. What’s the worst you have seen/done?

I remember the wine delivery story

Our CEOs wife rocked up to HQ and proceeded to dump his clothes and belongings in front of the entrance to the building. That was quite the show, she’d really rammed the car full.
He’d been shagging a junior...

I did.
With an ex, when I was in my early 20’s. He finished it with no explanation. I threw everything I could out of the window. Wiped his computer and left it out in the rain.
He was a police officer.
We were sort of living together-it was my house but he’d moved some stuff in.

I still hate him to this day, 18 years on!

A workmates did and burned stuff on the front lawn (shes rather dramatic). Funny they are still.togther lol

I once poured a glass of water over a sleeping Ex after I found out he was cheating at about 2am. Chucked his shoes at him and told him to get the hell out. That's about as dramatic as it's ever gotten.

A bloke on my street did.
They were a one income household, she refused to work after getting married but had a healthy shopping and scratch card addiction.

One day he came home from work and just snapped, it was epic. The whole lot was thrown out the window along with her latest online food shop (( no one eats that much, the damn ocado van was there daily))
They divorced not long after. Thank God they didn't have kids or he'd have been stuck with her.

@MoesBar

I slashed the skins of an ex’s drums - I was 19 and he had been cheating on me with a friend, and one of my sisters friends. He fucking loved those drums and it would have cost a fortune to replace them He was an asshole in other ways too, I was young and daft.

That's criminal damage and you were lucky not to up before a magistrate. Then you would have known the exact cost of replacement.

Close family friend:

"Hear that?!? Its everything you own burning!!!"

Still together...

No. But I lobbed cheese crackers at him once - I was so angry. Then later realised I had a ton of cheese and no bloody crackers. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

I haven't but years ago at work our CEOs wife found out he was shagging his much younger PA (we all knew, it was blatant!). It was a small start up so everyone knew everyone, and we all socialised. We'd been to their very grand house for parties several times and his wife was lovely.

She arrived in the office car park, proceeded to whack the crap out of his very expensive car, and then emptied her car of bags and bags of his stuff which were all dumped in reception.

It was quite the show! I felt for her though as I said she was so nice and they had small children too. He was an arse!

Not surprisingly, he and the PA did not last long and she did very well out of their divorce. Good for her.

@HelloOldSport

Acting in anger is funny? Not in my world and as someone else pointed out, a man acting like the ‘funny’ posters here would be castigated on MN

Bollocks. If a man flung his cheating wife's stuff out the window, it would also be funny and deserved.

Not in my opinion. I’d find that behaviour erratic, undignified and uncouth, but each to their own 🤷‍♀️

Early 90's, I worked in a large open plan office with banks of desks. Around 8 people on each bank.
One Monday morning a woman stomped into the office carrying 3 or 4 black bin bags.
Marched up to a ladies desk and proclaimed loudly, "you're sleeping with him you can do his laundry. And the kids too, get used to it".
Dropped the bags next to the OW and marched out.
Stunned silence from us all.

@user1471447863

And if the genders were reversed?

Will no-one think of the poor men?! Seriously, one of the first accounts is from a woman whose boyfriend did this.

My MIL did this when she found out my FIL was having an affair with her friend. It’s not something I’d do, but he did deserve it. Really, she was better off out of that marriage though (FIL was abusive to her and their children for years) and nobody has any contact with him now, which is 👌

A long time ago a neighbour of mine did this on Xmas day. Everything went out of the front bedroom window and she slashed his tyres I'm guessing he had cheated on her. She was hanging out of the window shouting every name under the sun at him! I was 19 at the time in my first home and I had never seen anything like it before.

@Noidea2114

My male cousin was driving home and saw a fire in the distance. Arrived home and it was all his clothes on the fire. His wife thought he was cheating but in fact he was arranging a surprise party for her birthday. Hence the secret phone calls to the lady owner of a hall where the party was to be held.

What happened after this?

I wouldn't blame him for leaving her!

I did it. Then I ran downstairs, poured lighter fuel over them and set fire to them. He was stumbling around in a heroin and drink-induced daze, until he smelled the flames.

He was an abusive arsehole, he deserved it. Burned my hand a bit in the process, and most of the street was watching as he tried to fish stuff out of the fire and throw it at me as I dodged and laughed maniacally.

If it had been TV, it would have been unbelievable - like much of that relationship.

My sdds mum did this to her new partner after catching him cheating, clothes went out of the windows in front of the neighbours and the word cunt was scratched onto his new Range Rover sport. Good think we have always got on and not had any issues, as she is known for being very temperamental!

Neighbour smashed her husbands car with a hammer and chopped up their bed and threw it out of the window.
He'd been having an affair for ten years so was the least he deserved!!
She felt much better afterwards and we had a lovely bonfire with the bed and plenty of wine in the evening!!

I threw the dcs pyjamas out of the window because they refused to pick them up off the floor.

My ExH left after his affair came out. He came round some weeks later to see the DC and told me he had an STD and I would need to be tested. No big deal he said, probably just a urine sample. I was still in the depths of PND and utterly broken. I peed in a jug and poured some into the bottle of juice he’d left sitting while he played with DC. When he left he was swigging from it. I’m slightly horrified now by what I did but at the time it made perfect sense to give him his bloody urine sample 😱

Will no-one think of the poor men?!
Seriously, one of the first accounts is from a woman whose boyfriend did this

And the op’s response was “nasty little man”, whereas she finds the accounts of women doing similar and worse to be hilarious apparently.

I know someone who got home to find his wife who had just said she was leaving ( for her affair partner) having a bonfire of all his belongings, and I mean everything from toothbrush to his degree certificates, in their garden.

He filmed it, including her screaming and attacking him and the affair partner dancing around the fire, but he couldn’t bring himself to go to the police. He literally walked away, gave her the house and most of his pension (they had four children) and started again.

That's extreme, DaisyFeather - she was the one leaving him, why destroy all his belongings?

I remember a close friend telling me about his psycho OH pouring a Chinese meal over his flashy car ! She clearly must have been a nutter/psycho to do this