Has anyone ever actually thrown their DP/DH’s clothes out of the upstairs window during a break-up?

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AIBU to think this only happens on TV?
Same with cutting crotches out of trousers, cutting up suits and ties, spray painting his car etc...?
Just watched a film where the woman throws everything down from the window upstairs.
Do people do this? I’ve never seen anything like it IRL and wondered if it actually happens. What’s the worst you have seen/done?

I once saw this in action in Paris. Couldn't help but stand and stare. The woman was topless too!

There's also a block of flats I go past on the train that has men's clothes hanging in the tree outside. Would like to know what went on there!

I haven’t, but I did sell his new Levis on eBay for £30.

Years ago, the couple who lived in flat opposite did this. They were one of those really annoying couples who couldn’t seem to live with or without each other. Regular fighting, which the whole street could hear, followed by loud sex. Scratching his car, locking him out and having him shouting outside for hours to be let in. Chucking his things out the window at least monthly. Absolute nightmare! I saw them again about 8 years later and they were still together.

@user1471447863

And if the genders were reversed?

Well the OP is about DPs/DHs because this is Mumsnet. (Mums tend to be women). Maybe ask on Dadsnet (is there such a thing?) for the male perspective?

I think men have their own vindictive ways of showing their anger towards partners during breakups. Towards those who who cheat or those who haven’t or just to make life unpleasant. This forum is full of such stories.

Those asking what is funny about it, It isn’t funny when a relationship breaks down obv. but it looks like people find all sorts of interesting/amusing ways to make themselves feel better about the situation.

I didn't no, but DP threw my at the time abusive bastard fiance's crap out of a third floor window from my flat
Safe to say, bin bags do not survive a third story fall when full of clothes. Who knew?

It's very effective in finalising that they no longer live with you

Anyone posting on here about their DH behaving in the same way would be told that he is a vile, dangerous abuser and needs reporting to the police immediately.

I disagree to an extent. If a man did this after his wife cheated I doubt she would get much sympathy.

When my exH left me for his OW after 25 years and 3 DC, I bin-bagged up his clothes after 3 weeks because he couldn’t be bothered to collect them, and left them on the drive. He said something twattish when he came by, something like ‘stop shouting, the neighbours might hear,’ and I lost my temper,, told him he had lost any right to tell me what to do and ripped up the bin bags and threw his clothes around the road between the drive and his car. I was shaking with anger and tears and while it was funny in retrospect, at the time I was furious and heartbroken.

A few weeks later I took his precious bike to his house on the bike rack and I hadn’t attached it securely enough. It fell off, which was really scary as it nearly hit the car behind. It was wrecked. I dumped it in his garden. I’m sure he still thinks I did it on purpose, but it was a complete accident.

During lockdown I almost got killed by a phone thrown from a window. My daughter loved the drama. Lockdown was very boring and she usually hated the walks ... but she told everyone about this!

I had chucked my cheating ex out of my flat. The weekend after me and my friends were packing his stuff up, including his copies of razzle we found stuffed round the back of the hot water tank. He'd moved straight in with his OW and it was only a few hundred yards away. Fuelled by cheap wine we walked round and threw the bin bags over her garden wall and threw the porn mags over one by one. Her dog was having a great time ripping them up all over the garden

Not done it myself but years ago on holiday, my mum and I sat on the balcony watching a woman launching her husband's stuff off their balcony into the pool below.

He'd been cheating if my memory serves me correctly. He was using the life saving stick thing to try and get his clothes out of the pool.

We still remember it fondly now 😂

@HelloOldSport

Lots indeed. Not sure why you think it’s funny though

Because it is funny

Acting in anger is funny? Not in my world and as someone else pointed out, a man acting like the ‘funny’ posters here would be castigated on MN.

DHs mother did this to DH (her son). He had the audacity to take a girlfriend out for the evening rather than staying in with his mother watching some shite on telly, so she chucked his stuff out the window and he had to sleep in the car.

@user1471447863

In answer to your post……..I watched my neighbours across the road have a blazing row. The husband lost his shit, went upstairs, flung open the bedroom window and emptied the entire contents of her lingerie drawers outside. Lacy knickers & pairs of tights floated gracefully down onto the ground & landed on the laurel bushes.

She was shagging the next-door neighbour but one.

I did but only about ten items! I was furious at the time, can't stop laughing now 😂

Does chucking his mobile down the toilet count? (It didn't survive)

@sammylady37

Wrong on both accounts - see my post above. He was right to throw her knickers out the window. She was a cheating piece of shit. And it was fucking hilarious

I cut the arms off a very expensive duck down coat, my friend arrived mid execution and the room was absolutely full of feathers, she thought I was murdering a bird 🤣🤣

Acting in anger is funny? Not in my world and as someone else pointed out, a man acting like the ‘funny’ posters here would be castigated on MN

Bollocks. If a man flung his cheating wife's stuff out the window, it would also be funny and deserved.

A few days after their honeymoon, our neighbour discovered her DH had began an affair on his stag weekend. He stood in the street and loudly listed why he blamed her for it. At this point they were both throwing his things in his car. Having already been drinking, he stomped off back to the pub.
He then repeated her ‘crimes’ whilst hammering on their door several hours later, only now it was also her fault he was drunk and that he’d lost his house, work and car keys. He was collected by a family member before the police arrived.
She was in our house with his keys at this point, he’d dropped them outside during his first rant. She calmly posted the key chain down the drain as she left our house!
He lost his job (already on several warnings, the key loss was the final straw) and without the fancy job the new woman ditched him.

About 9 years ago, I came back from my dog walk past my immediate neighbour's front door (cul de sac of flats with paths running along front of buildings). It was open and the path was bestrewn with articles of male clothing and a rucksack and there was a lot of shouting going on indoors. I had seen him previously walking up and down the forest path nearby with their dog, talking animatedly on the 'phone (where I had not previously seen him at all) so I guessed he had just been found out.

My parents did this to us children when the state of our rooms became awful (and no plates cutlery etc available in the actual kitchen). We’d come home from school and everything in our rooms would be in a big pile in the middle of the floor to be sorted out. Everything. Drawers emptied/shelves stripped etc. Only happened a few times but bloody hell the memory is huge. We called them ‘terror raids’. They both worked full time. I wonder if one of them took a day off specially.

Yes I did

Was more an over night bad for a few days as he hadn’t come home again

I left soon after. I should have left then.

I loved the drama when I was young but often that’s all it is. Now I would just pack my bags and go or ask them to cba with drama now

Best ever was ages ago now, but the cheated-on wife cut one leg off every pair of trousers of his many expensive suits, and then deposited a couple of bottles of his expensive wine on every doorstep in the village, alongside their milk. 😂

It made national news at the time.

I have witnessed it happen from a 2nd floor flat on a main road