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Has anyone ever actually thrown their DP/DH’s clothes out of the upstairs window during a break-up?

210 replies

Heatingsystemwoes · 09/05/2021 09:44

AIBU to think this only happens on TV?
Same with cutting crotches out of trousers, cutting up suits and ties, spray painting his car etc...?
Just watched a film where the woman throws everything down from the window upstairs.
Do people do this? I’ve never seen anything like it IRL and wondered if it actually happens. What’s the worst you have seen/done?

OP posts:
sammylady37 · 09/05/2021 19:44

@CandyLeBonBon

Don't forget to polish your halo 😇**@sammylady37**
No halo here, I just don’t behave like a Jeremy Kyle show guest.
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Heatingsystemwoes · 09/05/2021 20:15

sammylady37

Wow.
Everybody has a story and there is a reason they are the way they are and behave the way they do.
You should think about that before you judge them. It's a superficial and shows poor emotional intelligence.

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lanatolater · 09/05/2021 20:16

My dad did this to my mum many many years ago when I was a child. I can recall now how ridiculous it looked at the time and still find it ridiculous now!

CandyLeBonBon · 09/05/2021 20:37

@sammylady37 good for you.
Hope you don't hurt your neck looking down at us from your height horse.

HelloOldSport · 09/05/2021 21:04

No halo here, I just don’t behave like a Jeremy Kyle show guest

I've never seen a JK episode where someone flings clothes from a window?!

sammylady37 · 09/05/2021 21:15

@Heatingsystemwoes

sammylady37

Wow.
Everybody has a story and there is a reason they are the way they are and behave the way they do.
You should think about that before you judge them. It's a superficial and shows poor emotional intelligence.

Superficial and low emotional intelligence to think there are better, healthier and more appropriate ways of dealing with hurt, anger and humiliation than airing dirty laundry in public, being undignified and losing one’s cool? Ok then 🤷‍♀️
CandyLeBonBon · 09/05/2021 21:24

@sammylady37 it takes a fair amount of emotional intelligence to realise that sometimes, in spite of our best intentions, circumstances and situations don't always result in the ability to react calmly. Great for you, if you can. Not everyone can, because we're not all robots who can program our emotional responses.

Judging people for reacting in a way that you wouldn't, shows a singular lack of empathy and a fairly inflexible attitude that comes across as cold and superior.

Lachimolala · 09/05/2021 21:29

My across the road neighbour did this once! It was bank holiday Monday and highly entertaining. No idea what he'd done. Nice bloke, according to the locals. He came back a few days later for his guitar

I wonder if this is me? He did come back for his guitar a few days later. Confused

All the neighbours thought he was lovely too, in reality I got sick of him abusing me behind closed doors both physically and emotionally. The final straw was waking up to him touching me in my sleep, wish I’d thrown his things harder and broken them tbh.

CandyLeBonBon · 09/05/2021 21:30

@Lachimolala

My across the road neighbour did this once! It was bank holiday Monday and highly entertaining. No idea what he'd done. Nice bloke, according to the locals. He came back a few days later for his guitar

I wonder if this is me? He did come back for his guitar a few days later. Confused

All the neighbours thought he was lovely too, in reality I got sick of him abusing me behind closed doors both physically and emotionally. The final straw was waking up to him touching me in my sleep, wish I’d thrown his things harder and broken them tbh.

Wouldn't that be bizarre if this was you?! GrinShock
Lachimolala · 09/05/2021 21:36

I don’t think I’d know whether to laugh or cry @CandyLeBonBon lol!

Treacletoots · 09/05/2021 21:46

When I was a teen, my boyfriend at the time decided to move in his new boyfriend, telling me a bunch of lies about how they were just 'friends'. Whilst I was desperately trying to sell the house and get away from him he and his 'friend' proceeded to eat and drink everything in the house whilst not paying for anything. So, I did what any pissed off teenager would do and mixed fybogel into the orange juice in the fridge.

That stopped the fuckers from eating my food Grin

hattiecattie · 09/05/2021 21:50

I threw my engagement ring down the toilet and flushed. Threw his clothes out in the close where he was standing. He had been cheating on me for 6 months.

Whanganui · 09/05/2021 21:55

Of course. I threw the clothes out of the upstairs window many times, we were in a flat though. After the final break I cut small holes in his every pair of his underpants, slashed his fave suit up the back, cut one arm clean off, & did the other at the elbow, took just a few inches of the one trouser leg, & took the other off at the knee. It felt so good. I did so much more too, & told my story & got paid for it, of course I remained anonymous.

Whanganui · 09/05/2021 21:59

Oh I forgot about chewing the rings up in a drunken rage 😊. It was so embarrassing taking them to the jeweler & saying that the dog (that I hadn’t got) had done it.

Lemonlady22 · 09/05/2021 22:02

My husband came home from work and found the boxer shorts from the day before in a bush by the front gate. Hasn't left dirty clothes on the floor since

Wizzbangfizz · 09/05/2021 22:05

My best friend did something similar - cut up All his best suits and smothered them in food stuffs then threw the bin bag at him when he arrived. A few nights later she was cautioned by the police for criminal damage!

CandyLeBonBon · 09/05/2021 22:06

@Whanganui

Oh I forgot about chewing the rings up in a drunken rage 😊. It was so embarrassing taking them to the jeweler & saying that the dog (that I hadn’t got) had done it.
Chewing the rings??? What rings?? How? So many questions!
dancinfeet · 09/05/2021 22:09

I filled my ex's favourite shoes with a greasy spicy african fish condiment . I also did not make any attempt to save the x box when our 4 year old DD accidentally spilt orange juice on it. He was cheating.

DaenerysD · 09/05/2021 22:09

Back in mid 80's my Dad threw all my Mum's belongings in bin bags after ranting and swearing about the fact she was leaving him. Straight onto the front driveway from their master bedroom.
I'm 49 and still remember so much detail. 😢

dancinfeet · 09/05/2021 22:12

Also put a bag of open prawns at the back of the divan drawer. He got a new bed a few months later.

Greygreenblue · 09/05/2021 22:12

My mate tried to break up with a woman after only a few weeks/dates. She climbed on his car and jumped around in her heals denting it.

cocacolacastleoflurve · 09/05/2021 22:22

Now from the top, make it drop, that's a WAP. Get a bucket and a mop, that's a WAP.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 09/05/2021 23:48

My across the road neighbour did this once! It was bank holiday Monday and highly entertaining. No idea what he'd done. Nice bloke, according to the locals. He came back a few days later for his guitar

He was obviously very upset, and not everybody can sing the blues unaccompanied.

Felifox · 10/05/2021 00:30

The council converted a house opposite into two flats. The downstairs tenant was supposed to be unstable but the family upstairs were the problem. They had an argument and the furniture got thrown out of the upstairs window. He wasn't allowed back by the council.

Mintsmints · 10/05/2021 00:48

A house on my estate I was walking past and clothes and everything else including a tv was thrown at the window.